
Light Hearted Spankings
Comment: This page, including the "conclusions", was contributed by a reader in December 2002. It is considered
"off topic" for this website as it discusses non-punitive spankings.
All over the world spankings also play a more light hearted role.We look at the four most popular forms.
1. Birthday Spankings
These consist of giving to the birthday boy or girl one smack
on the bottom for each year of their age and one "to grow on". They are
usually administered at birthday parties and/or in the family.
Feb 2005: If you're unfamiliar with the concept, this
photo album page
shows an example of a 3-year old girl's birthday spanking in 2001 in Washington
State.
At parties the ritual can vary. The birthday child may choose a favoured young
guest to give the spanks or the guests can line up for each to give
one spank or even the full number of spanks each. With a large number
of guests that can mean a lot of spanks for the birthday child! With
boys there are no practical difficulties about the administration of the
spanks: they are simply given on the seat of the jeans, shorts or trousers.
But with girls party frocks can often be stiff or full and unsuitable
for spanks; in those cases the frock is often lifted so the spanks can
be given on the panties. Parents should not be concerned about these
rituals: they are traditional and children everywhere find them a source
of innocent fun and excitement.
Within the family the situation is similar although it is far more
common for each member to have the right to give the birthday child a spanking
than it is at parties. Quite often children will ask if they can give
their parents a birthday spanking. How parents respond will depend on
each family but there is much to be said for parents showing their
sense of fairness and that they are good sports by agreeing to accept
a birthday spanking.
It should be a matter of course that the tradition of birthday spankings
is only acceptable as long as it is a voluntary fun activity for the participants.
See Reader's Feedback, January 9, 2004 for
a reader's negative experiences with classroom birthday spankings he experienced in
2nd grade.
2. Play Acting
All children indulge in play acting games and ones involving parent
and child or teacher and student spankings are very common. These too
are quite harmless and indeed can do good in that they encourage
children to realise that spankings are events which should be approached
with some deliberation. The methods of administering the spankings are
as varied as in real school and family situations but natural restraint
and peer pressure ideas about fairness and so on tend to prevent any
spankings which are untoward or excessive. They might involve a slighly
naughty lifting of dresses and so on but it is quite innocent and
harmless. Quietly observing such games can also be instructive for
parents or teachers: children will portray in their spanking games how
they perceive those who spank them in real life. Thus you might see
them acting out a bad tempered person who spanks on the slightest
provocation, a weak person who cannot make up his or her mind whether or
how to spank and the parent or teacher who to their young eyes seems to
enjoy spanking them.
3. Spanking Games other than Play Acting
These are simply games in which the penalty for losing is to receive
spanks and the reward for winning is to give spanks. The variations
are almost infinite. Once again a completely harmless source of fun
and excitement for children.
4. Playful Spanks by Parents
These range from the idle spank on the seat of a passing child's bottom
which some parents do without even realising they are doing it to giving
a number of light spanks as a mock punishment when a child is being a
little mischievous or irritable without actually being naughty. This can
be quite useful as a semi-serious reminder to behave without unpleasantness.
Children take these sort of spankings well as one can see from the grin
that they often give when they receive them.
5. Conclusions
Light hearted spankings are normal, fun, harmless and sometimes beneficial.
Their popularity and acceptance are also evidence that the practice of
giving spankings is a natural and instinctive part of the make up of all
human beings.

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