From:    l...@hotmail.com
To:      spankwithlove@hotmail.com
Subject: spanking chart
Date:    Friday, November 14, 2003

i have emailed you befor this is the methords i use on my kids. please post on your web thanks

Rules

This is me and my wife rules on punishing owe children this is very good i think it should be put on your web. Punishment is done in levels i will go on the explain this after a few basic ground rules we have told the kids about. ( you should tell your kids these)

If spanking is to be done then it will be over the knee has it is most comfortable. It will be done bare-bottom or with underwear on as any other materials might hurt your hand or the child may not feel it. Hand should be used for bare bottom spankings nothing else. If underwear is to be kepted on hand can be used but you should consider a slipper or the back of the hairbrush. so u get the same level of punishment.

Right here is a basic table of how it all works

The crimes are putted into different levels each level have a different number of warnings before a spanking. The warnings are done on a weekly basses every week all the warnings go back to zero so it resets every week, so the child has a chance to correct there ways and still be able to make 1 mistake which does happen. If you do smack him/her the warnings should be reset back to zero. It is best to make a chart so the child knows these rules.

Also breaking school rule like fighting or something that's requires a letter home or a phone call. should reset every month.

getting a bad school report should reset every year.

you can move different offences into different catagoreys depending on what u think.

Warnings

verbal warning -usually tell him/her to doing it.

physical warning- grabbing the child buy the shoulders crouching to the childs level and looking him in the eye and tell him to stop

Final Warning- is a physical warning but at the end you say if you do that again i am going to spank you.

Spankings

Spankings should start form a minimum level (no less then so many smacks) i recommend 5 which is what i do with my kids and a maximum level (no more then 30 smacks should be used) owe maximum is 30.

As the child gets older increase the minimal level (we recommend 1-2 extra smacks every year) and the and the maximum should increase (we recommend 1-2 extra smacks every year)

this method should work and only works on 3-13 year olds.

Being a girl or boy should NOT effect the hardness or number of smacks your give nor shall it effect the age limit.

If a child goes past all this warnings in public you should tell him you will spank him when u get home and when you do give him a spanking the wait on the way home will make it so he wont do that any more.

these are just guide lines you can give different numbers depending on what u think

Level 1 Offenses no. of warnings before spanking how many smack and what with
level 1 is basically stuff like running in the house, shouting to get you to come to them, touching things they r not allowed to (that will not harm them) nothing to seriously. 2 verbal warnings
1 Physical wirings
1 final warning
we say a bare-bottom spanking over the knee should be only be 5-7 or so smacks depending on how old the child is. useing the hand

Level 2 Offenses no. of warnings before spanking how many smack and what with
level 2 is stuff like shouting at you, being late home or from school, not doing as he/she is told, and not cleaning room or doing house hold jobs, swearing 1 Physical waring
1 Final waring
we say a bare-bottom spanking over the knee and should be about 10-12 smacks depending on age or you can keep the child underwear on and bend him/her over your knee and spank him 5-8 times with a slipper or 3-4 with the back of a hair brush.

Level 3 Offenses no. of warnings before spanking how many smack and what with
this is wear it gets serious this is for stuff like fighting with a bother or siter, him/ her getting a bad school report or a letter or sent home from school by poor behaviour or fighting breaking a peace of house hold furinture or decoration ( with no warning about running or touching this week) 1 Final waring we says a bare-bottom spanking over the knee should be about 15-18 smacks depending on the age and you can keep the childs underwear and bend them over your knee and spank him 10-12 times with a slipper or 5-7 smacks with the back of hair brush

Level 4 Offenses no. of warnings before spanking how many smack and what with
this is most serious this is for breaking the law or breaking a peace of furinture or decoration (after told to stop running about or touching something this week) or if they break something realy expecenive or of family inportinace even if they have not been warned that it fails into this level, or doing something dangeriouse to himself or others like playing on the top of stiars or running aroung the cooker while cooking or the iorning hitting you or running out in the road, etc etc No warings we say over the knee bare-bottom and about 22-25 smacks depending on the age or you can keep the childs pants on bend him over your knee and smack him 15-18 times with the slipper or 10-12 with the back of the hair brush depending on the age

