What
Does The Bible Say About
Masturbation?
"What does
the Bible say about masturbation?" is one of our most frequently asked
questions. Many Christians have found it difficult to answer this question
according to the Bible, because the Bible never mentions masturbation specifically.
To understand how God feels about this subject, we must examine other verses
that deal with issues such as lust, self-control and purity. Also, we must
examine its fruit to see if it is from God. We have tried to address this
issue by answering some of the most frequently asked questions. Our prayer
is that God will use this page to bring freedom and deliverance.
"Does God care
about what we do in the privacy of our bedrooms?"
Sex is God's
invention. He is the mastermind behind it—and His creation is worth far
more to Him than it is to us. This beautiful expression of love was created
out of His own heart, as a gift to be experienced between a husband and
wife. It is only in marriage that this manifestation of intimacy can be
fully enjoyed in the depth for which it was created (Hebrews 13:4).
The more beautiful
and unique something is (like sexual intercourse), the more power it holds
over our lives, either for good or bad influence. That is why it so easy
for the devil to corrupt the most precious of God's gifts. When we become
more in love with the gifts than the One who endowed them, the things that
were designed to bless us begin to destroy us instead. Yes, God cares about
what we do with our bodies, in public or in private. He doesn't want us
to abuse ourselves in any way.
In fact, an
older definition of masturbation is "self-abuse." Although more modern
dictionaries may no longer carry this definition, they are still linked
together under self-abuse:
Self-abuse
noun¹
1. Abuse of
oneself or one's abilities.
2. Masturbation.
1 Corinthians
6:18 further confirms this, saying that unlawful sexual relations defile
our own bodies. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits
are outside his body but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
"Isn't it still
better to masturbate than to commit fornication?"
The easy answer
to this question would be, "Yes, it is better to masturbate, because at
best it corrupts only one person. It certainly is the lesser of two evils."
However, why would a loving, holy, all-powerful God abandon you to a situation
in which you have to choose any evil, whether it be "lesser" or "greater?"
To really answer this question, we must again go back to God's original
plan for sex.
First of all,
masturbation will not truly relieve the sexual pressure that one may feel.
It may for a short moment, but in the long run it only creates a deeper
desire and capacity for sex, which will lead to more masturbation. If you
let yourself become enslaved to a sexual high, you will find that you need
to go to increasingly extreme acts to maintain the same degree of excitement.
There are even ungodly sex therapists who recommend masturbation as a way
of increasing sexual desire, not lessening it. This creates a vicious circle,
like the junkie who craves a "fix," but is only temporarily satisfied.
The more he indulges in his dependency, the more ensnared by addiction
he becomes. This is the nature of all sin. That is why Jesus declared that
all who sin become a slave to sin (John 8:34).
Furthermore,
masturbation usually involves fantasy, visualization, and often pornography.
The Bible is very clear as to what God expects of us in these areas of
fantasy and lust. It teaches that we must not look lustfully at each other
and nor should we behave in such a manner as to entice others to lust after
us.
I made a covenant
with my eyes not to look with lust upon a girl. I know full well that the
Almighty God sends calamity on those who do (Job 31:1-3, The Living Bible).
You have heard
that it was said, "Do not commit adultery." But I tell you that anyone
who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her
in his heart (Matthew 5:28).
While the above
verses refer to men lusting after women, all women know that it can very
easily be reversed to apply to themselves as well. Men may be more easily
visually stimulated than women, but women can be just as vulnerable to
sexual fantasy in the emotional realm. Both are sin in God's eyes, and
both can be brought into subjection by controlling our thoughts through
Christ's power.
All sexual
immorality begins with a thought. A lustful thought not taken captive,
will eventually lead to other perversions, because sin reproduces itself
in increasingly greater measures. If we do not deal with our evil thoughts,
they will take root in our heart.
It is for this
reason that God is so concerned with our thought life. Jesus came not only
to deliver us from our "outward" sins, but also from wickedness that begins
in the heart.
"Isn't God
unreasonable to demand sexual purity after giving us sexual drives that
seem to overwhelm us at times?"
Our loving
God never demands from us what is impossible for us to do. We are so weak
within ourselves that it may seem impossible, but He will equip us with
His holy power to overcome any sin, if we ask in faith.
Of course,
sexual urges in and of themselves are not wicked. They are natural. God
created us that way. He desires that we get optimum pleasure out of them
by using them the way they were created to be used. However, many desires
for physical gratification (whether it be food, sex, etc.) stem from a
deeper need that is unfilled deep inside us. Gorging our flesh can never
fill a hunger that grows out of our spirit. Only intimacy with God can
fill the deepest needs inside of us. No other created thing has that power.
God is no more
unreasonable than any caring parent who lovingly disciplines their child.
It is only because He knows what is best for us. He sees a mighty potential
in each one of us that far supersedes our wildest dreams, and He loves
us enough to do all He can to bring it to pass.
"I agree with
all the theory, but living it out on a day to day level is another story."
