1.  Jealous.

2.  Blames others (including you) for his/her faults.

3.  Blames circumstances for his/her problems.
("If only I had a job, I wouldn't be so upset").

4.  His/her behaviour is unpredictable.

5.  He/she belittles you verbally.

6.  He/she cannot control his anger.

7.  He/she always asks for a second chance.

8.  He/she says he'll/she'll change, that he won't do it again.

9.  His/her family resolves problems with violence.

10.  He/she plays on your guilt. (If you loved me, you'd...")

11.  His/her behaviour often worsens when he uses alcohol or drugs.

12.  He/she is close-minded.  His/her way is the only way.

 

 

 

 

 

 

  PLEASE NOTE:
I do not claim to be an expert, nor am I a psychologist or
social worker - I am a survivor, and I know what it was
to be a victim.