What
Does the Bible Say About.....
Pornography?
Song of Solomon
2:15 says, "Take us the foxes, the little foxes, that spoil the vines:
for our vines have tender grapes." Foxes sometime in search of food would
enter into the grape orchards and devour the grapes and spoil the crop.
However, the little foxes were too small to reach the grape bunches so
they would chew on the vines and it would kill the whole vine. Instead
of the farmer just losing his crop, he would lose his vine which was more
disastrous. Spiritually some things we do or allow that
we might think
are little or insignificant can also be disastrous for us.
One of the
most devastating problems that has ensnared many good people is the sin
of pornography. Many of these same people will testify that they were ensnared
with just a "peek." This one "little fox" led to their downfall. Many,
out of curiosity, just went to a site to see what was there. This is one
of the devil's tricks to get people ensnared. Satan, is the power behind
this attraction to forbidden sexual images. People that are trapped today
can tell you there is an evil "drawing" that compels them to return again
and again. Many are desiring to be free, but seem hopelessly gripped by
this evil desire. We want to share the good news -- there is a way out
through Jesus Christ.
In the U.S.A.,
as well as many other nations of the world, our societies have become the
most sexually saturated societies in human history. Sodom and Gomorrah
might be the only exceptions. America's pornography industry is not only
pervasive, but powerful as well. It generates more than $12 billion in
revenue annually. In 1997, more than 665 million pornographic videos were
sold. On the Internet, there are more than 72,000 pornographic sites. Sexually
explicit "900 number" phone calls are a $2.4 billion-a-year industry. ¹
From the Internet
to video stores to magazines and "900 numbers," pornography can be easily
accessed nearly anywhere in America. This involvement is not limited to
world at large, as surveys reveal the Christian community is highly involved
in this evil snare of perversion too. How did this happen? What can be
done to help people get free from this bondage? What does the Bible offer
as hope to those ensnared in sin?
God has called
the church to be the answer to the problems facing those addicted to pornography.
God hates this sin, but He loves the sinner and wants to set them free.
Many marriages are being destroyed by this evil, as after the addiction
of pornography has set in, then the normal marital relationship with their
spouses is no longer satisfying. Many husbands then want their wives to
partake in bizarre sexual behavior with them or use sexual toys as stimulants.
Some couples even watch erotic videos together to arouse each other before
they engage in sex. These abnormal approaches to what God intended to be
a wonderful relationship, defiles them. Instead of finding satisfaction...
guilt, shame, and dissatisfaction set in. True love and intimate sharing
is replaced with raw lust. What God meant to be the most beautiful experience
between two people becomes a hellish depravity. God can, and will restore
this relationship if they will call on Him. There is absolutely nothing
that is outside of God's ability to forgive, deliver, heal and restore.
How Did This
Happen?
How did our
world arrive at a time in history that has so much emphasis on sexual perversions?
This did not happen overnight. When the church failed to maintain a holy
standard and example to the world, the world's evil influence gained momentum
and now has saturated our society. Little by little, the church lowered
her standards. Instead of the church influencing the world, the opposite
happened, the world influenced the church. The church began to watch movies
that each year became a little more dirty, a little more violent, a little
more immoral, a little more deviant, a little more crazy and a little more
erotic. Now today, there are unspeakable things on film that come directly
from hell. They were inspired by the devil himself. These "little foxes"
are now raging wolves. Sin and evil are progressive. Several layers of
gray have now become black.
An example
of how this happened in the area of women's dress, would be to observe
the progression of women's styles. Women's hem lines have gone up while
the necklines have gone down. It didn't start by going from ankle length
to above the knees overnight. It took years for the ladies in the church
to gradually adopt this revealing attire that others were wearing. Most
Christian women on stage look no different than those in Hollywood. I am
not saying that we should wear our hair in buns with no make-up. However
we don't have to look like the women of the world. We can be stylish and
attractive without being immodest and lustful in our dress. Today young
girls come to prayer meetings in shorts and crop tops and never think any
thing about it. Before you call me prudish ( I will admit I am old fashioned,
yet in my school days we didn't experience the sexual violence that is
happening today), let me share where I am going with this.
My husband
and I, while pastoring the church, prayed with many young and not-so-young
men, who were deeply disturbed as they were having problems keeping their
minds on the Lord. The distraction ---- pretty young girls who would attend
services in shorts, ultra tight jeans, short skirts, or low cut dresses.
The men did not want these lustful feelings and were sincerely fighting
to keep their thoughts pure. Most of the young girls were totally oblivious
to the fact that they could be contributing to a man's temptation toward
lust. I remember an incident when several people were gathered around a
man to pray for him for healing. One of the young girls who wore a sleeveless
and low cut top kneeled down at his feet while others stood in a circle
around him to pray. I happened to be standing over her and looking down
as we started to bow our heads and pray I could see her breasts above her
low cut bra. The thought came to me how these young men must struggle to
pray when they could see the same view as I saw.
What Can Women
Do To Help Men Get Free From This Bondage?
