Answers to your advice questions

Dear thinks shes in love,
Well, only you can answer that, but heres what i think:
You are definatly not in love with this guy. You may think you are, but since he has no idea that you feel this way, then your not. You probably like this guy. If you think he's cute or hot and you like his personality and always want to be around him, then you like him. But if you just think he's so hot or cute or whatever, but dont like his personality, then you might like him, but dont go out with him. Those kind of guys only want one thing--sex. If you like him, tell him because he probably has no idea. If your like me, then you wont tell him, but i say go for it because the chance might only come once(i know this from experience). For example, there was this guy that I really liked, but i didnt let him know, so by the time I decided to tell him, he was going out with my best friend. If you think you like this guy, tell him, because some other girl might, and he will go out with her.
Hope this helps,



Submitted by: Beth
Comment: My friends mom is gay, and I want to be her best friend. But if we do become best friends, sooner or later, my parents will meet her parents. My parents are so against them. Do I follow my heart and be her best friend? Or do I avoid her at all costs?
-Beth


Beth,
Sorry it took so long to respond. I had to think a while before I could answer this.
Okay, If it were me, I would probably just go ahead and follow my heart and be her friend. If you like her and she is fun to hang out with, then just be her friend. If and when your parents meet, you dont really have to come out and say her mom is gay. But, if the topic comes up, you will probably have to bring it up. Your parents should understand that her parents are gay and she isnt. Its not like your trying to be best friends with her parents, so they should understand. If you try to avoid your friend, she is going to find out sooner or later that the reason your avoiding her is because of her parents. She should be able to have friends like you, even though her parents are gay. Its not her fault. Anyways, just be her friend. Who knows? Maybe your parents will be okay with it. I could see where they are coming from, but they should be okay with it. Just give the friendship a try and be her friend. She shouldnt be"punished" because of her parents. Before your and her parents meet, just sit down with your parents and say you really like her and think you and her are going to be best friends. You have alot of fun with her and dont get mad if her parents arent what they expected.
Hope this helps and your parents are okay with this!
Sincerely,



Submitted by: James
Other: Sexuality
Problem: I think I might be gay, how do I know?
Dear James,
We, here at *Stylish*, feel that your problem is not something that we can answer. You are going to have to answer that yourself. Here is a website that may help you:
http://directory.google.com/Top/Kids_and_Teens/Teen_Life/Teen_Sexuality/Gay,_Lesbian,_and_Bisexual/
You will find a list of websites that may be able to help you.
Thanks,
Shimmer, Ink



Submitted by: Confused
Comment: There is this guy that likes me and I like him, but the problem is, is that almost everybody hates him and he isn't known for doing the best stuff...He is extremely nice to me but he is mean to all of my friends. I don't know if I should date him or not. What do you think I should do?
Signed- Confused

Dear Confused,
I tried to email you but you must have made a mistake about the email address or something because it came back with a delivery failure, so I will just put the answer on here;)...
Well, if it were me, I would just go out with him. Forget what your friends think and what everyone else thinks. I guess it would really depend on why everyone hates him and what he has done. I know alot of guys like that. No one likes them because they are mean and get on everyones nerves, but they are really nice to me, but nobody understands. But then again, we dont like each other as more than friends.
My advice to you, would be just to go out with him. If everyone makes fun of you or something, just ignore it. In the end, what comes around goes around anyways. If it really bothers you, then just talk to your friends and him. Just tell your friends that you really like him and he is nice to you. If they dont understand and continue to bother you, then they may not be your true friends. Tell him that he could try to be nicer to your friends because its bothering you.
Hope this helps and it all works out for you!
Sincerly,




Name: Marie
Topic: My mom
Problem: I want to be an actress. All my friends think that I am really good and have a good chance in making it. Only there is one problem, my mom. She wants me to go to college. I would still go to college, except go to learn entertainment and learn how to become an actress. I really dont think she would understand. Do you have any suggestions about how I should tell her?
Thanks, Marie
Marie,
You should just tell her that this is really what you want to do, probably the sooner, the better. Maybe you could prepare a scene with a friend to show her that you are good and this is really what you want to do. She is your mom and should stand behind anything you chose. I could understand where she would be coming from, though. Alot of aspiring actresses and actors dont make it onto a big blockbuster movie or on a popular tv show like Scrubs or Friends. My suggestion to you is to try to take some lessons or be in plays before you get out of high school to make sure this is really something you would like to do. If it still is, then try the whole actress thing. But remember what I said, alot of actresses dont make it, so you may want to have a time limit that you spend trying to make it. For instance, you could tell yourself that if you dont make it by the time your 25 then go to college for something else. Always have something to fall back on. Hope it works out for the best. I hope you become a famous actress and your mom understands! Thanks for visiting my website and asking for advice. Email me again if you need help with anything!
Sincerely,