by: Sue Evison
Exclusive. Sex-mad Paula Yates had to call out a locksmith to release her handcuffed lover--after losing the keys during a raunchy bondage session.
Ex-junkie Kingsley Okeke, 27, who split with Paula two weeks ago, said: "She is the sexiest woman I have ever slept with. She taught me things I never knew existed. What we got up to in bed makes President
Clinton look like a third-rate amateur."
Kingsley moved in to Paula's luxury home in west London two months ago after the couple were kicked out of a Wiltshire rehab clinic when staff discovered they were having an affair. The couple's kinky sex games began when Kingsley found handcuffs in a kitchen drawer. He said: "I was only looking for a teabag so I was a bit surprised to come across the handcuffs. I'd seen plenty of them before--I've spent time in jail on drug-related
charges--and realised they were the real thing. I asked Paula what they were for. She took them from me and led me by the hand upstairs and said, 'come on, I'll show you . . . . ' I'd never been handcuffed to a bed before--it was mind-blowingly sexy to be at Paula's mercy. She's an expert at teasing and pleasing--she'd have a bestseller if she ever wrote a book about her seduction techniques. I've never experienced anything like it.
"When we'd finished I asked Paula to take the cuffs off, but she couldn't find the key. She searched the house for three hours, turning out all the drawers. I was starting to panic by this point. It was great while we were having passionate, fiery sex, but once it was all over I just wanted them off. I hated being confined. I couldn't squeeze my hands out of the cuffs, even when Paula smothered them with Vaseline. Trying to undo them with a screwdriver was useless. In the end, Paula had to call a locksmith to set me free. I've never been so embarrassed. She thought it was hilarious--and so did he. He couldn't keep the smirk off his face."
The couple enjoyed marathon sex romps lasting up to five hours during their steamy six-week affair. Kingsley, 27, said" "Paula likes an element of danger sexually. She loved the scar on my face, it turned her on. Her favourite fantasy was for me to wear a balaclava [a woolen hood that almost completely covers the head] and pretend to be an intruder. I'd creep into the darkened bedroom while she pretended to sleep then set about silently seducing her. She liked me to keep the balaclava on. It added to the thrill for her--and me. We'd make love for hours on end, often to Paula's favourite Depeche Mode records, then have a bath together and start again.
"Paula was insatiable--and unshockable. She liked me to lick champagne from her tummy button and enjoyed covering parts of me with oysters then, very slowly, eating them off. I'd return the compliment once she had finished. It often took three hours for us to finish the meal. Then we'd whisper sexy fantasies to each other until we were ready to start again--and have vanilla ice cream for dessert. "Paula never held back. Her fantasies often made me blush and some of the things we did together did shock me a lot. I was brought up a Catholic but hadn't been to confession since I was a kid--until I met Paula. But I started going to church every week once I began having sex with Paula--I was worried for my soul! I remember my first confession where I spilled out my sex secrets to the priest. Even he gasped--and you expect them to be unshockable."
Paula, 38, loved to play dressing-up games and had drawers stuffed full of sexy undies. Kingsley said: "She is a great tease. When we were alone, she would walk around the house in a pair of four-inch Christian Dior stiletto slippers trimmed with mink, black stockings--and nothing else. Paula could open her own lingerie shop. She had drawers full of mink-trimmed knickers and bras. I remember recently when a story about a load of mink being set free from a farm was on the television. 'Oh look,' said Paula, 'lots of pairs of knickers running around!' She couldn't resist the feel of mink. I'd stroke her with it if I wanted to tease her. It brought her to the height of passion every time. She also had lace-up corsets in every colour--and for every mood. Some were demure and virginal, others most definitely sex sirenish. And Paula also had a fetish for rubber--she had a suit which covered her from neck to toe and which zipped up at the front. She liked the feel of it and the way she got all hot and covered in perspiration as we made love.
"Paula had no inhibitions and is a great actress in the bedroom She could do the sexiest, most sensual strip I've ever seen. She also has a fantastic figure. Even though she has had four children, she's in brilliant shape. Sex with her was an education. I never realised how naive I was until I first went to bed with her. It didn't bother her. 'You'll soon learn,' she said. And I did. She was the best teacher I ever had. But even I had to draw the line at some of her wilder ideas. She had this fantasy about sex in public--she liked the element of danger, the chance of being caught. Paula told me that she and Michael had once secretly pleasured each other in the dining room of London's famous Groucho club. She said nobody else had noticed--and that they had carried on eating dinner afterwards as if nothing had happened. "Paula was really into the idea of trying it again. But I couldn't cope with the stress of it. I'd have been too scared. I couldn't even have raised a smile under those
circumstances."
Paula kicked out jobless Kingsley two weeks ago. She is facing a tough custody battle over two-year-old Tiger, her daughter by tragic INXS rocker Michael Hutchence. The late star's father has launched a battle
for the tot--and Paula feared her relationship with the ex-junkie might jeopardise her case. Kingsley is now living in a west London bail hostel. But he says: "I'll never forget Paula and bear her no hard feelings. She is a very special woman, and she gave me some of the best moments of my life in the few, brief weeks I was with her. It's an experience I never want to forget. No man would."
Copyright 1998 The London Sun