And so I watch him walk away. A
smile and a wave, hide behind a mask, don’t let him see that I’m embarrassed,
humiliated, by him. I like the idea of hiding behind a mask. Masks can be
anything: they can be playful, normal, teasing, seductive… and they always
disguise you. Always be disguised, never show my real feelings, my real
emotions. Smile at Jess as she comes in, crack a joke. “Absolutely gorgeous, I
know. Makes him think he can do anything.” And she laughs, she can laugh
because I’m treating it as a joke. Better that she laughs with me than laughs
at me.
It’s
the golden rule of my life. Never let on that you’re anything less than
perfectly happy. Because if you tell people how you’re feeling, then they have
the power to humiliate you, to hurt you. To take your heart, tear it out, stamp
on it, and throw it back at you when they’re done.
So
I can’t let on that I’m hurt. I sit at the bar with Jess and chat with her,
inane mindless comments, flowing from my mouth without even going through my
mind. I hear what she says rather than feel it. She gets drunk and starts
talking about my relationship with her father, and I tell her that she’s had too
much to drink. Then I get the hell out of there.
Why
does everything seem determined to remind me of him tonight? Why, why, why? I’m
trying to move on with my life. How can I possibly move on, grow up, if
everyone, everything, is trying to make me be the same person I was five years
ago? So much has changed since then.
I
stand in the pale glow of a streetlight and fumble in my bag for my car keys.
I’m not drunk, not like Jess. I can drive. I’ve only had one, maybe two,
glasses of wine. One with Peter and one with Jess. I wish, wish, wish, that I
had never gone out with Peter. So stupid. Just me being me, wanting to be
something I’m not. It’s never going to happen to me, I’m not the sort of person
who meets someone and falls in love with them, fairytale romances don’t happen
in real life.
The
car doesn’t start at first, and I have a moment of insane panic, absolutely
flooded with fear, that it’s broken down. A ridiculous worry, but right now, I
just want to go home. If it’s broken down, then I don’t know what I’ll do. I
can’t go back in there, I absolutely can’t. And I’m almost in a state; I feel
my heart pounding in my chest so hard that it’s almost hurting, and I’m
thinking how ridiculous this is, to get so worked up over a car. And then I try
again and it works. And I shake my head because I can’t believe how silly that
was, and I drive off, turning the radio up as loud as I can to try and block
out my thoughts.
And
I glare at the radio as it starts playing that song. That stupid song that was
playing earlier in the bar, when I was trying desperately to forget about him,
about Ric, and trying to concentrate on Peter. It wouldn’t have been so bad if
Ric hadn’t put that song on when he was driving me home the other day, when I
was crying. It would all have been fine, I could have tried to forget about
him. But no, Fate isn’t that kind. Not to me, oh no.
So
I lied, I lied about being in serious relationships. I’ve had a few in my time,
two, maybe three. I’m not sure what exactly constitutes serious, but Ric and I…
that was serious. He was prepared to marry me. And if I’d trusted myself a bit
more, I would have married him. I would have married him because he loved me
and I loved him. Madly in love, I suppose. He was head over heels for me, and I
was pretty much besotted with him. He wasn’t my first love, oh no. My first
love was a long time ago, long before I knew Ric.
I
was fourteen, maybe fifteen. He was a lot older, I’m not sure how much exactly.
He told me he was thirty, and he said that the age gap didn’t matter. I told
him that I was sixteen. With heels and make-up, I looked sixteen. I thought I
did, anyway. But then I also thought he loved me. So my judgement was slightly
off.
My
parents were scandalised, of course. Their little Diane having a boyfriend… let
alone an older one. My mother nearly threw me out on the spot, especially when
she found out that I’d been sleeping with him. They’d expected me to be a lot
different – a quiet, studious little girl, perhaps bringing home a shy teenage
boy one day, not a moody cow of a teenager who ended up sleeping with a
thirty-year-old man. That was my first rebellion. Before that, I’d always been
the quiet daughter that they’d wanted. I’d worked hard and been polite and
never skipped school… and then it all changed when I met him.
He
paid my bus fare one day; I’d seen him around occasionally before then, but it
was that day when he first spoke to me. He was gorgeous, or at least I thought
so. None of my friends did. I thought they were all jealous. Turns out they
were the sensible ones. He left me eventually. No… left isn’t the right word.
He stayed away after my parents found out. I stayed in my bedroom and cried.
He
caught up with me on the way to school about a week later. He hurt me. I still
can’t bear to think of what he did to me; if I don’t give it a name then it’s
not real. It wasn’t real then and it isn’t real now. If I keep telling myself
that, I might believe it one day.
I
shouldn’t let myself get hurt so easily. I seem to be attracted to guys who will
hurt me, it’s like magnetism. Guys who aren’t remotely interested, guys who get
bored of me, guys who cheat on me and hurt me and humiliate me. I’ve only ever
dated two guys who haven’t hurt me… and I’ve hurt them instead.
I
hurt Ric, I know I did. And I proved everyone right, everyone who thought that
we’d never make it, that the age gap was too much, that a young girl like me
shouldn’t be dating her consultant… but it wasn’t that, it truly wasn’t. If I
cared about what people thought that much, then I would never have fallen in
love with him in the first place. I was just scared. Maybe it was all down to…
what happened, when I was younger, maybe I thought that he would hurt me. Maybe
I used that as an excuse. Maybe it just didn’t work out. Sometimes relationships
don’t.
It
will work out though. One day. Maybe it didn’t work out that time, but next
time it will. Next time? It will happen, definitely. I’m not head over heels in
love with him or anything, and I’ve never believed much in Fate, but for some
reason, I know that one day we’ll be back together. In which case, why am I
wasting my time searching for a new guy? Because when I give up searching and
go for Ric, then I’ll finally be settling down, and I’ll be making a
commitment, and I don’t think I’m ready for that yet. One day I will be.
It
won’t be knights-in-shining-armour, sailing-off-into-the-sunset, amazing
happiness. I don’t think I believe in that sort of love. I believe in security,
in relationships you have to work hard at but that are worth the effort when
you have them. I think it changes your life, not amazingly, but to a certain
degree. And one day, it’s going to happen to me.
As
I pull up outside my flat, I take my phone out of my bag. I search through the
address book and find the number I’m looking for. Peter. I smile to
myself. I delete his number.