Long Distance Relationships and Useful Links

Not like many other couples, we goes through our marriage live 'separately' right after our sad 'goodbye' in Canada. Both of us went back to our own countries, started the immigration process and wait until we can be together again. In the mean time we goes through long-distance relationship again. We hope this will be the last time we do such thing... it is not all bad, but it really needs strong commitment and courage from both sides.

Being 10,000 miles apart from one another after marriage is not easy at all. Missing someone we do love is the hardest part. Just remembering our 10 days time together will surely bring tears to our eyes. But we need to pass through this critical period so we can be together for good, physically.

The hurdles which also become the challenges in LDR is how to 'stay close' to each other with such distance and how to be strong enough to survive the wait. What we do together mainly is maintain frequent contacts between us. Internet is really a useful device for us, and also for any other couples with LDR, I think. We send e-mails constantly. We chat everyday and though we are married now, we still use our 'bachelor' and 'bachelorrete' Yahoo ID :o) We also can talk to and see each other with microphones and webcam. Those are really great stuff ! They really help us to mend our lonely feelings and keep each other company from the distance. And the most important thing, they are also the cheapest way to communicate effectively !!

We also keep doing the more 'old-fashioned' way of communication, like phone calls, sending snail mails and gifts. We exchange many pictures of ourselves, so Dennis and I know what each other do and we can also 'experience' the other's moments. Dennis even prints out my pictures on big photo papers and makes posters of them and put them all over his bedroom walls. While I put his pictures in photo frames and put them everywhere in my room, including in my office room.

We plan to meet twice this year, sometimes in mid year and Christmas. Dennis came here last August for 10 days and met my families. We hope we will get some news from INS before Christmas, but nobody knows what will happen. So we better get prepared for everything. In the mean time we have to stay strong and strive to survive the wait. We are happy because actually we are not alone during this 'miserable' times. There are many people out there that share the same experience like us and they are more than happy to help and encourage us. I am sure they will also do the same to you who are in the similar situation like us. You can find this nice people on several useful links below :

Internet Romance Organization , this is a good site that dedicated to couples who meet on the internet. Provide advices on safe online romance and LDR.

British Expats Forum , site for any inquiries about immigration to many places around the world.

Visa Journey , very helpful site covering many major aspects on US marriage-based immigration. Lots of useful information, including some links to official USCIS website and downloadable immigration forms.

Asian American Couples , group of Asian - US couples going through immigration processes. Very helpful for couples who plan to immigrate to US.

Online Wives Club , group of women met their couples on the internet. Nice group with many useful stuff, from immigration to cooking recipe !

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