Y = Yes and N = No

1.  My partner often seems angry at me for no apparent reason.
Y / N

2.  My partner makes me feel as if I never do anything right. Nothing is ever good enough. Y / N

3.  My partner yells at me and calls me names.
Y / N

4.  Living with my partner is nerve-wracking. I never know what will set him or her off.
Y / N

5.  My partner seems suspicious and jealous. Y / N

6.  When I try to express my opinion, my partner does not respond, walks away or makes fun of me. Y / N

7.  I sometimes feel afraid of my partner. Y / N

8.  I have to account for every dime I spend and have little control over our finances.
Y / N

9.  My partner says he/she is good natured around other people, so it must be my fault he/she is angry. Y / N

10.  My partner does not like me to spend time with family or friends. Y / N

11.  My partner throws things and breaks things. Y / N

12.  My partner has threatened to injure or kidnap my children in an attempt to control me. Y / N

13.  My partner sometimes abuses pets. Y / N

14.  My partner forces me to have sex when I don't want to. Y / N

15.  My partner grabs or pushes me. Y / N

16.  My partner hits me. Y / N

17.  My partner threatens to hit me. Y / N

18.  My partner threatens me with weapons. Y / N

 

SCORE:  If you answered yes to even one of these questions, your partner may be demonstrating controlling behaviour over you.   If you feel there is something wrong with your partner's behaviour, trust your instincts and call for more information.
If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, it is adviseable you seek out professional assistance to further evaluate your situation.   If you answered yes to any of the last three questions, seek help immediately.   Your safety may be in jeopardy.

 

 

 

 

 

  PLEASE NOTE:
I do not claim to be an expert, nor am I a psychologist or
social worker - I am a survivor, and I know what it was
to be a victim.