Reader's feedback, Nov 2004


Here are some letters from readers of this website, the newest letters on top. All e-mail addresses and names have been anonymized to protect the sender's privacy. Brackets in red (...) indicate deleted portions.

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From:    penelfor-penny@yahoo.co.uk
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: request to be spanked
Date:    Tuesday, November 30, 2004

Note: this letter is not anonymized on special request.

I have been very interested in the letters on your site and the idea that teenagers actually ask their parents to spank them. I know that corporal punishment is now frowned upon but I think it is admirable that there are still some responsible teenagers who recognise the need to be punished. It's a pity that more parents aren't as responsible and administer the necessary punishments 'with love' without having to be asked to do it. I have told my mother, who is now in her seventies, about these letters and she says how different it is from when she was younger. She didn't have to ask for a spanking, this was a normal punishment. There was no arguing when she was told to pull up her skirt and bend over, she did as she was told straight away and was given a sound spanking with the slipper on the seat of her bloomers. This didn't stop when she was no longer a teenager, either. She was spanked like this right up to when she got married when she was 24. Even after she was married she was still smacked by her mother when she did something her mother disapproved of. It wasn't a proper spanking but she had to hold her skirt up at the back and her mother pulled up her knicker-legs and smacked her alternately on each leg. Even though she was married she daren't argue about this and she says she just stood there uncomplaining while her mother smacked her. My mother did spank me with the slipper until I was 21 but she hasn't spanked me since although I am still single and live at home with her. Occasionally she tells me I am not too big to go over her knee and maybe at the age of forty-two I am. If she insisted I think I would probably meekly obey just as she did when her mother smacked her.

I don't mind my e-mail address being shown

Penny F.

(from the U.K.)
 


 
From:    t...@aol.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: Bare bottom spanking
Date:    Monday, November 29, 2004

Although this site doesnt seem to promote spanking,it does promote that spankings should be given on the bare bottom and even the spanking of teenagers on tight underwear or thong panties for girls and jock straps for males.I find this information appalling as most teenage girls today wear thong panties or tiny bikini underwear,so to remove a girls pants or skirt just about bares her bottom anyhow and a parent has no right to "punish" their teenagers in that fashion!I grew up in the "60s when spanking teens was as common as changing your socks ,its nothing but sexual sadism and perversion in disguise of "discipline"!Do that to an adult and you would be jailed!
 


 
From:    sharepal@hotmail.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: resending aug 2004
Date:    Monday, November 22, 2004

Note: this letter is not anonymized on special request.

I e-mailed your website in February and this is a follow up to that. It is ok to post my e-mail address when you post this. I sent it in August 2004 and your site says to resend it. I want to offer advice and support to those single moms and grandparents raising boys that can be difficult. Please read my posting from February 2004 on this site to better understand this one. I have befriended several single moms amd grandparents over the years that are raising boys. I have offered support, advice, and even a firm hand. Several of the boys that I have befriended over the years have stayed in contact with me. I was raised by a single mom and I wished I would have had some male guidance growing up (male role model).Sometimes a youngman needs another man to talk to and do things with such as fishing, playing sports, and some male guidance. I wished I would have had ths growing up. Boys need this. I want to offer my support and help anyway I can. If you are a single mother or grandparent raising a boy or know of a single mom or grandparents raising a boy in need of a male role model then contact me at my e-mail address.
 


 
From:    b...@hotmail.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: Need Spankings
Date:    Saturday, November 20, 2004

Dear SWL,

My name is B(...), I am a 16 year old male who believes he needs to be spanked for punishment. By the way, I am completely fine with a bare butt spanking. The last time I was spanked I was 8 years old. I've asked my parents and relatives to spank me now but they keep saying no and think I am to old and I completely disagree. I don't really get punished for a lot of things which I should be like not following through on responsiblilities and etc. I was wondering if there was any way you could help me?
 


 
From:    s...@hotmail.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: Spanking
Date:    Wednesday, November 10, 2004

Hi, Im 14 years old and my mom says I have behaivior problems. She is trying to come up with a new way to discipline me because nothing else has worked. I think if she started spanking me I would behave better but she only spanked me when I was like a toddler and she spanks my ten year old brother right now so it isn't like she doesn't believe in spanking. i wanted to know a good way to get my mom to try spankings but I don't want to go up to her and say I want to be spanked because it would seem a little embarrasing. Can you help me out?
 


 
From:    j...@yahoo.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: Normal Non-Abusive Punishment?
Date:    Wednesday, November 10, 2004

I am a 15 year old male, I live with my aunt and uncle. Spanking has been an integral part of my discipline since I've lived with them. Spankings are given out for misbehavior now and again. As my uncle is usually away on business, my aunt is almost always the one that disciplines me or my cousin (she's 13).

Spankings are not abusive but they do hurt and they are always given exactly the same way. First she sits me down and talks to me about what I've done and how I need to change my behavior and allows me to tell my side of the story. When we're finished talking we go someplace private - either the sitting room or my room. I assume the position which means I drop my pants and boxers and either bend over the couch and grab the cushions or bend across the bed and grab the other side. There is nothing "weird" about bare bottom spanking - she doesn't make me take off all my clothes or do "corner time" or anything like that, it's just the way we've always done it. I've never thought twice about it before the last few times she spanked me.