This is the
place where we need the empowerment of the Holy Spirit in our everyday
lives. The Holy Spirit is not a vague "force," but the very power of God
to comfort you and strengthen you against the sins that used to rule you
before you were born again. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we have
the very ability that Jesus had to resist temptation. He depended completely
upon the Father and so must we.
Something you
must know is that God is not the one who is tempting you in this area to
"test" you. God is on your side and wants to set you free from these things,
not lead you into them! When tempted, no one should say "God is tempting
me." For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each
one is tempted when by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed
(James 1:13-14).
God wants us
to overcome every sin and temptation in our lives. Please slowly read the
following verses and let their message seep deep inside your spirit.
No temptation
has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will
not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,
he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it (1 Corinthians
10:13).
For though
we live in the world we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons
we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have
divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension
that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every
thought to make it obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:3-5).
In the same
way count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore
do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires.
Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness,
but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from
death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of
righteousness. For sin shall not be your master for you are not under law
but under grace (Romans 6:11-14).
For we have
not a high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities;
but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore
come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find
grace to help in time of need (Hebrews 4:15-16, King James Version).
Since we have
these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that
contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for
God (2 Corinthians 7:1).
"Can I really
be set free?"
In (this) freedom,
Christ has made us free—completely liberated us; stand fast then, and do
not be hampered and held ensnared and submit again to a yoke of slavery—which
you have once put off (Galatians 5:1 Amp).
If you are
in a real struggle with any form of sexual sin, we do not believe it was
by accident that God led you to this teaching. He wants to set you free,
starting right now! We would like to share several things that you can
do to break loose from this stronghold:
1. Confess
this sin first to God, then go to a committed Christian you trust, such
as your pastor. Ask God to lead you to someone that you can be accountable
with, who will be faithful to pray with you and for you. This will take
humility on your part, but it will lead to life. James 5:16 says: "Therefore
confess your sins to each other and pray for each other that you may be
healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." (You
may not feel "righteous" but if you have admitted your sin to God and received
His forgiveness, you are! That means your prayers are powerful and effective!)
We found a
site that deals with people who have had problems in the past with pornography.
Now they hold each other accountable and share what God has done in their
lives. If you think such a group may be of help to you, you might want
to visit this link. Porn Prayer Support (Christian support group)
2. Flee from
and reject anything that aggravates this sin. For example, you may need
to get off the Internet for a season or purchase software that blocks out
pornography. This may sound too drastic, but it certainly is mild compared
to Jesus who said, "If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and
throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body, than
for your whole body to go into Hell." (Matthew 5:30). His point was that
we must be willing to part with anything that causes us to sin—even if
it hurts temporarily.
3. You may
need to seek healing and deliverance from qualified Christians who are
anointed in this area of ministry. If you have been deeply involved in
sexual sins, the devil probably has a stronghold in that area your life.
If you can, find some people who can help you stand against the devil,
for he is the one who seeks to lead you into temptation, and whispers lies
of hopelessness and shame into your ears. If he drops a filthy thought
into your mind just when you are trying to pray (he has used this tactic
on even the holiest saints of God), tell him to leave in the name of Jesus!
Recognize his voice for what it is, and submit yourself to God. As you
do this and resist the devil, he will flee from you! He is deathly afraid
of those who are submitted to God in brokenness and humility.
4. Don't give
up! Deliverance might take time. Self-control takes effort. You may slip
occasionally—or even a lot. But remember that God loves you and He will
be faithful to perfect His character in you as long you keep submitting
to Him. Eventually you will win—and not because of your best efforts, but
because of God's mercy (Titus 3:5). Just as salvation is received in faith,
so deliverance must be received in faith. This has nothing to do with our
character, strength, or failings. The only thing it is dependant upon is
you receiving it in humility. If you should fail, recognize it quickly,
ask God to forgive you—and then receive His forgiveness! He is faithful
to do that which He promised, not just in a select few mighty men and woman
of God, but in all who are willing to come humbly before Him. That includes
you! We want to encourage you to hold on to this scripture as your anchor:
May God himself,
the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit,
soul, and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
The one who calls you is faithful and He will do it (1 Thessalonians 5:23-24).
If there is
anything else we can do to help you, please let us know. In closing, we
would like to pray for you:
"Father, we
thank you for bringing this person into our website. We know that it was
your Holy Spirit that led them here and we thank you for your faithfulness
to them! We lift them up to you now and ask that You fill them with a desire
for You that transcends every other desire they have ever known. Let them
know your cleansing love and power. We thank you that he whom the Son has
set free, is free indeed. We speak this freedom into the life of this one
whom the devil has bound in shame. We speak healing and deliverance and
we break every tie that has kept them under a spirit of addiction and perversion.
We stand against the Evil One and his every plan to bring destruction in
this one's life. Father, in faith, and by the power and authority You have
given us, we declare that this one is FREE in the name of Jesus! We commit
them to Your care and we loose Your Holy Spirit to minister to them at
this very instant. We ask these things in the precious name of Your son,
Jesus Christ."
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