This next subject I will write about is sensitive and I hope
I can write and . The candles up above are lit for all the Survivors of
this Heinous Crime..of..
DOMESTIC ABUSE
Domestic Abuse happens
every minute of every day and for most it goes un-noticed because of shame
and fear. It happens in so many different ways physical and mental abuse
are the most common ways of abuse. If only men could realize how much damage
they do to the one they love and if they have children what damage they
do to them also. If a child sees that that Daddy does this to Mommy then
it must be ok. Well I am hear to say that no one has the right to hurt
another person. there are cases where men are abused but not as many as
men abusing women. My hope for this page is that some man will see
this and realize that what he is doing is wrong and if he really loves
his partner he will seek help and stop this now!!
It all started with just
little pokes and taps what has been called "Love Taps" and went to slaps,
punches, kicks and pulling of hair. It was all about control . When they
first were going out George and Sally would pick on each other say little
insults and poking each other and what they thought were fun and were ok.
As time passed it seemed George's pokes and insults seemed rougher and
hurt more. Sally would tell George that it hurt and he would say he was
just fooling and he was sorry. Sally and George did get married and they
seemed so happy but one night they went out for some dancing and a little
drinking. While out a man asked Sally to dance and Sally politely said
no and thought nothing of it. Looking at George Sally noticed the he seemed
irritated so she moved closer to George to show he was the only man in
her life she wanted. They went home that night and Sally asked George what
was wrong and he said nothing was wrong but Sally knew better. For what
ever reason George was mad and they started to argue about that guy in
the bar. It was then that for the first time George slapped Sally and that
was the start of what was to come for Sally's life with George. That night
Sally dismissed that slap because George had been drinking and after all
he did say he was sorry. Sally thought maybe she did something to have
that guy ask her to dance. Time went on and so did the abuse and it seemed
it was getting worse but Sally couldn't leave george after all she had
a family and she didn't want to break up the family and she knew George
loved her in his own way. That was the problem it was George's way and
all about George. It seemed that George wasn't thinking of Sally or their
children. For years Sally endured slaps, punches,kicks and being degraded
continuously and Sally could not leave she feared for her life after all
George said if she ever left he would kill her. Sally feared for not only
her life but also the lives of her children. Sally did leave George a number
of times before but George always promised that it would never happen again
and Sally wanted so much to believe George because she was sure George
loved her in some way. One day after enough of all the abuse Sally waited
until George left for work she gather what belongings she needed and took
the children and left George. Sally had made up her mind enough was enough
and she felt she had the courage and the will to live to do it this time.
For the first time in such a long time Sally felt she had control of her
life something she gave up to George and she wasn't going to give that
up this time. George did search for Sally and once again told Sally he
was sorry and it would never happen again but this time Sally wasn't buying
that and never went back to George and George did seek help for his anger
and is doing better but will always live with the fact of what he did to
Sally and that she was the one person that truly loved him. Sally is alive
and well and in control of her life but still lives with the scars of this
horrible experience which will have an effect on any other relationships
she has but for the first time in her life she does have Control.
What so many people
do not realize is that Domestic abuse is so common and a lot of people
say "Well just leave" that isn't always as easy as that. Many women fear
for their life and many more think they can change things and some feel
that it will change. The truth is that unless their partner gets help it
will not change. The damage cause by this abuse will not just go away it
needs to be dealt with by talking to a professional and my hope is that
some day we can end this abuse.
Victims become Survivors
National Abuse Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE
Children at Risk Hotline 1-800-792-5200
Parental Stress Hotline 1-800-632-8818
First Call for Help
1-800-231-4377
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