Survey Says...............

We are constantly asked in our email for some new ideas for the following questions. I am happy and delighted by the response of these answers and thank all the people that agreed to the interview and wanted to share with us their ideas..Thank you so much!

We are NOT saying these answers we have are right or wrong. Please keep in mind also that each D/s person has different kinds of kinks. All are different so you may not agree on some things. They are just interviews from different people.

PS: other subs will be coming to you in the future with interview questions or you can email your responses. Please consider sharing. Thanks..

~MsTexAnn

Next question for the January issue will be: Your first IRC and D/s sexual encounter online, both vanilla and D/s. If you do not wish to talk to an interviewer, please feel free to email Amazons@hotmail.com with your answers. Put "Interview Question" in the subject line.

Amazons Reporter:

Hello I am a}tycobb and I wish to ask you to help me with an assignment I have been given by MsTexAnn. If you have a few minutes could you please look over these Questions and answer them for U/us.Now if you are asking who is a}tycobb I'll tell you. I'm the new m/34/channel sub in #Amazons.I wish to thank for your time right now, and hope you can get this back to me soon :)

There are going to be two catagories here. One will be real life, the other online only.

1. What is the best idea you have for punishment online?
2. What is the best idea you have for punishment Real life?
3. What are the best ideas for rewards online?
4. What are the best ideas for rewards real life?
5. What are the best training techniques you might have?

Davidious:

a}tycobb: hello Sir
Davidious: A real life punishment, hard spankings/floggings denial of orgasm...
Davidious: I tied my gf hand and foot in the bed... and slept beside her she couldn't touch me
Davidious: on one occasion...she was going on about something really dumb
Davidious: so I tied her to a chair... blind fold and gagged her... and left her there she wasn't out of my site until she calmed down
Davidious: another time she wasn't feeling *sexy* so I tied her up... propped her chin up so she had to look into a mirror until she felt better
Davidious: on one occasion...she was going on about something really dumb
Davidious: I make them feel good... and that they are never *less of a person*
Davidious: I also push them, so they know no matter how hard a take them, and no matter what I do.. that i love them... and treasure the submission they give.

LadyGrey:

LadyGrey: Well...I don't punish. So, I can't answer the first two questions.
a}tycobb: understood Maam
LadyGrey: For rewards I use scening, extra time with me, release.
LadyGrey: I don't know which is best.
LadyGrey: Same rewards in real life.
LadyGrey: The best training technique I use is a spiritual exercise I use to help slaves learn to meditate and how to be honest about their good qualities. I think it builds dignity, focus, and self-confidence.

Maryanne:

Maryanne: My thoughts on punishment are the same for online and RL. I have my sub keep a paddle near by. In RL, I spank her myself. In IRC, she does it for me. Any true sub will receive the punishment either way.
Maryanne: Rewards are also the same. The idea is to understand your sub well enough to know what makes them tick. A Dominant will learn to understand what brings pleasure to their sub and find ways to provide it for them.
a}tycobb : What is the best training techniques you might have?
Maryanne: I can't say I use any particular technique. I like to listen to the sub as I am working with them and notice the level of contentment or frustration they are experiencing. I make adjustments depending on what I sense. In RL, I mix training and discipline together. Proper response to training brings the sub pleasure in knowing that they are doing well...incorrect responses bring discipline.

mir{G}:

mir{G}: best punishment online is easy: being ignored, no icq, no talking, no email, nothing from Mistress
mir{G}: that kills
a}tycobb: I agree
mir{G}: best rewards online and r/l...easy: to continue serving Her
a}tycobb: i agree also :)
mir{G}: best punishment r/l...that's a difficult one, because you never know what the Dom/me and slave are compatible with, and it varies to the situation..again, most likely being dismissed
mir{G}: not that there IS a best there.

Nox:

Nox: Best punishment that I did online was: hhmmm...I'll skip the best one I did and do this....crawl....every time I was in a room with this sub, he had to be on his hands and knees...even for serves..he had to work it out how he could do it....he needed a reminder of who he was.
Nox: punishment should be situational
Nox: best punishment r/l
Nox: well..the worst one is dismissal
Nox: kneeling on uncooked rice.
Nox: that's the best punishment r/l.
Nox: best rewards r/l and o/l is the same...praise and a lot of it...or if the subbie has a specific kink..i.e. foot/shoe worship or whatever..indulging the kink.

