The
Beekeeper's Hive
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don't think it matters if two people have different
tastes in films or music or food. There are ways
around stuff like that. But I do think that it matters
if they have different desires in the bedroom. Or
wherever.
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- My
sexual tastes are for flavours beyond vanilla -
particularly for BDSM activities, with myself in the
dominant role. I have a fair amount of previous BDSM
experience but please note that I'm talking about a
recreational pleasure here, something that works in
the context of a wider existence, rather than a 24-7
situation. I have no wish to exert control over
somebody outside of consensual play situations that
can be instantly halted by a safe word.
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the same time, though, I take these play situations
seriously. I try to be the best I can at it. For one
thing, it's more fun that way. I love BDSM sessions
that are intense and fully engaging and perhaps a
little challenging. I love scenarios that last an
entire evening or maybe even a day or two. I also love
to suddenly and very briefly switch into dom mode in
an everyday public setting, with a single whispered
sentence while sitting in the cinema, for instance.
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- My
take on BDSM has several different slants. I'm not
into any one aspect of the scene to the exclusion of
all others. If it's kinky, I seem to like it! I enjoy
restraining (with rope, cuffs, scarves and so on) and
giving discipline (both hand spanking and using
implements like paddles and crops). My spare room
isn't full of complex dungeon equipment (like most
people's spare rooms, it's full of junk that I really
must get round to chucking out), but I'm proud of my
collection of hand-crafted implements that make swishy
and thwacky noises. When it comes to discipline and
BDSM toys, I am always conscious of the line between
pain and pleasure, and I have no wish to inflict any
pain of any sort which is not ultimately pleasurable.
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also like roleplay and am a great admirer of women in
fetish clothing. I generally find that I am turned on
by most BDSM roleplay scenarios, while leather,
rubber, PVC and uniforms are all equally exciting in
my book. Mind you, away from fetish fashions, I find
things like pencil skirts and cashmere tops sexy, too.
As for my own dressing tastes, I'm totally open to
suggestions. Left to my own devices, I'd probably
happily stick to one of my suits, but if my partner
has a particular thing about a particular type of
clothing, I'll wear whatever it is with pride. A
costume I had great fun wearing a few times consisted
of a 19th Century-style ruffled shirt, riding boots
and breeches, and an eye mask. Sort of Mr Darcy meets
The Lone Ranger, I guess.
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of the things that I like about BDSM is the fact that
it is not simply a physical experience. It's a brain
experience, too, and the mental side is of great
interest in me. As a writer, my work requires me to
have a good vocabulary and a good imagination - and I
like putting them to good use in BDSM situations. I
like giving verbal domination, and coming up with
power play games and little ideas designed to tease. I
have to admit that I really love to tease. I love
heightening the anticipation.
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I have talked about here is open for discussion - of
course! - because my biggest turn on of all is seeing
and hearing that my partner is turned on. And once a
play session is over, there will be plenty of warmth
and reassurance to return you to the everyday world in
one emotional piece. I'm extremely conscious of the
responsibilities that come with the role of a dom and
I take those responsibilities seriously. As I hope
you'll have gathered, I am both kinky and loving. I am
a fully-fledged human being not a sexual caricature,
with all of the many dimensions and contradictions
every human being has.
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with that in mind, setting aside most of what I have
talked about on this page, I sometimes also like to
taste the vanilla. That can be an awful lot of fun
too, you know.
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