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We met at the Broken Spoke Restaurant and Bar...I lit your cigarette, then you wrote your number down...On the inside of a matchbook that was lying on the bar...And a fire started burning somewhere in my heart. I didnt see it coming, guess i didnt read the signs...I just never thought you'd leave me after all this time...But today when i came home, my ket was hollow in the door..And there was nothing but a worn out book of matches on the floor.You took the bed...You took the dishes and the car..And you broke my trust...And you took advantage of my heart...And you left me here...With empty rooms and walls with holes and scars and scratches...if i find the strength to burn your memory down...Atleast you left the matches.The color's old and faded, the cover's worn and stained...But i can still make out the numbers and the heart beside your name...Until tonight they'd only lit a single cigarette...Now one by one, i'm striking them to help me to forget. And everybody at the Broken Spoke...They all thought my crazy story was a joke..Now they're out in the parking lot...Staring at the smoke.Baby all that's left of our love is ashes...Thank God you left the matches... Christian in Denver.......a little Sammy for you.
Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic......
I recently asked a girl who the last guy she dated was and what he was like...she said.."go outside and pick up the nearest rock"....I recently asked a girl what she thought about Phil Hartman's wife going gunshot all over him while he slept and she looked at me and asked.."who is Phil Hartman".....I really dont have point here, but if one is to be made ....women who are jaded..are a turnoff....and women who dont follow current events is a seperate, but equal turnoff....Christian in Denver...
What Goes Around Comes Around....
I almost never read what you girls post...sorry, but most of it is just idiocy so the truly good insight is left unread by myself...but Torque here...the following is a post she made, has a good point...she wrote:"Sure, we know a little about you now, but all of it seems generic fluff and we haven't felt the need to care. We want to care, really we do. Unfortunately we've extracted our hearts and put them in little inlaid boxes and thrown away the key, so there's just no hope for pity. We want to make you feel welcome, so we've brought out this nice rusty metal crucific to attach you to. We hope it enhances your stay in wails-ville." And thats what I was talking about...jaded women...Woman who make the men they are with..or not even with...men they wish they were with...were a black eye for the shit other men have done in the past....whether it be and ex boyfriend...ex husband..or a neglectful/disappointing father...Women seem to carry the burden of hurt and scorn much deeper than a man does...and therefore Men in general have a tougher time finding love, not because of themselves, but because of the damage some male predessesor did before him....if I have a point here...it is that sometimes you have to lick your wounds and take the leap again without hesitation...because the next time you just might hit the air cushion dead center...Christian in Denver...
Bring On the Dancing Horses.....
It is amazing what kind of clarity you achieve when you are sick...I think i got one of those bugs native to Colorado..something my body wasnt exposed to back in Buffalo...which is kind of how I feel about the women out here...if there is a point to this it is that the reason there are sterotypes is that for the most part they are true...out here women, in general, are thinner...more attractive...very introspective...very earthy...very Lillith Fair if you will...wear little to no make-up...and dont try as hard to gain attention....where as back home...women were the direct opposite...dont get me wrong there are exeptions to every rule, but for the most part...I've noticed that the girls back home are bigger...need to try harder to be pretty...where more arrogant...more self centered...had a wittier mind...thought more about where their next mixed drink was coming from rather than where the best mountain bike trail was....and in general a lot more rude....I dont know where these distinct seperations come from or how they developed i just know what I see and believe me Ive looked....Christian in Denver....
Add On To Bring On The Dancing Horses
Before you east coast girls send me hate mail...stop and put down the keyboard...it is you who I mentioned as being the exception to the rule...*smile*..Christian
What color is love?....does it come in different shades?....Red is for passion....Green is for envy..>Blue is for sad...Black is evil...White is for peace...As for me....I think love is pink...that makes a lot of sense...what about you?...Christian in Denver...
And you Pour Youself Over Me......
I dont know where Im going
I dont know where you are tonight
I dont know what Im blowing
And I aint feeling all too right
But Im hanging around
you're hanging up the phone again
I want you and,
I need you and, Im bleeding and I'll
Bleed a little while tonight
I will hold this coin that reminds me of the time when
You nearly kissed me blind on Bathurst St. it's true
And if you turn me down
I'll spin this coin around and give it back to you
It's something I cant explain
And if its all the same to you....
