Reader's feedback, Dec 2002


Here are some letters from readers of this website, the newest letters on top. All e-mail addresses and names have been anonymized to protect the sender's privacy. Brackets in red (...) indicate deleted portions.

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From:    g...@aol.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: (no subject)
Date:    Thu, 26 Dec 2002

let me just start by saying that a fathers love for a son is nothing compared to a mothers love for her daughter. i have been able to witness that now with my wife and 7 year old daughter. some of the most touching things that i see go on is the comfort that my wife gives our daughter. when she gets her feelings hurt my wife is the first one there to comfort her. and when she does something wrong, she is the only one who spanks her. 100% out of love. she makes sure she will make our daughter into a very respectable lady one day. if she does wrong my wife takes her and explains to her why and how she is going to be spanked. she always removes her panties first and then puts her over her lap. then usually takes a brush and spanks until my wife determines if she learned her lesson. I just had to write this after reading your web site. plus I have a question.

when we are in the store my daughter is very selfish and wants every thing in the store she can see. but i say no and then she throws a fit. a bad temper. i spanked her on the spot. i just stood her up and swatted her about 5 times. Her dress was still on, nothing was humiliating about it and it was just a sper of the moment thing. what do you think about that? Should I have done that or should I never do that again?
 


 
From:    e...@attbi.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: website
Date:    Tue, 17 Dec 2002

Hello,

I really enjoyed your website. It seems very gentle and loving. Different from the child abuse that occurs when parents punish their child in anger.
 


 
From:    k...@msn.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: spankings
Date:    Fri, 13 Dec 2002

hi, im 12 yrs old, and i think i might have emailed you before, but im not sure. i just think i should get a spanking for everything wrong i do, especially for cursing, and not doing homework, etc...... but my parents dont spank me, and it's been impossible for me to talk to them about spanking, [i get all shy and literally cannot make myself go and talk to them,, dunno why] and I have printed out the "how can i get my parents to spank me?" page and left it in my room in places where they would see it when they came in (i.e. my bed), but i dont know if they have read it, and ignored it, like they want me to ask them in person, or if they just haven't read it, or what.

1. what do you think?

2. what should i do?

3. how can i make myself more confident in doing this kind of thing? (talking to parents about spankings)

4. are there special signs, or things that i can do to "show" or tell them i wanna be spanked, without actually saying, "i want to be spanked" ???

5. if i do get an answer from them, and they say no, then what should i do? ask my friend's parents, or what?

as you can see.. im completely lost in all this, and quite unsure......... I desperately need a spanking right now, since some of my grades are really low, and i sometimes dont do any of my homework, and then just say to myself, "ahh f*** it" or "screw this, im getting on the computer." etc... i think spankings would give me more control, and would make me do my homework, dont u think?

i also curse a lot, and even in front of my parents, and i just somehow know that spankings would help correct all this (along with the other stuff that i have done, which i havent mentioned in this email.. if u need to know what they are, then i will tell u everything) for me, and it would make me more stable, and maybe even not so insecure, like i feel sometimes. (insecure might not be the right word for what im saying, but oh well)
 


 
From:    j...@uplink.net
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: anonymous reply
Date:    Tue, 10 Dec 2002

Please do not put my email address on your website!!!!!!!!

I think you do not give enough attention to the sexual aspects of spanking. The buttocks are among the most sexual parts of the body, as well as being close to the genitals. Many children find being spanked a sexually stimulating experience, and they continue to seek this experience when they grow up (use "spanking" as a search term on Google and you will see what I mean). The French philosopher Rousseau was spanked only twice as a child (at age 11) and found spanking sexually stimulating for the rest of his life. The same thing has happened to me.

A spanking on the bare bottom, over the parent's lap, with the parent's hand, done in the name of love will only make the sexual aspects more prominent. The child is exposed in a sexually humiliating way, and is in contact with the parent's warm body the whole time. This is all the more true if the child is able to "relax" during the punishment; discomfort in other parts of the body would be a healthy distraction. Having the child remain naked afterwards will also increase the sexual humiliation and make it more memorable. Many spanked children grow up to be sexually masochistic adults, for whom the "ritual" of spanking, including taking off clothes, bending over, receiving the blows, and shame and "humbling" are vital, delicious aspects of the experience.

If you want your child to grow up to be a sexual masochist, by all means follow the advice on this website. If not, try some of the hundreds of websites that detail nonviolent methods of discipline. (A spanking is INHERENTLY violent.)
 


