Marriage Proposal

"Commitment looks toward a future that cannot be seen, and promises to be there."

We fell in love with each other just less than 1 month after we first met online. But everything did not go easy for us. I have never known true love until I met Dennis. He understands me, he is always there whenever I need him, he supports me, gives me courage and self-respect, he is always by my side in every situation, and the most important thing... he always asks me just to be myself. With him, I grow into a 'better' person, and I always feel happy and content.

I have never felt that way before. I was involved with troubled man at that time, and he just did not want to let me go. I thought I loved him and owed him so much. But Dennis made me realize that that was not true. That was not love, and certainly not true love, and he helped me to get over with it. I know he didn't do that for his own sake, but it is for my own good. He only wanted me to be happy, with or without him. And what I had with that man was not happiness. I always got scared and did not dare to speak of myself. Dennis made me realize that I deserved something much better than that.

Finally, after went through some 'scary-nervous breaking' situation, I could get it over and we could be really together as couples without anyone standing between us. I am really thankful for Dennis and for all his kindness and patience that is beyond compare.

After around 2 months we became couples, Dennis really took our relationship seriously. He kept asking me if I would marry him, and I always said 'I don't know' or 'you are crazy'... (poor Dennis... :o)) But he didn't give up. He asked if I would at least consider it and I said yes. He was soooo happy... but it was not enough for him. I also told him that I need my parents' approval for it, but he said that wouldn't be a problem.

Dennis asked me again about it the next day and the day after and the day after until I finally said that I could not answer it on the net. At that time what I mean was he should come and see me in person to ask me about it. But Dennis is really a person full of creativity. He told me that he would disconnect from the internet and call me right away so he could ask that question in person ! And he did !!!

'Will you marry me ?' that what he said on the phone. I was speechless, I could not say anything... I've never had this kind of breath-taking experience before. There was a long silence, then I said 'I don't know what to say'. Dennis said, 'Well, you can say 'yes, I will' or 'no, I won't'. I took a deep breath, preparing my answer and finally I only could say one word: 'YES!'

Dennis was so happy and so do I. He told everyone he knew about it and bragged to everybody. He promised to talk with my parents about it and ask for their blessings. I was so excited, I have never thought that this thing could happen to me, and I have never thought that I would be this happy. That was really a great day of our lives.

A couple of weeks after Dennis proposed me, when we talked again on the net, we said our first 'marriage vows' online. We thought we needed rehearsal for it ... LOL !!! We typed our vows online and Dennis said it would not be legal without a witness. So he took his ferret, Lucy, and held her close to the monitor to become our witness :o))

Lucy as our 'witness'

We will treasure this moment forever !! That was the most romantic thing that we did on the net !!!

Dennis told his mom and families right away about me and about his plan to marry me. He comes from a 'very western' family so he really did not hesitate on telling anything about his doing. I also talked with his mom on the net, she is a very nice lady, she is very friendly and cheerful. She was glad that Dennis met me and she was so happy about our wedding plan.

On the contrary, I come from a 'very eastern' family that is a little bit conservative. So I was really careful in introducing Dennis to my parents and my brother. It is not very strange for Indonesian people meeting someone on the net, but it's also not very common to fall in love with someone that we have not really met in person. I was also a bit scared that my parents would get 'shocked', especially if they knew about the wedding plan, and they would forbid me to have relationship with him. But Dennis insisted that I should introduce him to my families and he wanted to meet them and asked their blessings as soon as possible.

So on September when my parents came to visit me in Jakarta, I introduced Dennis to them through the internet. They were quite surprised to know that I had an 'internet friend' and they were really amazed by how we could communicate very easily to anyone in this world. Dennis talked to them by voice, he even used his webcam and I translated for them. My mom knows English quite well, but my dad does not. They asked him many things, starting from where he comes from, his education, his jobs, his families... they were really curious about him...

In the end, it turned out that they liked each other quite well, including my brother. He even talked with Dennis in voice for hours ! I felt glad and soooo relieved ! At least now our families know about us and how we love each other. It was such a great feeling that they could get along together very well and did not have any objections on our relationship.