Damn, damn the circumstance
well my heart is achin'
and my room is spinnin'
Its grey without you in it
My bad luck's just begining
Dont let me bleed again tonight
My mistakes are taunting me and Im hanging around my old haunts
And I remember you telling me that Alex never gets what she wants
But, you've got someone, and it aint me
I've got myself again but,
I just cant let this be because
I want you and,
I need you and, Im bleeding and I'll
Bleed a little while tonight
The Lowest of the Low...Christian in Denver
Lips Like Sugar, Sugar Kisses...
These are just some things I thought i'd let you in on...some of them you might already know from past experience, but...here you are...this took a while and almost all of these are true for all men... SportsCenter starts at 11:00 PM and runs an hour. This is a great time to pay bills, put laundry in the dryer or talk to your sister...Two hot dogs and a beer at a baseball game do, in fact, constitute going out to dinner... Unlike you, we essentially want to dress just exactly like all our friends. Thus, if buying gifts you need not go much further than the Gap, J. Crew, or of course Structure. If we see you in the morning and at night, why call us at work?...although I like it when you call me at work.... Butthead, he is the smart one...and is it too much to ask to have the bra match the underwear?..and be careful what you ask for, you really don't want to know what we're thinking about...and silence does not need to be filled with discussions about "us" and "the relationship".. There are things you should let us do alone: figuring out where we are, watching anything on TBS, playing cards, smoking cigars and picking out the beer... socks never constitute a gift... we don't know anything about handbags, don't even ask...Honey, I did water the plants. They died anyway. Nobody knows why this happens. and this is soooooo true.. even if you think he's cute, Kevin Costner can't act. Of course, neither can Elle McPherson, but she had the good sense to do "Sirens" rather than "Waterworld."... Curly is the bald one.... Compromise does not mean that we abandon our position in favor of yours....you cant have all the power...although innately you have a large portion of it.... Sports Illustrated is a better magazine than Cosmopolitan. Just accept that. It's in neither your interest nor ours to take the Quiz together. Personally though..i do read Cosmo...most guys do, just so you cant surprise us..... Dinner out is a pretty good birthday present. Two tickets to a ball game or Ministry are even better.....and finally "no, you can't have the remote control". Christian in Denver
This Doesnt Surprise Me At All....
Cereberri or whatever your name is, had a post...she claims it is whats inside a person that counts..... ....Listen...looks do matter, in fact they matter a lot...as I have said before..they are not everything, but they are a foot in the door...you can have all the personality in the world, but that will never give you enough game to even take a sniff of the prize...It is a shame, but we are a shallow society...women I believe, even more so than men...And i say that because you women not only include looks, but cars, jobs, and other things of the material like...the only people who say looks dont matter and its what "inside that counts" are ugly people and fat people...period. Im sorry to be blunt...ummmm no I'm not, but I hate when people lie to themselves and take other people along for the ride...It is a serious misconception that people have about themselves....they think they can be strong...they think they can be unbiased and simply not hear what their friends say (blocking out their opinions)...but when it comes down to it...all people cave...You cave to what your friends think...you cave to your own shallow weakness...to your MTV imagine of what you see yourself with...like I said it may be terrible..I may be an asshole...but the bottomline is it is true...and everyone of you reading this is guilty as OJ of doing it....out....Christian in Denver....
Living So Long With these Pictures Of You...