Before the spanking

NEVER spanking in anger if u r cross leave the room or send child to the room and then come back to spank him/her and never spank him/her when they r angery wait to you are calm. If you do exspect you are angry send a child to there room and tell them " to get ready for a spanking" and wait till you calm down this way u will be calm and the wait will have a bigger physilogical effect

All ways ask the child why he/she is being spanked and see what he/she say and correct him and tell him why and make sure he understands be saying "ok, you understand me?"

Spank the child infront of the brother or sister if you have them this will cause inbarresment to the child being spank and will show the other one what will happen if he is bad.

NEVER shout before had or rase voice keep it calm

all ways send the child to the room where he/she is going to be spanked and give him/her 5 mins to think about what he/she has done this allows you to be clam and gets the child thing about the spanking.

give the child the option of taking down his/hers trousers and pants befor force him to this will help keep the sisuation clam.

give the child the option of laying across your knee befor your force him this will help him get confortable and keep it calm.

before starting all ways ask the child if he/she is confortable in the persesions.

never give into your child plees for forgiveness or back out after you say you will smack him/her this will make the child think if he turns on the water works he can get a way with

During the spanking

dont talk so you concetrate on the spanking as the child will be not paying attention talk while spanking dose not work.

pay attention to the color of the bottom and not the cryings as the child will start crying after one smack.

use the chat to help u deside how many smacks all ways deside befor hand how many smack and what with

be quick try and spank to a rythem but dont leave gaps bigger then 5 seconds because in order for a spanking to be effictive it must be quick so it susprizes them

when spanking with the pants up check after every 5 hits to make sure u r not causeing any bruseing like you get from slippers or back of hair brushes.

when the bottom turns a bright to dark red is usaly a good idea to stop even if you have not finished spanking. (but if u only got 5 or so to go just finish to job)

after the spanking

pull you child up from you lap and look the chil in ther eyes so u can look him/her in the eye tell her again why he/she got spanked.

when you are finished all ways hug and kiss the child and say u did it becos u love him/her

do not pull the childs paints and trousers back up let them do it them slefs as it may be to painfull for them

if you have use lots of smacks +18 plus with hand 12+ slipper 8-10+ with back of hair brush thin about rubbing lotion on the child bum this will make it less red take away the sting senasion and make it easyer for them to sit down again.

once you have done what u feel you need to do and say after the spanking like stated above leave the child in that room for 5-10 mins alone time to think about what he/she has done and got himself/herslef togther and then come in a hug and child and kiss him again it is not uncommon for the child to try and resist your affection and sulk let the child sulk he will come to you when he is ready

other inportiant things

is the child resiste the spanking buy pulling back or trying to get back up do not give him/her a seperate spanking later, once he is over the knee tell him u will be givein 5-10 extra smack for resisting

never give more then one spanking a day if he/she keeps missbehaving and he/she is awarded two spanking tell him/her he/she will be givin another one first thing torrmorrow

do not get angery at any point if u r still agnery when it comes to spanking time wait even more till u have calm down or get your wife or husband to spank him

Older children

when they are older like 12+ you can start to degoteate weather they are spanked or grounded for a time

if u deside a spanking with him/her ask which room and which chair or bed they want it on ask if

other thing you might want to conside but are not as effective as the 2 about do you want mom or dad to spank you do u want a
bare-bottom pros, less pain cons, more smacks
slipper pros, less smack cons, more pain
back of hair brush pros, less smack cons, more pain

you should only try that one with more mature children and explain the cons and pros the all ways.

all these methord are used on my 2 boys j...,9 z...,6 ( 7 soon) both are now more behaved then before each year i use less and less spanking.

please note these are just the rules i use on my 2 young boys should you agust them to suit your child and there age and put the apropiet crime in the aprpiet level with the apropiet level