To paraphrase Terry Goodkind, sometimes the worst hurt can come from the best of intentions. So let's discuss intentions in dating.
There's a long-standing belief among women that guys are only looking for one thing, sex. That may apply to some, maybe even most, guys, but not all of us. Some guys are looking for sex, some are looking for companionship, some are looking for love and a wife, or some mix of these. Where we get in trouble is that the ones looking for sex will dangle compansionship, love, and marriage in front of a girl to get what he wants. When the girl figures out what he's really after, she tends to get jaded about all men and thinks that we're all like that.
Here are my current intentions: I'm looking for companionship. I want someone to talk to, hang out with, cuddle together and watch a movie or go out to eat. As far as I'm concerned, sex isn't an issue. If the girl wants to go that far, great. If not, well, as Bill Engvall said... sex is something I can do by myself... in my truck... in traffic. As for love, it either happens or doesn't. I'm not really looking for love, but if I find it, then that's great too.
I think that when you're talking to someone you're interested in, you should let them know your intentions from the beginning. Especially you guys just looking for sex... that way, those of us who are looking for something more than just sex don't get treated like liars by girls who have been hurt before.
And girls, that goes for you too. If you're just looking for a good time, let us know. If you're looking for love and marriage, let us know. And if you're looking for companionship... send me a message