I am truly amazed at people who have selective memories...the ability to take little bits of their memories and purposely forget them...I honestly admire those people...On the contrary, I am always haunted..perpetually bombarded by an assortment of pictures, songs, sayings, movies, and even the odd commercial thats rips through me and dredges up images long since forgotten. Granted these flashbacks have no real bering on my life now...meaning that if I am reminded of something that makes me feel like a shitheel or guilty I dont miss work or lock myself in a room...However, that split second of either remorse or blinding pain followed by umcomfortable thought is annoying...it is just amazing how that after a breakup or foul up, how everything..especially songs, take on terribly poigniant meanings...almost to the point you turnoff the car radio...Or if you have a special song, or part in a movie, or Isuzu commercial...that inside joke no one else gets...how awful it can be, even after 5 years, to see such commercial or song or part in movie...The worst is when you are ambushed , totally caught off guard...when you are watching like a Bloopers show or going over to a buddies house...nightmare...Anyway the Holiday Season is upon us...If you dont have a significant other by now you are probably screwed...better be putting your 'A' game into overdrive at the clubs and bars...I should know..I've had many a tremendous comeback in my day///Some of my best gifts are from girls Ive only been dating a sort time...A steady girlfriend..one you've had for a year..with buy Christimas presents with complacency...things that stregthen a relationship...but a newly acquired girl will go out of her way to impress and buy cool stuff...and vice versa...guys are the same way...Just my experience anyway..I could be completely wrong..take care...Christian in Denver...
No One Ever Gets What They Truly Want...
There comes a point when you realize...your paths are not going to cross...there is a point you realize that, right now, Im not the man she wants, nor needs me to be...right now Im too selfish...and you are too caught up in trying to take care of yourself, than take care of her...you realize she wants be be a wife and mother (again, this time though, yours)....and no matter how much you dont want to let go..no matter how much you tell her that someday those things might happen...its not good enough...there are continous fights...fights that you are killing her hopes and dreams...eventhough you dont want to split up she feels you are not willing to give enough, now, and she sees it will never change...you are unable to convince her to be cool about things...be normal..dont force, dont push...again stubborn...So again..No one ever truly gets what they want....This is not autobiogrphical, but a situation I was recently privy too...thought I would share it...Christian
Dancing With Tears In My Eyes...
I never really understood the mealy guys who are nervous and uncomfortable with expressing affection...It must be some sort of self esteem problem..In fact..it is a self esteem problem. But for others it is really easy....therefore....The first effect of being kissed without warning is vertigo. You'd swear you'd been sucker-punched if it weren't all so pleasant. Once you've been kissed this way you'll know why your dates are sometimes taken back by a sudden romantic move. But such maneuvers are the only real way to be romantic. What woman would go out with a guy who telegraphed all his intentions? "Sue dear, I'm feeling very romantic now. Don't be surprised if I soon press my lips against yours in a fit of unbridled passion." A woman would have that guy out of her apartment, out of her building, and out of her life in three minutes. Women don't want to hear a game plan of how you're going to physically express your affection. It's much better to do it and let the chips fall where they may. Explanations may be needed later. For example, "What the hell do you think you're doing?" demands a quick, sincere, and (hopefully) clever reply. Good luck..Christian in Denver
I think Rebecca Romjin and Rebecca Gayheart are the driving forces behind cloning...Heres some help to you...when you read a mans personal ad, keep this in mind...when he says Seeking:"discreet"= " Im already married" "petite"/"young" = "remind me of my daughter" "old-fashioned"= "You strip, I pay" "open-minded"= "You are willing to do it with me and a good friend of mine" "experimental"= "You are willing to do it with me and a female friend of mine" When he says I am:"husky"= 400 plus lbs. "family man"= "six kids, four mothers" "New to area"= "parolee" "tired of games"= "I think Im tired of games.” I hope that helps...As for me...I think we, as in men, dont give you, as in women, enough credit. Women, in general, are much much more intelligent, atleast about important things, than men are. the reason that is so is because men are children, including myself. The trick is admitting you have a problem and avoiding the Toy R Us on the way home from work...
The underlying current of all my conversations with with has been non committal....is it just me or are women nowadays so gunshy about being hurt...that they dont want to think or talk about future type stuff...have you women reached the saturation point of pain and disappointment that you dont want to even hear about love or vacations or planning weekends in the future....???....I think men have fucked up so much as a whole that we have made women only want to live for the moment and not even believce all our schtick about ice cream and puppy dogs...that doesnt even work anymore...such a shame...but I guess it is deserved...Im glad you women dont believe us anymore...its all lies anyway....EXCEPTION TO THE RULE:..He buys you something that costs more that 100$...doesnt turn his head to check out another woman while walking in the mall...tells you he loves you everyday...likes your Mother and never ever tells you to stop crying because it is bothering him..or gets off the phone with you because he thinks your stories are boring...then you can believe him.. .Christian in Denver...
