Dear Mandi,
I'm having alot of guy trouble. I am 16, and I have never dated a guy in my life. It's not that I'm ugly, it's that I'm a little overweight(not much)and short. This guy I work with keeps showing an interest in me, but he has a girlfriend. We flirt constantly and he has also hinted at something of a physical relationship, which I know I'm not ready for, or do I plan to get involved in. I really like this guy, and I know he likes me, but I don't know if he likes me more than his girlfriend. Everyone says that he flirts more with me, then with his girlfriend, or any other girl for that fact. But I know flirting with someone, doesn't mean you feel alot of strong feelings for that person. My friends tell me to wait till he breaks up with his girlfriend, then go for it, but I hate to be the rebound. I would rather, he got over his girlfriend and then asked me out, for me. I don't know though. Should I go for it now, and hope he dumps his girlfriend for me, or sit back and watch things upfold. I'm really confused!
Mandi, Tormented Heart must be a real loser. You can't just depend on a guy and think that will make your life all better. It just makes more heart ache. Tormented Heart needs to get a life and show that guy that she isn't going to moon for him till he decides to ask her out or something. Duh!
There you have it, the first letter. If you have some advice for Tormented Heart, send it to me and I'll give you advice to her. Or, if you have a problem, of any kind, and would like some help, email me.
Dear Mandi,
I'm having a lot of trouble. I want to be in love. I want a boyfriend, but not just 'cause he's some guy to be around some of the time, but I want to be in love, to want to be with someone most of the time, and I want to be happy just because he's there or just because I thought of him. I know my happiness shouldn't depend on a man,but I don't think I can be happy without one, at least not in this stage of my life. What do you think on this subject?
Signed,
Sleepless in Seattle
Mandi,
Tell sleepless in Seattle that she doesn't need a guy in her life to make her happy. She needs a life. Go out, have fun....the rest will follow. She needs to realize that guys aren't prince charmings who will do anything for you and you will have to give nothing in return.