MsBreeze:

MsBreeze: If a sub makes me angry or if he breaks a little rule and needs to be spanked.
MsBreeze: Because if he makes me angry online I ignore him.
MsBreeze: Same in R/L
a}tycobb: I've had a few others use that tecnique Maam.i think it would work
MsBreeze: I think so too.
MsBreeze: :)
a}tycobb: how about rewards now?r/l and on line Maam ?
MsBreeze: In real life a favorite activity is granted as well as online.
a}tycobb: :)
MsBreeze: My subbies tend to like to roam free.
MsBreeze: over me.
a}tycobb: :)
MsBreeze Touch at will and to be able to be treated to something...
MsBreeze: Like release
a}tycobb: ok one more Maam.What is the best training tecniques you might have?
MsBreeze: I always listen to subs.
a}tycobb: :)
MsBreeze: I give my considerees a free forum where they can express ideas without punishment.
MsBreeze: Usually email.
MsBreeze: They can say WHATEVER they want.
a}tycobb: :)
MsBreeze: Then I have a chance to absorb the ideas that they put out there and feelings about things.
MsBreeze: We don't speak of it later unless something was unclear.

TexAnn:

a}tycobb: bows thanking Ma'am for Her time
MsTexAnn: punishment on line is a simple ignore..Have them 5 to 10 min on ignore where they can't talk to you
MsTexAnn: real life I have none if acting bad I wouldn't be with them in first place
MsTexAnn: rewards on line to spend quality time with your sub with no querys or channel just you and them.
a}tycobb: yes Maam
MsTexAnn: and have them decide a scene
MsTexAnn: real life I have none to share
MsTexAnn: best techniques is
MsTexAnn: to have them make up a diary or a journal
MsTexAnn: to put their thoughts and ideas into it or any questions they might have to ask their dominant or trainer later.
MsTexAnn: sometimes one for them and one for the trainer
MsTexAnn: another idea
MsTexAnn: online is to make them write a bio for themselves to give to your trainers or future prospect dominants
MsTexAnn: real life I recommend they make a resume sort of listing the people they have scened with recommendations health history, associations associated with ect..

MsHoney:

a}tycobb: What is the best idea you have for punishment online?
MsHoney: I don't like to punish for something that either hurts, disappoints or angers me. For that kind of thing, communication is more important. To punish a sub for a communication breakdown accomplishes nothing. For something that turns into an undesirable habit or plain laziness or impudence, the punishment has to fit the sub.
MsHoney: Private infractions are dealt with privately, public infractions are dealt with publicly. An example would be to have the sub toss 2 dice and add the numbers. That is the amount of time they have to hold a ping pong ball to a wall with their nose r/l or stand in a corner for that amount of time. Serious punishments are unnecessary to me. That is where the relationship needs to be worked on outside the roles with plain talk, and again that important honest communication. The most effective of punishments is when a sub knows their Dominant is disappointed or unhappy with them.
a}tycobb: : What is the best idea for rewards online?
MsHoney: Positive reinforcement is a reward. The sub knowing that they have been responsible for pleasing me and causing my happiness with them. Sometimes I like to take them *out* for a little bit of fun indulging their kinkiest kink.
a}tycobb: What is the best training techniques you might have?
MsHoney: Depends on the sub and where they are at in their understanding of D/s. Training is individual for each Domme and never ends in my opinion. I remind the sub whenever I see some behavior that needs to be modified according to my needs. I also like to know that a sub is proud to be of service to me. If they are not, then we talk and try to discover what they are looking for and what in them needs to be fulfilled. It is a 2-sided relationship, not just one where the Domme commands a sub/slave to give without having anything given in return. Dom/me and sub serve each other. I try to get a sub to see that as important and consider their feelings in the relationship. If the sub is happy, they will work harder to see their Domme happy. To me, one of the most effective and painful training 'techniques' is to maintain the relationship thru adversity. This offers tangible proof of it's importance and strength. It demonstrates that the relationship is WORTH working for.
MsHoney: On a side note. It can be a fine line at times. The Domme has to be in control and not allow manipulation. The Domme can no more be a doormat for flagrant disregard of authority than a sub can be for abuse from a Dominant. There must be respect and honor from both sides. There must also be forgiveness and appreciation for the human side in both partners. This applies to both r/l and cyber.

