Bisexuality - being sexually responsive by both genders
Homosexuality - being sexually responsive to person's of your own gender
Heterosexuality - being sexually responsive to person's of the opposite gender
I am bisexual. And I catch a lot of criticism for it. There are those who are straight who say, "It's wrong to be with anyone of the same sex." There are those (both straight and gay) who say, "You can't have both. You're not bi. You're afraid to admit you're gay."
I have news for all of you. It's NOT wrong for me to love, no matter what the gender of the person I love. And I CAN have relationships with men as well as women. I simply choose to look at a person for what's on the inside, and for who they are, rather than define possible relationships based on the person's anatomy.
For those of you who make the comment, "A bisexual person just can't be monogomous." Of course we can. Whatever would give you the idea that because one is open to relationships with both genders that they can't have a relationship with only one person? Just because a person likes two things, doesn't mean they have to have them both.
At the same time, if everyone involved is aware of everyone else, and is OK with it, what's the problem? (For more about this, see my page on Polyamory.) If I say to my husband, "I think I'd like to pursue a relationship with a woman.", and he says it's OK, then as long as I'm honest with the lady in question, no harm is being done.
How does a person "become" bisexual?
I can never tell you for certain, but I can tell you that I didn't "become" bisexual. From as far back as I can remember, women have been as inspiring to me as men. Some of the first sexual fantasies I remember were of being with a woman.
Some people say they have recently "become" bisexual. Personally, I think they have recently REALIZED their bisexuality, but the word you use to say it doesn't change the fact that it is.
Are people born bisexual?
Depends on who you ask.
Personally, I believe the answer is most likely yes. I certainly wasn't "brainwashed" into "becoming" bisexual. Like I said, I can remember always considering a relationship with a woman as much as one with a man.
I'm certain that there are some who don't realize (or allow themselves to) until later in life that they are attracted to people of their gender, but that doesn't meant it hasn't always been there.
Did you always know that red and blue make purple? I'm sure it didn't "just start" when you realized it. Did you always know there were languages in this world other than your own? Whether you realized or not, they were already there.
If someone is bisexual, does that mean they try to get in bed with everyone they meet?
NO.
While there are people out there who will try to get as many people in bed as they can (this applies to bisexuals, straights, and gays), your sexual preference doesn't automatically make you want to get with everyone.
I love meeting other people (especially women) who are bisexual, or gay. But that doesn't mean I automatically want a relationship. I enjoy meeting people who are of the same mind-set as I am. Just as a straight person goes to a club to meet people, it doesn't always mean they go there to get laid.
Are all women who are dancers, pagans, polyamorists, (place your group here), etc bisexual?
No.
Never assume that everyone who claims a certain title is a certain way. Are all Christians church-goers? No. You can believe the Bible, and have a very close relationship with God, but not go to church.
Are all female dancers bisexual? No. Many just enjoy the profession, or just need the money, or both. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of bisexual dancers out there. Just don't expect every dancer you meet to be bi.
Are all pagans bisexual? No. Just like not all Christians are straight (regardless of how terribly bad they are bashed, it is possible to be gay or bisexual and still be Christian).
Are all the women who practice polyamorous relationships bisexual? No. A person can want to experience love from more than one person and not be bisexual.How many guys out there want to have two or three girlfriends? Are they bisexual? Not necessarily. (And unlees, they are TOTALLY honest with all the people involved, they aren't polyamorous either.)
Stereotypes are one of the biggest downfalls of today's society. People assume that everyone who is (variable-x) is (variable-y). Why do we do this? It isn't a very pleasant thing for anyone to have to deal with.
My wife/girlfriend/friend sas she is bisexual. Of course she should let me watch!!
NO!!
What makes you think that she wants to share such an intimate encounter? Would you want you best buddy sitting at the end of your bed cheering you on while you have sex? Some women like the idea of sharing woman-to-woman encounters with her male mate, but not all do. Don't force the issue. You're more likely to get what you want if you ask politely once. And then let it drop.
It's every guy's fantasy to see two women together. And all that much better if it's his significant other with another woman. Every man who has a steady woman should try to talk her into "trying it". Right?
NO!!
Do you straight guys want your woman badgering you to take it up the butt for her to watch? Or for you to suck another guy? No. Then why do you think it's OK to badger your woman for the same type thing?
If a person has bisexual feelings, they generally have to come to terms with them in theri own time. And the last thing they need is to feel like they'd be on center stage if ever they took "the plunge". Lay off. If she wants it, she'll let you know.
