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       It appears that parents can be the best teachers in the childhood of children in terms of shaping behaviours, attitudes and personalities, as the parents teach them what they can do and what they cannot do. As the children grow, the direct influence of the parents to teach their children decreases, though children still observe the parents and learn what they should and should not out of it.

       The parents are the definitely the best teachers when the children are very young, as parents are the first ones to teach and shape their behaviour, attitude and personalities that are foundation of their permanent characteristics later their lives. The parents teach the children manners, morals, common sense and so on in order to get them socialised so that they can fit into the society. For example, the parents should teach their children how to behave in public, which kind of attitudes that they should have towards others. The parents also make the children learn to be patient, gentle and so forth. AS for the personality, the influence of the teaching by the parents may be strong when the children are in their early childhood, as their worlds are small and are the largest influence are from the parents. If the parents teach them to be gentle, it is likely that the child would be so at leats before they grow up. This personality, formed in the childhood, may be changes as the child grows and got affected by other factors outside family, but it still remains to some extent whole through his or her life. On the basis, ti can be said that the parents are the best teachers in their childrenfsf childhood.

       When the children grow up, however, it seems that the teaching roles of the parents gradually but significantly drops, for children come to have wider world than family making friends or boy/girlfriends with others and for children have to learn what parents do not know. After the children grows up to some certain age, most significantly at their high teen ages, they come to learn about life from their own experience, friends and others that surround the children. This is because the children establish their own view and attitude that are often different from their parents, thus cone not to learn from the parents any more. Moreover, when the children get into the high school or university, what the children learn at school usually goes beyond the capacity of the parents, thus it is impossible for them to teach their children.

       One thing that should be noted that the parents might teach the children indirectly even after they grow up to certain ages. Because parents and children often live together, children have chances to observe their parents. When they are young, they may just imitate the behaviours of the parents. When they grow up, they observe and judge if what the parents do is good. If they think it is good, they can learn to do the same or if they do not like it, they can learn not to do that themselves. For example, if a parent loves tobaccos too much and end up getting cancer after all, the child may learn smoking does you bad. On the other hand, if the child like their parens being nice to the elderly, you may learn to do the same. This leads to a consideration that the parents can be a good teacher in an indirect sense even after they grow up, though they may not be the best ones any more.