Gr8_Gazoo:

Gr8_Gazoo: 1. depending on individual, and if that is what they are STRIVING for.. perhaps lashes on the rump (unless they want it) time out like for a kid is good, I like the public service concept, cleaning the room, serving everyone, doing kitchen duty, basically keeping them busy working and not have a chance to "play"
Gr8_Gazoo: 2 real life? hmm.. that gets interesting, a bit personal, and really varies depending on the circumstances.
Gr8_Gazoo: 3 rewards are to be served as a reward, subby of the day/week/month award, perhaps a little emblem they can wear with thier nick..
Gr8_Gazoo: praise and the opportunity to serve with honor are great rewards in my view.
Gr8_Gazoo: and 4.. rewards.. hm. perhaps, letting them be Dom/me for a day, see what the responsibility is like, night on the town, a good Doming session (by me) to them, in ways that I know they like Gr8_Gazoo: explanation of what is expected, one given example, and strict but loving "correction" if not done correctly the first time, (which of course, it could never be.. lol)
Gr8_Gazoo: if the sub can achieve perfection the first time out, it defeats all purpose and motivation in the existance of the sub.
Gr8_Gazoo: so quotes the great gazoo.. lol

tiggly:

tig: for number one.....my best ideal that is good for an oline punishment is to make them leave online totally....for "x" amount of time or to take a thimble and fill a bowl or bucket up with ice water...btw do this yourself in advance using hot or warm water so ya know how much thimbles and make sure they count it and you have an idea what the number will be...hehehhehehe sneaky i am i am...
tig: for another idea is to have a ruler close by and have them make a wav of them spanking themselves counting and thanking you for the swats. Have them write a paper that is 300 words long or more as to why they did what they did wrong and how to correct it
tig: for a reward online....spending extra time with the subbie or asking the subbie if he/she could pick something what would that...perhaps both parties renting the same movie and sitting down and watching it together while online sharing what parts they like best. Best reward for real life to let the person pick what they could do to feel closer to the Dom/me..is to do things like shave...or not shave...to get pierced or to wear a certian item...like a necklace or a charm...bracelet...just something special.
tig: the way i taught myself to serve...i sat down and took five coffee mugs five glass and described them in writing that the person seeing it can see it in their mind.
tig: Another thing is to think of ways you make flowers or another natural beauty to bring out the beauty fothe Dom/me...example ... a carnation...it is a simple flower...but the colors it portrays...is that of a rainbow. You shine up this submissive with many colors yet your are one...as we have many interests you still are only one person...UNIQUE in your one special way :o)) Like that...

Angel`Fox:

Angel`Fox: #1 Take something away from them...i.e: Like a phone call to the Domme...or an E-mail...
a}tycobb: yes Maam a}tycobb: i like that one Maam
Angel`Fox: #2 Well this depends on the slave, if he's a pain slut then do not scene with him for a period of time...or if he does not like pain spank him and whip him or don't let him cum for a period of time...
a}tycobb: ooooo
a}tycobb: yes Maam
Angel`Fox: #3 Give lots of praise...and give them a call or an extra e-mail...
a}tycobb: :)
Angel`Fox: #4 Give them lots of praise...take the chastity belt off for an extra day...
a}tycobb: i like that Maam :)
Angel`Fox: #5 Hmmm You must show them what to do...i.e: You must be specific with your orders, cause if they do it wrong but followd your instruction then it is your fault not the slave's...and always reward when they do get it right...:o)
Angel`Fox: is that all?
a}tycobb: thats all Maam :)
a}tycobb: thank you

Diabolic^:

Diabolic^: 1)force the submissive to go offline...NOT to come online whatsoever. Now most who are addicted to being online...that would greatly affect them 3)publically serve the submissive in the channel
Diabolic^: 4)let the submissive be in control...giving her the thrill of making the Dominant do whatever the submissive pleases

MissEve:

MissEve: Well online and real life I use ignore or lectures
MissEve: to punish
MissEve: Words, words of disappointment painted into a picture for a sub to see.. leaves a lasting sting, much more painful than any crop could inflict
MissEve: Remember, ty.... pain is fleetings...pride is forever
MissEve: fleeting.. not fleetings
MissEve: Now rewards can be a bit more complex...and this may sound arrogant to some... but we are all different in our outlooks of D/s
MissEve: Its simply a reward to be allowed to serve Me period.. a priveledge, ty
MissEve: Not to be taken for granted or taken lightly
MissEve: But each time done and served up as if you wont ever get to do it again
MissEveL: In real life
MissEve: I give My sub a free touching day
MissEve: Every Sunday is free touching day
MissEve: But believe Me.. if he errs in that time.. sometimes that day is deleted until he has learned a lesson
MissEve: It works beautifully and I've only had to punish My rl sub once
MissEve: training techniques
MissEve: online...its always room ettiquette first... make sure you know how to address a Domme... how to refer to "Her" in caps... stress to them how they are to ask for eveything, all priveldges in the beginning until they learn any type of leniency
MissEve: RL, pretty much the same... very strict on the "NO Touching Rule", work on positions, how they are to move talk , look, etc...
MissEve: kneeling is a must, but not all the time
MissEve: I prefer in real life that if they are to greet me in a room, say they come into the room Im in, they will kneel before Me, until given a task, or told to do otherwise
MissEve: oh yes
MissEve: In RL
MissEve: I forbid the term "Maam"
MissEve: is much too young to be a Maam

Suchevane:

Suche: 1. since physical pain is not felt through the computer, and many enjoy pain anyway, that is not a good source of punishment for detrimental behavior. To me the best form of online punishment is, not to be cheesy, time out, in a way. Tell the sub how upset and hurt and dissappointed you are. If the feelings are true, this hurts more than any paddlings, knowing you have been a bad sub. Then the sub must sit and say nothing until the Dominant
Suche: oops it got cut off. until the Dominant feels she can forgive the sub. I have had this done to me and
Suche: 2. Real life, it depends on the sub. A Dominant must find out what is punishment and what is pleasure. some subs adore spankings so a punishment would be to have that pleasure withheld. some hate spankings so for that sub a spanking may work. Creative ideas would be cleaning and housework, time outs, etc
Suche: 3. Rewards in either real life or online depend on the sub. as I said it is the Dominant's job to discover the pleasures and pains of their sub. For many, online, an email with a poem or just praise on how good the sub is and how pleased the Dominant is. and when together, maybe some time off to go play with their other sub friends, or a gift of something they like, since they are not really getting it, it is the thought that counts.
Suche: 4. for real life, as I said it depends. I like spankings, so if I have been good my Dom/husband will give me one, or sometimes he buys me something I have been wanting or takes me out for dinner. :) I do not like being alone and ignored so when I am a good subbie he gives me lots of attentions and chances to serve him more. He has discovered what pleases me.
Suche: I just want to add here that the roles in D/s are like Yin and Yang, they are intertwined and depend on each other. It is not the Dominant that is superior, it is just a Dominant role. The submissive is as important as the Dominant. The sub is pleases the Dominant by serving and the Dominant pleases the sub with rewards. A sub should never be punished only that is negative reinforcement and doesn't work as well as positive reinforcement.
Suche: As per training, as I just said, positive reincforcement is the best. the sub is trying their best to make you happy and you need to praise and reward all those good behaviors for it encourages them to continue. if a bad behavior persists them you take away a reward. you never criticise alone, always praise one behavior then explain that you need the other to change. back up any threats of punishment
Suche: never say you will punish and then not do it. it makes the sub think she can get away with it. but be patient and persistant and most of all loving.