Why is it when men sincerely love blondes, all they end up dating are brunettes?...Its amazing...I've been tracing back over my..ughhh mmm..past...and eventhough every blonde I see turns my head...I have..96% of the time dating women of the other colors...its just crazy...just goes to prove that the difference between theory and practice are two totally different things.I love women...something about their shape...curves make the world go round.And NO I am not lonely. Never have been, but I can see where that would be questioned. I'm just wordly and I like to share stuff....I get these streams of consciousness and I think it is kind of cool to get them on record.I am truly impressed at people who can keep a secret.I am even more impressed at couples who stay together for more than 3 years and can HONESTLY say they havnt cheated on each other. I never believe a woman when she tells me how many men she has slept with...I always add 10...I do that because you woman have this "oh he doesn't count" category...like..it was spring break..or I was drunk...or he is like my best friend sort of rationalizations....its okay to do that and only count the ones you are in love with at the time, but dont think for 1 minute guys buy it....lol...Christian in Denver
As Long As There's Stars Over Texas...
Is there a point where a woman can love you too much?...See, I think there is...Its called obsession..its where she sees you as her reason for being, her crutch of self esteem...Its the point where she stops being that little, loveable creature you were attracted to in the first place, only to be replaced with a needy, crying wreck of emotion the instant you stop spending all 24 hours with her and actually take sometime for yourself...She sees that one night away from her for a night to mean the demise of the relationship.."oh my God, he wants to be alone tonight!".."There MUST be something wrong"...then you, meaning she, quickly get on the phone with your best friend and comiserate about the million of things he could be doing, without you...and you're crushed...and wondering what you did wrong..the answer is nothing and I will call you tomorrow..its a very simple concept...Sometimes you just want to be by yourself or with others..platonically...some women dont grasp that...C
Men in general have a lot to learn. I know I have to. I've been doing a lot of thinking latley after a couple relationships gone bad, some were me being to selfish and others ended beacause of the woman's insecurities. Those insecurities usually manifested in their being deprived of a father figure at an early age, due to divorce or by ending up a single mother through no fault of their own, just an asshole being an asshole, dashing their dreams of a perfect life. Then only to find themselves royally screwed. becuase of these 2 different, but same, factors I have found it impossible to date a normal woman. However, the fact that these women are neurotic or on the verge of zero self esteem, doesnt make them any less than a normal girl, ie. a girl whose parents are still together and doesnt have a child. All women, baggage or no,should be treated the same. Men cant solve the problems in a woman's life, they can only try coping with them easier. thats what most men need to learn and I finally found out. You can't fix it, only lend a hand, be supportive of your girls fears, anxieties, or whatever. Things would go so much smoother if men just new that...So there are rules..Everyday tell her how beautiful she is... Tell her she is smart...Tell her she looks nice....Thank her for the considerate things she does...Open the door...Offer to cook... Never ever refuse sex or affection... Always listen....never judge or assume while doing so...Try to be open minded about things other than sports... Try new things...like something other than sports...Get along with her family...especially her Mother...Never forget a date...anniversary...or a special moment...Never lie...Never tell her she looks plain..or ordinary...Always point out the small things that you know she took time in...her nails..her hair...Notice the changes..in hair style...wardrobe...and the like...Above all be attentive...never neglect or ignore....Try to be sensitive on occasion...Try and not be selfish all the time and actually put her needs in front of your own.....its tough, but needs to be done....What else....????????? It is very easy to forget the mundane tasks...the things most men take for granted after we know we have you..after that we dont do them anymore.....In the beginning these tasks/sentiments/things happen all the time...the rules are followed and we are the men you want us to be, but at some point all men reach complacency...a certain comfort zone where we feel these things need not be done anymore...thats when she decides to move on and start a new cycle..get new attention...from a new guy..and we are left holding the bag, to only wonder what happened...and then talk amongst our buddies and come up with the ultimate cop out.. pin it down, and lay the blame on the now infamous..."oh man..she was totally psycho...Christian In Denver
Birds Fly Over The Rainbow, So Why Can't I???