 
From:    p...@aol.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: (no subject)
Date:    Fri, 6 Dec 2002

i was spanked to the age of 16 and for evening spankings my mom had a pair of the old fashioned snap bottom flap pajamas and i would wear them w/out undies and she could simply unsnap the flap and spank my fanny w/ nothing else in view. day spankings i wore very sheer panties and if warranted, she arranged them to expose each cheek seperately.

hope this is helpful.
 


 
From:    m...@webtv.net
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: On Spanking Teenagers
Date:    Fri, 6 Dec 2002

Dear Spank With Love!

You may remember me because about a year or so ago, my son sent you a prank e-mail. Again I would like to offer my sincere apologies.

My wife and I both firmly believe that some teenagers (like our son) should still be spanked. Some 14 or 15 year-olds are quite mature for their age, and others simply are not. Some will listen to reason and obey the rules, others on the other hand, will only listen to a good spanking.

My son B(...) is a very bright boy, but most of the time he behaves as if he were only about 9 years-old. Since he is now 15, I try to punish him most of the time by other methods, but every once in a while he pushes me too far, and he goes across my lap.

After a good spanking, he behaves 1000% better, and for sometime afterwards too. It really works wonders on him. His most recent spanking was on Thanksgiving night. He was VERY rude and fresh to his mother several times during that day in front of company. So that night after our company had left, I went up to his room and I laid my hand on his bare bottom until it was as red as a tomato.

As always I spanked him in private without my wife present. Although she was able to hear the spanking, as well as B(...)'s promises to be good from our bedroom. She told me later that those sounds were like music to her ears.

B(...) has been a real "angel" ever since. As I said, a good spanking always works wonders on him.

I think your website is really great. I agree with you that spanking should only be done with the hand, and only on the bare bottom. And I must admit however, that being able to watch B(...)'s bottom turning red during a spanking, does indeed tend to spur me on to do a thorough job.

The only thing that we differ on is that I don't believe that I need my son's permission to spank him. When he behaves like a child, I will treat him like one.

Yours truly,
 


 
From:    j...@zahadum.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: Its been a wile
Date:    Tue, 3 Dec 2002

Dear spank with love

Sorry it has been such a long time since I last e-mailed you but let me explain.

After my last email I read some more about different types of punishments and was somewhat changed in my view of spanking. Most of it was new wave stuff like rewards and reinforcement and such and I was beginning to reconsider the whole spanking idea. I started to think it wasn’t such a good idea. So I decided to put off the hole spanking idea and try to just get along with my parents by helping out and such. So for the past month or so I just tried to get along as explained and thing just got worse. For the most part I usually co exist with them but every once I a wile I’d get in another fight with them, usually with mom. It’s usually over silly stuff like I want to get on the computer and moms on or I want to watch a different TV show etc.

My marks were still also very poor at school as well. As far as the chores and helping go even with my good intentions I just never bothered doing anything much, so all was pretty much the same as before. Then one evening I found out my mother had deleted a bunch of stuff I downloaded to make more room, I was furious and yelled at here non-stop like a mad man. She actually was afraid I would hurt her. Afterward I felt terrible and I realized the main problem was that I have no respect for my parents and especially my mom. I was lying in bed feeling bad about the whole thing when I remembered all the thought I had put into spanking and how I thought I would work. I realized that none of this new wave disciplining would work because of the way I am, very unmotivated and lazy. All the new wave things took too muck effort and seemed very sketchy. I decided that the only way I would end up having a happy relationship with them was if I could get them to spank me the way I should have been a long time ago. After several spankings, they would have my respect along with a lesson learned on my part. I would no longer be in control of the household. So here I am again, I still haven’t gotten the courage to ask them again to discipline me in this way even though I want to. I’m afraid what to do if I cant get them to agree; they’ll never look at me the same again. But I’m sure this is the right form of discipline for me.

Your help and suggestions are always appreciated.

I have several other questions I’d like to ask. Firstly if its possible and not too much of a bother could you please send my your first e-mail and my second e-mail thanks. If you could send me some suggestions / opinions on spanking contracts, spanking rituals, corner time and how sever a spanking should be. It would be greatly appreciated.
 


 
From:    b...@attbi.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: (none)
Date:    Sun, 1 Dec 2002

I am a fourteen year old girl, who is spanked mainly by my father. I usually recieve about twenty five swats on the bare bottom with a brush. I think it is a good method for parents to use if their children respond to it. I know for myself it is a very good thing because then I do not feel guilty, I realize what I have done, and I know my dad has forgiven me. Another important thing, I think, is to wait with your child until they have calmed and make sure they know they have paid for what they have done. My father always does this.
 


 



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