Are there any black men/women in this room?" Ahhhhhhhhhhhh! That is by far the most unexciting question I have ever heard. What makes blacks the flavor of the month? now I can understand a black person who is not interested in interracial dating asking this in a room his/she has never been in. And i'm not trying to sound prejudice...All I'm saying is this, if I'm chatting in a room and my name is on every other line and someone walks in and looks at the chatters list...Why ask that question?
I chat under the name tblkjack. T is for Thomas or the...Jack is part of my last name. Blk is short for BLACK!!! If someone reads the chatter list for two minutes you might see that. That is a clue to the fact that I'm BLACK. the opposite of WHITE. Once more class B-L-K = B-L-A-C-K. Okay? Good!
The other day, I was Pmed, that's Private Messaged for you newbies! And the chat was going well, until the woman I was chatting with made that wonderful statement that makes me proud to be an American. And that statement was....I hear that black men are great in bed! Followed by...I've never been with a black man before! BEFORE!?!?! Before what? Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! the myth has come to Tblk's world again. At one time I would have countered with..."well that's a myth, but I'm no myth...I'm a legend!" I did that once when I first started working at K-Mart, now BIG K!
Who started this myth or rumor or whatever you want to call it? Ask some of my black sista's from the ebomy club and they might tell you differently. Or they would not be complaining about all the "DOGGS" that are out there. Do we as a country, YES a country, have to have some mystery about everything that is dark? Mysteries of the Night! The Shadow Knows! Something went Bump in the Night! Hell, something goes bump in the daylight to, but no one sees a mystery in that.
Look, don't get me wrong. I like dating women. Race, color, shade, whatever does not matter to me. But can we please get off the labels and leave the myths in the children books for their horror pleasure. And lets look at each other as humans. I told that lady that is really depends on the man and the woman. it's like I say, it takes two. So any of you ladies out there that are buying into the myths, the first time is the exciting part, that's why it's great! After that, it's all up and down!
You know, a funny thing happened to me the other day. After a few weeks of not being in the chat room. I entered and was bombed with personal messages. Well one was interesting because it comes back to this same subject.
The young lady asked the same old questions, my age, if I was black, what does my name mean. What was interesting was that this woman told me without even spending more then five minutes of chatting with me that I wasn’t ready for a black woman! And this has puzzled me for a few hours. Well two days later, I was just sitting around enjoying the peace of my apartment when it hit me again. I laughed at it and sat right down to write this.
As I write, I’m wondering if she throught I was a white man or she just didn’t understand what I was saying. Maybe because of the amount of PM’s I was getting, I was not paying attention to what she was saying or I just didn’t understand her statement. Still, I have to smile over it.
Now it has me wondering, maybe she was right. Over the years, I’ve dated, married, had kids by, and almost killed myself, after being involved with black women. maybe all that happened because I was not ready to be with one. So my question is this, at age 35, when will I be ready? I know, at age 45, no no age 55, no may still not be ready, how’s 65 sound? I still think maybe not then. Look, I’ve dated both black and white and have had wonderful relationships, and bad ones. So I think I’m ready for any race that a woman maybe. A true statement would have been that I wasn’t ready for a woman like her.
So if you have not yet met me and are interested in chatting, just remember one thing. I’m a human being, not a color! Bye for now! “)”