Reader's feedback, Oct 2005


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From:    y...@yahoo.co.uk
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: Good site! Spanking procedures
Date:    Monday, October 31, 2005

Hi

I often find that your website, http://www.geocities.com/spankwithlove3 is temporarily unavailable. If that is because of high traffic, congratulations on the successful site!

Like you, I feel that the hand is the best implement. I have a couple of procedures that I wonder if you would like to comment on.

As a boy, I was sent to obtain the paddle. I think that is an enhancing, if not integral part of the spanking, which of course is impossible when the spanking is to be administered by hand.

Regarding amount of clothing allowed: any amount will absorb some of the impact, but I like to allow my children some privacy and dignity. Complete baring or even the wearing of underwear can be overly invasive (imo) while the wearing of thin pajama bottoms, or even better, a thin Spandex swimsuit (which at a beach or pool is perfectly acceptable for wearing in public) has essentially a negligible effect on the stinging of the spanking. I instruct my child to go to his or her bedroom, remove all clothing below the waist, and then put on only the spanking apparel. There will now be only one thin layer of clothing covering the child's buttocks. The child is then to wait there, or meet me at the designated spanking area. This preparation I think is much like my having to fetch the instrument.

Regarding the position: I like to sit and have the child bend over my lap. Until age 11 or 12 (or maybe 13) this works fine, but for the last 2 or 3 years of spankings the child will be too tall to bend over my lap. Last month when I had to spank my 14-year-old son Ryan, I sent him to his room to prepare and wait. He has a desk and chair where he studies and does homework. I remained standing, and put my left foot on the chair elevating my knee to Ryan's waist level, and had him bend over my knee and lean on the desk while I administed the 28 spanks, 2 for each year of age.

After the spanking was over and I had provided Ryan with a tissue to blow his nose and wipe his eyes, I had him SIT on his hot hiney and contemplate things for 15 or 20 minutes, alone, after which he was allowed to get dressed and then we would talk a bit.

I wonder if you would care to comment on my practice of having my children having to prepare for their spankings in this way, clothing, and my positioning.

Thank you for your website. It is good to know that there are people who recognize that the physical punishment of children can be a good thing if administered in moderation, in a loving, caring manner.

Regards,

D(...)
 


 
From:    s...@aol.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: (no subject)
Date:    Friday, October 28, 2005

I loved your website! Until I was around 15 I was spanked on my bare bottom with a cane or switch by my stepmother. She began spanking me when I was around 3. When I was little I would lay flat and she would pull my legs up making eye contact with me and spank me with the rattan cane. As I got older I had to lay over her lap and when I reached 10 I had to bend over the bed and get whipped with a switch I had to pick out. My step mother was very strict and would sometimes welt my bottom. I never felt like she did love me. I will spank my children and all of her grandchildren know to respect her.
 


 
From:    r...@ameritech.net
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: Fathers Spanking Dauthers
Date:    Monday, October 24, 2005

My father was never a spanker. But something put him over the edge and led me over his knee. I was about 15 years old and I was quite upset over something that happened that day.

I was trying to explain it to my father and he wasn't listening that day. I got very upset with him and told him I would meet him at home. We were outside of his favorite hang out, when he pulled my wrist and dragged me inside. He then proceeded to sit down on a bar stool and pull me over his lap in front of all of his friends. Before I knew it his very large hand had landed upon my bottom and I was kicking and screaming. One of the men in the bar handed him a ping pong paddle and a I gasped. My father then proceeded to spank me with the paddle on my bottom with great fury. I kicked and screamed even more. Each time I did so the men in the bar seemed to cheer very, very loudlly. I was quite bratty as a child and all of the men knew me while I was growing up. I made vast improvements as a teenageer; however, the men felt that I had this coming along with my father. The spanking went on for about ten minutes. The more I faught, the more I got spanked. When my father let me off of his lap he made me walk past all of his friends and asked them to give me a much deserved swat for all of the mouthy remarks I had made as a child. Each one of them did not hold back and gave me what I will never forget. One friend of my fathers asked permission to pull me over his knee for an inicident that happened eight years back. My father agreed and I found myself getting an additional spanking that I would never forget.

My father had every right to spank me the way that he did along with his friends. I was a rude and naughty child and it was about time my father put me hin his place. I wish more fathers had the where-with-all to do this to their teenage daughters who really, really need it.
 


 
From:    p...@netscape.net
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: The Letter from France
Date:    Friday, October 14, 2005

This is to the woman from France whose mother spanked her with a slipper well into her twenties. She wrote a letter on Wednesday, February 9, 2005. Reading her letter made me feel less shy about talking about myself. I am now 24 and only yesterday was spanked both my mother and her best friend, who lives up the road from us, and sometimes even the maid is there. She was yesterday at least. I don't intend to leave home, I love it here (it's the most beautiful place in the entire state and I have many friends but could not afford to live on my own nor do I want to leave this house, which is in an amazing setting). I also must tell everyone that I love my mother very much, despite the spankings.