Why is it that we always think we can do better? Why dont we just realize and appreciate what we already have...Too many times I have seen men through away good healthy relationships, solely because of "the something better". But in the end you topped out, you did have your pinacle. Guys that arent Brad Pitt, dont get girls like Kristy Swanson or Sandra Bullock. Its the Matt Damons of the world that get girls like Brittney Spears or anygirl in a magazine these days for that matter. Mags like Maxim, Stuff, and even the occassional Esquire warp men's minds. Even the little 22 yr old hotties at the bar are untouchable because all they do is flirt. Its a hotties job, and even of you do get a sniff of it, there are 10 guys right behind you and another 5 five dinner guys in front of you in line. Her phone tree reads like a 18th century Monk repoduction of the Bible. Maybe we meet the right girls all the time. The wonderful, understated, beautiful girl who we dont appreciate because we see the E channel and feel our girl should be the wild one showing her tits and brining her friends to bed with them. What guys dont understand it happens to maybe 1 %of the chosen population and those are flukes, I mean freaks of the natural order of things. I know, I've tried and only succeeded once. I once heard a saying that a woman in the kitchen is worth 2 in the sack. Not that I agree with such a saying, It does strike a note of truth. Girls are easy come, easy go. The easier it is to bed them, it was just that easy for the guy she slept with the night before and the dude who will try to get her when she goes out tomorrow. But we dont see that, we think our loving faithful girlfriends arent as "exciting". So we try to be with whoever or whatever so we conform to the conquer all, screw all the hotties you can mentality fed to our egos. Truth is we need the loving sweet, faithful girlfirend. She should be fun, but not slutty and just looking for a goodtime. I think Im losing my point. I'll take a brainy, beautiful, wonderful, faithful, 2 drinks and she's fine girl anytime. The "model girls" never have your best interests at heart and usually just cheat on you. You cant have anything meaningful, because you will lose in the end. I know because I usually win. Wow that felt good getting that out. *smile*..Christian in Denver CO.
Yeah, I Love You...Dont Ask Why...
You meet, you talk, you actually go ona date somewhere other than your house. 2 weeks later, you've met her Dad. Then out of nowhere, as you drive down her street to pick her just as you have 6 times before, something amazing happens when you see through the bay window of her house waiting for you. Yes, the sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach hits you like a ton of bricks, and is the first step in a series of realizations that she has you. You think of those anxious moments when your heart raced at the meer thought of her. The slightest of jestures, like a simple touch of your hand or a cute smile, that made you smile and grin like a five year old at his first carnival. Sweaty palms, yuck. The feeling that, when together, you were the only 2 people on earth. And when you held her all your problems seemed to slip in non-exestence. The sound of her speaking your name was the most beautiful thing you've heard since Morrissey live at Shea's or something like that. Wanting her to STAY that Thursday morning, but not minding driving her to class instead of sleeping in. Putting her first came natural. Having her pager and home phone on speed dial and actually not returning the phone calls from your ex-girlfiend. The point where she is the only one that matters to you and you felt, dare I say complete. You are in a place where all the conversations are not forced, complacent, dull, contrite, or just noise. When you are in a time when you feel can change the world and make it better, for her. It is quite amazing the power of a relationship actually based on love. In those split seconds before you reach her door you were never happier. Until she opened the door and greeted you with a kiss, a smile, and a 'glad to see you sweetie'. Never underestimate the power of a good woman. I am always searching for that. I havnt had sweaty palms in a long long time and I dont beleive that only happens in High School or Freddie Prinze Jr movies. I beleive it can happen anywhere, at anytime. to anyone. So whats the secret. Is there a universal key to Pandora's box of happines. Im a good looking guy, told several several times Im a great date, and tend to be a lot of fun. Im not the nice guy loser, not the asshole who takes advantage of EVERY situation. However, I have yet to feel what love really is. Where to look, how do you find it. I've lived in 3 cities, visited most every place imagineable, but have yet to fill those voids of what people say love is. I guess I just have never loved anyone yet, eventhough I know what it should feel like...