Most of the
indulgence in porno is done by men, although some women come under its
power too. However, since this affects everyone in the family, it is a
family problem. It must be addressed as a family issue. One of the things
that I believe women are doing today, that is adding to this problem, is
the way in which they dress. The goal of many young girls today is not
dressing to be well groomed and attractive, but rather to be sexy. Sex
crimes and rapes have soared in numbers and women's dress habits have contributed
to this problem. I believe because we have not taught our daughters to
dress modestly it has contributed to these crimes. We must teach our sons
and daughters morality and return to Bible standards if we are to see this
problem reversed.
Men no longer
have to go to houses of prostitution to see women's unclad bodies. They
can go to any beach or public swimming pool in the world or just watch
the ads on T.V. It is really a disgrace to the church when our young daughters
are allowed to wear bikini swimsuits and many of the mothers wear them
too. I am not excusing men and their porno habits but we women must also
change if we expect the men to get free from their sin. The Bible speaks
about how women should be attired:
Proverbs 11:22,
"As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without
discretion."
1 Peter 3:1-5,
"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any
obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation
of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair,
and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the
hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament
of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted
in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands."
How To Be Free
From Pornography
(1.) You need
to first of all repent of your sin and ask Jesus to come into your heart
and cleanse you and deliver you from this evil. No sin is too black or
wicked that the blood of Jesus cannot cleanse you from it. The Bible says
in:
1 John 1:9-10,
2:1-2: "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our
sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have
not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us. My little children,
these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we
have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous: And he is
the propitiation (the atoning sacrifice) for our sins: and not for ours
only, but also for the sins of the whole world."
(2.) Because
pornography is a spiritual problem you will need spiritual help in getting
free from it. By partaking of this evil you have opened yourself up to
demonic control. You may need someone who has the gift of the Holy Spirit
to pray deliverance over you. You should seek out a Bible believing church
that believes in deliverance and knows how to deal with demons. The Lord
will lead you in this matter if you ask Him. Do not allow pride to prevent
you from getting help and getting free if you need it.
James 4:7-8,
"Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee
from you. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your
hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded."
(3.) As you
commit your life to Christ and obey Him you can get the victory because
you are not fighting this battle alone, but you have access to the power
of Christ and what He did for you.
Romans 6:12-18:
12 Let not
sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the
lusts thereof.
13 Neither
yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield
yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members
as instruments of righteousness unto God.
14 For sin
shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under
grace.
15 What then?
shall we sin, because we are not under the law, but under grace? God forbid.
16 Know ye
not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye
are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?
17 But God
be thanked, that ye were the servants of sin, but ye have obeyed from the
heart that form of doctrine which was delivered you.
18 Being then
made free from sin, ye became the servants of righteousness.
(4.) Today
men and women must war in this culture to maintain their sexual purity.
This battle is a battle in the mind. You must cast down imaginations that
do not agree with the Bible and quote the Word of God over your body and
mind.
2 Corinthians
10:3-5 "For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh:
(For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God
to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every
high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing
into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ."
(5.) You must
stay away from the area of temptation and destroy all videos, games, magazines,
etc. that are pornographic. If you must use the computer in your work environment,
you should employ a filter service for your ISP so that those evil invitations
do not enter your e-mail and cannot be accessed by your browser. We are
presently working with a company to make a filtered service available to
all who want to keep pornography, violence, and hate sites off of their
computers. If you would be interested in Filtered ISP Service you may sign
up for information that will soon be forthcoming. Click here to send
us an email to sign up. (Specify you are interested in the Filtered ISP
Service.)
1 Corinthians
6:18-20: "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body;
but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What?
know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in
you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with
a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which
are God's."
(6.) Should
you stumble or fall, do not stay down. Just ask the Lord to forgive you
and start again in your walk with Him. Ask Him to empower you to overcome.
You cannot do it in your strength. Just remember that in Him you can do
all things.
Philippians
4:13: "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me."
(7.) If you
need prayer we will stand with you for your victory. You can write us through
the prayer room. You need not give your name. The Lord will know who you
are. Remember, the Lord loves you and so do we. Blessings! E-mail us through
the PRAYER ROOM.
(8.) If
your life or marriage has been devastated by sexual addiction we highly
recommend a book that has been helpful to many called An Affair of the
Mind by Laurie Hall. This amazing book is published by Focus On The Family
and written from the first-hand perspective of a wife whose husband was
addicted to pornography for over 20 years. This powerful book delves deep
into many facets of sexual addiction. The principles in this book, if applied,
can save many marriages and restore even those who are most bound to sexual
addiction. You can purchase it from our Chapel Bookstore.
In summation,
many are snared by just a "peek" or just a little curiosity in regard to
pornography. Don't allow any little things that could lead to a pornography
addiction. Calendars or pictures of naked women, Playboy magazines or movies
with erotic sexual scenes are just a few of the things that can open the
door for a greater entanglement into the pornography trap.
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