I am often spanked and sometimes very severely: I'd say about three times a month. I'm spanked not only for what my mother regards as serious offenses against morality but for disrespect, rebelliousness, rudeness, and so on. Yesterday's spanking was because she discovered I have been having sex with a married man. She was totally shocked. She's always thought me a good girl at heart (but I adore this man!). She was going to make me wait until Saturday (day after tomorrow) to be spanked, but I guess that was too long for me to wait (since she discovered my affair last weekend by going through my chest of drawers). Yesterday in my bedroom, she lectured me about adultery and home-wrecking and then told me to take off my clothes and come down to the living room. E(...), whom I have known for 20 years, stayed with me and would say, "Hurry up. Don't keep your mother waiting," and led me downstairs. My mother was standing with her arms folded and then sat in a straight back chair and motioned for me to lie across her. As I am tall, my hands practically touched the floor. "How long have you known this man, and don't lie to me." I told her and she began spanking my bottom. "Do you know the poor woman, his wife?" And all the time she was spanking me as I answered, and after fifteen slaps she made me stand up and look at her, while she interrogated me further. My answers made her livid and she motioned to E(...) to do the spanking. So I lay across E(...)'s lap. I saw our nice maid dart a look into the living room and disappear. She's always totally embarrassed of course when I am spanked. Anyway, E(...) spanks much harder than Mother does, and I was soon crying, while my mother asked me questions about my lover. E(...) would stop, I would stand up again and face Mother and her questions, then lie back across E(...)'s lap for more. Mother brought out the paddle--a ping pong paddle and E(...) finished with that. I think I must have got almost a hundred slaps from the two of them. When I told her I loved the man, she spanked me standing up, very hard swats on my bottom with the paddle, and I fled to my room and shut the door, and she followed me up promising to spank me again if I didn't repent properly and apologize. At any rate, I hope other people, hearing my story and that of the Frenchwoman who wrote, won't be so embarrassed because they live at home and for whatever reason can't or won't leave.
 


 
From:    p...@netscape.net
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: Spanked At 24
Date:    Thursday, October 13, 2005

(...)

I'm a 24 year old woman who is regularly spanked. Reading other letters to your website (which I'm not sure is still in existence), I now understand how different I have been treated. Very few of your letters tell of someone like me, older and more than fully grown. One girl from Hungary wrote to tell you that she was spanked by her mother (she may have been as old as 41) until she was quite a lot older. My mother (my father is deceased) spanks me only for very bad behavior. Very recently, for example, I badly damaged my car because I had been drinking (the police said I also had drugs in my system, which was not true; I never take drugs). My mother herself had bought the car for me, and when she received the news of the accident and the other information (drinking and drugs), she burst out crying. She believed the accusation of drugs and was, she said, humiliated because I'd been drinking and would lose my license, which she said I didn't deserve to have anyway. Since I live at home--mostly to keep her company and because I just enjoy where we live so very much--, she told me to go to my room and stay there. Well, I have stayed there almost an entire week now, and tonight she told me that I am to receive on Saturday a spanking as severe as the accident I caused. I can believe it, too. Reading these letters here, I realize that my mother is more strict than most parents. I don't receive a mere 10 slaps but 80 to 100 and there have always been two witnesses, and for the ones over this summer the pastor of our church attended along with the usual neighbor, a woman, who has spanked me herself instead of my mother along with whoever else was available as a witness, and several times my mother has stopped and asked Mrs. C(...) to take over and continue the spanking, and if that happens the spanking is longer because she seems to think she has to begin at the beginning. The Hungarian woman who wrote surely understood her mother's love for her as I do mine. My mother loves me and wants the best for me, and that is why she does this. Despite my age, my spankings have always been on my uncovered bottom with the skirt up and the panty hose or stocking pulled down. The witnesses say nothing just observe, except near the end, but at the beginning my mother tells me why I am being spanked and asks me to tell the witnesses how sorry I am to have hurt myself or anyone else with my behavior, and so, too, at the end of the spanking, just before the spanking is over, I have to ask, through my tears--I always cry--, if they think it has been an effective, hard spanking, i.e., and of course never once has anyone said "no," because Mother spanks me very very hard and long, and I always cry and can't help but try to block the blows which is why sometimes she asks the neighbor to hold my arms or hands a little to prevent my reaching back. Mother also sometimes uses a ping pong paddle if her hand is red, which it always is, of course. So I am expecting a very hard spanking this weekend which is going to be followed by a few more days of being grounded in the house, I am sure. Or maybe the neighbor lady will do the spanking, which scares me, because she is stronger than my mother. Other spankings I have endured have taken place several times in the woods, in the backyard, many times on our balcony overlooking a deep valley, in a restaurant's restroom, at the side of the road, on a camping trip, in a hotel room, at church, and at my girlfriend's house in front of her and her mother. Once the pastor spanked me, but through my skirt (it didn't hurt me and my mother took over and did it in the proper way). People have told me I'm stupid to put up with it, to move out, etc. I live in one of the finest places on earth, in a fantastic location high up on a cliff next to a beautiful high waterfall, in great house with wonderful people around and lots of nature (near Telluride) and I have no wish to move to New York or to Boston or to Paris. There are older children who are spanked and wives and husbands too are spanked, though few people ever learn of this and remain ignorant and are forever on their high horse raving about the perversion of spanking of fully grown people. They know nothing of history, nothing of the Romans, of the Spartans, of the French aristocracy, or the British... thank you for letting me tell you of my experience.
 


 
From:    h...@yahoo.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: Help with your excellent site
Date:    Monday, October 10, 2005

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