i have emailed you befor this is the methords i use on my kids. please post on your web thanks
If spanking is to be done then it will be over the knee has it is most comfortable. It will be done bare-bottom or with underwear on as any other materials might hurt your hand or the child may not feel it. Hand should be used for bare bottom spankings nothing else. If underwear is to be kepted on hand can be used but you should consider a slipper or the back of the hairbrush. so u get the same level of punishment.
Right here is a basic table of how it all works
The crimes are putted into different levels each level have a different number of warnings before a spanking. The warnings are done on a weekly basses every week all the warnings go back to zero so it resets every week, so the child has a chance to correct there ways and still be able to make 1 mistake which does happen. If you do smack him/her the warnings should be reset back to zero. It is best to make a chart so the child knows these rules.
Also breaking school rule like fighting or something that's requires a letter home or a phone call. should reset every month.
getting a bad school report should reset every year.
you can move different offences into different catagoreys depending on what u think.
physical warning- grabbing the child buy the shoulders crouching to the childs level and looking him in the eye and tell him to stop
Final Warning- is a physical warning but at the end you say if you do that again i am going to spank you.
As the child gets older increase the minimal level (we recommend 1-2 extra smacks every year) and the and the maximum should increase (we recommend 1-2 extra smacks every year)
this method should work and only works on 3-13 year olds.
Being a girl or boy should NOT effect the hardness or number of smacks your give nor shall it effect the age limit.
If a child goes past all this warnings in public you should tell him you will spank him when u get home and when you do give him a spanking the wait on the way home will make it so he wont do that any more.
these are just guide lines you can give different numbers depending on what u think
| Level 1 Offenses | no. of warnings before spanking | how many smack and what with |
| level 1 is basically stuff like running in the house, shouting to get you to come to them, touching things they r not allowed to (that will not harm them) nothing to seriously. | 2 verbal warnings 1 Physical wirings 1 final warning |
we say a bare-bottom spanking over the knee should be only be 5-7 or so smacks depending on how old the child is. useing the hand |
| Level 2 Offenses | no. of warnings before spanking | how many smack and what with |
| level 2 is stuff like shouting at you, being late home or from school, not doing as he/she is told, and not cleaning room or doing house hold jobs, swearing | 1 Physical waring 1 Final waring |
we say a bare-bottom spanking over the knee and should be about 10-12 smacks depending on age or you can keep the child underwear on and bend him/her over your knee and spank him 5-8 times with a slipper or 3-4 with the back of a hair brush. |
| Level 3 Offenses | no. of warnings before spanking | how many smack and what with |
| this is wear it gets serious this is for stuff like fighting with a bother or siter, him/ her getting a bad school report or a letter or sent home from school by poor behaviour or fighting breaking a peace of house hold furinture or decoration ( with no warning about running or touching this week) | 1 Final waring | we says a bare-bottom spanking over the knee should be about 15-18 smacks depending on the age and you can keep the childs underwear and bend them over your knee and spank him 10-12 times with a slipper or 5-7 smacks with the back of hair brush |
| Level 4 Offenses | no. of warnings before spanking | how many smack and what with |
| this is most serious this is for breaking the law or breaking a peace of furinture or decoration (after told to stop running about or touching something this week) or if they break something realy expecenive or of family inportinace even if they have not been warned that it fails into this level, or doing something dangeriouse to himself or others like playing on the top of stiars or running aroung the cooker while cooking or the iorning hitting you or running out in the road, etc etc | No warings | we say over the knee bare-bottom and about 22-25 smacks depending on the age or you can keep the childs pants on bend him over your knee and smack him 15-18 times with the slipper or 10-12 with the back of the hair brush depending on the age |
All ways ask the child why he/she is being spanked and see what he/she say and correct him and tell him why and make sure he understands be saying "ok, you understand me?"
Spank the child infront of the brother or sister if you have them this will cause inbarresment to the child being spank and will show the other one what will happen if he is bad.
NEVER shout before had or rase voice keep it calm
all ways send the child to the room where he/she is going to be spanked and give him/her 5 mins to think about what he/she has done this allows you to be clam and gets the child thing about the spanking.
give the child the option of taking down his/hers trousers and pants befor force him to this will help keep the sisuation clam.
give the child the option of laying across your knee befor your force him this will help him get confortable and keep it calm.
before starting all ways ask the child if he/she is confortable in the persesions.
never give into your child plees for forgiveness or back out after you say you will smack him/her this will make the child think if he turns on the water works he can get a way with
pay attention to the color of the bottom and not the cryings as the child will start crying after one smack.
use the chat to help u deside how many smacks all ways deside befor hand how many smack and what with
be quick try and spank to a rythem but dont leave gaps bigger then 5 seconds because in order for a spanking to be effictive it must be quick so it susprizes them
when spanking with the pants up check after every 5 hits to make sure u r not causeing any bruseing like you get from slippers or back of hair brushes.
when the bottom turns a bright to dark red is usaly a good idea to stop even if you have not finished spanking. (but if u only got 5 or so to go just finish to job)
when you are finished all ways hug and kiss the child and say u did it becos u love him/her
do not pull the childs paints and trousers back up let them do it them slefs as it may be to painfull for them
if you have use lots of smacks +18 plus with hand 12+ slipper 8-10+ with back of hair brush thin about rubbing lotion on the child bum this will make it less red take away the sting senasion and make it easyer for them to sit down again.
once you have done what u feel you need to do and say after the spanking like stated above leave the child in that room for 5-10 mins alone time to think about what he/she has done and got himself/herslef togther and then come in a hug and child and kiss him again it is not uncommon for the child to try and resist your affection and sulk let the child sulk he will come to you when he is ready
never give more then one spanking a day if he/she keeps missbehaving and he/she is awarded two spanking tell him/her he/she will be givin another one first thing torrmorrow
do not get angery at any point if u r still agnery when it comes to spanking time wait even more till u have calm down or get your wife or husband to spank him
if u deside a spanking with him/her ask which room and which chair or bed they want it on ask if
other thing you might want to conside but are not as effective
as the 2 about do you want mom or dad to spank you do u want a
bare-bottom pros, less pain cons, more smacks
slipper pros, less smack cons, more pain
back of hair brush pros, less smack cons, more pain
you should only try that one with more mature children and explain the cons and pros the all ways.
all these methord are used on my 2 boys j...,9 z...,6 ( 7 soon) both are now more behaved then before each year i use less and less spanking.
please note these are just the rules i use on my 2 young boys should you agust them to suit your child and there age and put the apropiet crime in the aprpiet level with the apropiet level