1.) Always meet in a public place. Do not go back to a private place until you've assured yourself that this is someone that you feel safe being alone with. This may not be on the first meeting or any one after it. But if the other person is worthwhile and knows the score, then they will be willing to wait out the time. If they're not, then don't feel obligated, as your best interest is not what's on their mind. Have a *safe call* time set up with a friend. Be sure to call that person exactly when you're supposed to.
2.) Talk with and get to know the person first. Find out their interests, their experiences, get their phone number and information such as that. If they're unwilling to give that information to you before meeting/scening with them, walk away.
3.) If you are meeting someone from the internet, the first weekend should be a D/s free weekend. If you both consent, vanilla sex is fine, but keep it D/s free. Always be safe regarding the transmission of diseases and preganancy in any situation. Simply because you submit to someone or they submit to you does not mean that they are magically drug/disease free. The reason for this is to make sure that any chemistry you possessed on-line is still there in person and to insure that you've not taken into your home a very suave axe-murderer. One thing I'm sure a submissive doesn't want to experience is to be tied up and then to find that the person you're with is psychotic and needs to be committed.
4.) Always make sure the *Trust* issue is there. If you don't feel you can trust this person, then don't do anything with them. Everything in BDSM comes down to a very dangerous situation. Would you give this person your credit card and pin number for example? Why would you trust your life with them, if not?
5.) If for some reason, you do decide to scene with someone early into things, be sure that the scene is fully negotiated and that it is light in nature. I would not suggest any bondage the first time just to give the submissive the ability to pull out of things at any point. And always --always have safe words in place. And that holds true for any scene, even if it's someone that you've been scening with for years.
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