I got spanked about a month ago and as I dropped my pants and underwear to bend over the couch I noticed that I had an erection. She didn't say anything about it and really laid into my bare butt with her spanking strap. After it was over she asked about my erection - I told her not to worry because teenage boys get them all the time. She suggested that we do it over my boxers as I'm older now. I'm still not immune to the odd erection in boxers - and frankly i might as well take my licks on the bare. Do you agree that this is just a normal teenage guy thing? Or is this somehow bad or wrong?
 


 
From:    barrykaddress@yahoo.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: RE: disciplining
Date:    Sunday, November 7, 2004

Note: this letter is not anonymized on special request. It refers to the letter dated October 16, 2004.

Dear SWL,

Thanks for your reply! It's really helpful and I've looked at some more of the site info. Actually if you want to put my name it'll be ok, cos it's my 16th birthday in 10 days! And I'd really like to hear from other people my age, cos none of my friends talk about this kind of thing and I don't have anyone else to talk to about it.

Thanks so much,

Kinelle

ps. I'm about to ask my mum soon about it, and I think after reading your info it's bestwith the bare bum, as it's fairer and more meaningful. I was wondering if you thought it would be best if I get ready first, or if she removes my clothes etc. I've read all about it on your site, but it's hard to know how I'll feel until it (hopefully!) happens!! Like, I don't know if it's better if she pulls down my knickers when I'm on her lap, or before, or if it's possible etc. I know it's a detail but I really want to get it right and I don't know how it would work, can you tell me what you find best in this respect? And any tips from readers would be helpful too, if they've 'been there done that' already! So please add it in, if you can. Thanx!!
 


 
From:    s...@lycos.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: implements page
Date:    Saturday, November 6, 2004

you have a very good website and i would like to thank you for your contribution to society.

second i would like you to keep my email address private if you choose to place my feedback on your website.

now as for my actual feedback i was surprised at the lack of a book on the list of implements on your website. i was surprised as the book is a very common implement especialy in christian familys who spank because they beleive the bible tells them to do so.

thank you

sincerly
 


 
From:    g...@aol.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: response and comment to letter sent you on April 5, 2004
Date:    Saturday, November 6, 2004

Referencing the writers comments about being spanked in the Girls Restroom in a mall I would like to say that I agree totally with the girls objections. There is nothing worse than getting a spanking in a public place ( I Know ). My mom, M(...), wasn't overly strict but if it was time for me to be spanked - I got spanked - It didn't matter where we were or who was there. If we were alone or with my sisters she would just smack my bottom or take me over her knee. If we had company she would say '" you'll have to excuse me somebody needs to have their pants taken down for a few minutes " and off we'd go. The only problem was we didn't go very far. If the company was in the living room she'd take me into the kitchen which was just a few feet away where she would put me over her knee, pull down my pants and spank me. Everyone could hear me getting spanked and scolded. I'd be crying after the 3rd or fourth smack and promising never to do it again. When my bottom felt like it was on fire Mom would send me to my room but not before I was made to apologize to her friends - very embarrassing - Once my cousin Allison, who was at least 12 years my senior and who had Mom's permission to punish me, was baby-sitting and some of her friends were there to keep her company, spanked me right in the L\Room in front of them. I know I deserved the spanking but being spanked across her knees while her friends watched as Allison administered a thorough bottom warming spanking felt ten times than when Mom would give me a paddling with her hairbrush in my room. I can only say to the girl who wrote the April 5th letter I know exactly how you felt.
 


 
From:    lordnykus@bigpond.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: A possible Addition
Date:    Friday, November 5, 2004

Note: this letter is not anonymized on special request.

Hi

I came to few your site after having it mentioned to me by a young friend whom I am assisting with he desire to be spanked by her parents. I think the site is excellent and informative with a non biased approach.

However I have read a number of emails in the feedback section from people who have relised that they need spanking in their lives and feel that they can not ask or their parents won't spank them or wish to find someone who will. My suggestion is although you don't advocate spanking perhaps you could add a section where willing Disciplinarians, after having been suitably vetted could be listed so that anyone intersted can contact them and relise their needs.

As I have said I feel you have an excellent site and feel free to leave my email addy for any who wish to reply.

Cheers.
 


 
From:    b...@aol.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: My mom
Date:    Tuesday, November 2, 2004

Hi. I'm an eleven year old girl. My mom wrote you. I got a spanking with my nine year old bro. We were playing a boarde game and had a good time. But then , he cheated. I got mad and pushed him. He got up and hit me. we began to slap and hit eachother. I had gave him a bloody nose , and he cut my arm when he sctratched me. My mom came in and sent us to the living room. She said we were acting naughty and she had to teach us our lesson. she pulled my brother over her lap and began spanking him. he struggled and cryed. after him , i came. I layed across her knee , and she spanked me on my bare bottom. i cryed very much and she kept slapping. i bit her so she'd let me go. she sent me to my room and said i was in big trouble for biting her. my dad came home and i heard them talking about it. He came to my room and told me i was going to get a big spanking. he made me pull my underwear to my knee. I had to lay on my bed , and he got the hairbrush. The slaps came down hard and fast. it felt like it lasted for forerver. my bottom was red , but i hugged him after. I was glad he did it. I wanted things to be ok with my mom. Do you think he did the right thing? was i right to feel better after?
 


 



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