How exalted is your special love?

SEXUAL:  Chemical reactions.  Animal nature.  Emotional longing. Physical fulfillment.  How much do you know each other?  How long would it last?  Curiosity?  Conquer or be conquered?  Experiment? Use it or loose it?  Instant gratification?  It is all about now!?  Looked and felt great, but how genuine were the sweet acts or the dreaming words?  Well, yours may be more than just sex ...

FONDNESS:  For some reasons you fell in LOVE.  The dress, the eye-contact, the voice, the smile, the body-built, the leg, the hair, the look, the warm heart;  exciting, submissive, rich, capable, romantic, cute, sweet, good-cook, home-child-loving, eloquent, versatile, talented, quick-minded, polite, affectionate, considerate, gentle, generous, sexy, loyal, famous, powerful, popular, perfect, practical, reliable, brave, in-style, fashionable, fair-minded, socialable, fun, mysterious, tolerant, sincere, wise, successful, strong, diligent, obedient, thrifty, compassionate, reasonable, knowledgeable, faithful, righteous, educated, friendly, gifted, humble, pitiful, respectful, good-feelings, all in all good-just-like-me or bad-just-like-me (for some people)...  Finally you have found your Mr./Miss Prefect, and are ready to commit..  Wait!  Nobody is perfect.  What you see may not be what you get; especially when your heart is beating hard, your brain is bewitched, and your eyes are dreaming.  How much you are true to each other?  What have you tried to hide from each other?  Have you seen the other side of the person?  The questionable past, the un-romantic private living or habits, the money problems, the career worries, the possible disease, the swing of emotions, the hidden motives, the greed, the fear, the control freak, the reasoning deficiency, the inmaturity, the family discord, and all sorts of human imperfections. After you have digged out some of the truth, now do you want to call it quit before it is too late?  Or you prudently consider to stay the course and move on to the next level of love ...

GRACE:  Even though we are different and deficient in some ways, love survives by grace.  Love with sufficient grace is true and enduring.  RESPECT for individuals.  True love between two unrelated individuals is not to be taken for granted in this world of lies.  It is not born naturally.  It is learned.  The capacity to love truly is a form of maturity, of evolution in personal life.  Not everybody can attain this exaltation.  True love is not just charming words, nor an empty promise.  It takes maturity, determination, knowledge, wisdom, and practice.  When a person has learned truly how to love cherish and develop oneself, he may begin to know how to extend the same love to the other being.  It would be the same way as loving himself and no more.  He may expand and focus on the other person so great that he forgets all about himself.  True love could become selfless.  Selfless love represents simply a change in priority for the moment, and the loved one receives a higher priority over the love-giver.  The capacity of love remains the same as what has been developed.  Love is so great that vanities and ego are laid aside.  Power struggles and the urge to control have no place in a truly healthy relationship.  Being GRATEFUL is the key to the hearts and a true relationship.  Here arrives the next higher level.  Love would not be complete without mercy.

MERCY:  Have mercy on your one and only, like your parents did on you, like the Heavens and the earth have accommodated you.  Sickness, emotional distress, human shortcomings, and aging all would bring trying times to both of you.  Sadness hopelessness or hurt could be so much that it is almost impossible to bear.  Grace alone has reached its limits.  Yet your love is so true and worthy that the selfless part of you shines and overcomes the inconceivable.  Mercy comes to the rescue.  Complete love is exalted enduring true love.  Receive it with humility and gratitude.  Help yourself worthy of it, if you so wish.

Sex without true love is only sex.  True love without sex remains true.  Due to sickness injury stress or aging in particular, sooner or later, sex as an intriquing component of love will fade away.  It is inevitable.  As true love develops and evolves, it will stand on its own in time when sex is absent or even gone.  Sex is not to be mistaken as true love.  True love is capable of overwhelming the lure of sex.  Make no mistake.  Sex is really powerful, yet true love is even more and greater.  Fixation on sex could lead you to miss the point.  If true love is the main course, sex is the appetizer or dessert.  Sex alone gives short temparary empty pleasure and relief, and it will soon be hungry and thirsty again.  True love delivers lasting peace contentment and happiness in fullness.  Once you have tasted it, you would have already lived a truly unforgettable and fulfilled life.  If sex were a hamburger, true love would transform it into the steak.  Many were quick to grab the hamburger, yet only a few had patience to prepare and experience the steak.

Love without grace and mercy is romance -- love of Hollywood style.  Enjoy while it lasts, while the iron is still hot.   A child's play.  

Love with grace could be a very respectable relationship.  Lovers may want to pray that nothing too dire or trying should happen to them. 

Grace without love is like tap water, daily essential with no much taste.  It is the consequence of a choice made at a young age.  Or the choice was actually not that inadequate.  It is just that the spark somehow died out ...  The flower of love needs sunshine water and nutirents.  The lovers need to grow and progress, too.  Fall in love again!  It is appropriate and could be done at any age, even 99.

Mercy without love is monkish.

Powerful and intense, sexual love is no true love, and everybody could do it.  Powerful intriguing and dreaming, self-serving romantic love is no true love neither, and too many people had it.  True love moves further, beyond physical attractions, security in materials need, and the intoxicated romantic mind.  True love stems from the good foundation of inner beauty and strengths.  It is sober, knowing where it really stands, and seeing the future.  It is being true to each other.  It is the preparedness to overcome and triumph.  It is focused mainly on a pursuit of meaningful pruposes, not on futile desires.  Fear is displaced by courage;  Intimidation is banished with gentle patient guidance;  Emotional swings are tempered with gracious maturity;  The self-serving mind evolves into the higher ground of thoughts;   Visions words and actions are guided by wise considerations.  True love is profound, righteous, holy, and transcendent.  It grows and prospers on the good worthy soil of character of the lovers.  It is precious and maybe rare.  If you seek, you would find it.

DISCERN it when Mr/Miss Right is sent to you by heavens; be brave for especially those who are usually shy in love (many ladies and some gentlemen); explore the realities and the truths;  and finally if perceptions are positively confirmed then share your very warm cherished heart for an endless timeless truly loving relationship. Or be damned.

True love sets you free.  Others will drag you into the bondage of sex emotions greed confusion resentment and fear.   Sexual compatibility is no love, still just empty good convinient sex.  If the relationship remains unfulfilled in love, disappoints are just around the corner, closer than you think.  Sweet romance is no love.  When the truths strike, the self-serving mind will turn an eye on the exit, and wishful dreams will be tramped.  Romance ends abruptly or lives a gradual death.

When temptations distractions fears pride prejudice selfishness setback emotions or disappointments attack, defend with your strength of character.  Discern the threat with your wisdom; temper your good heart with a grain of salt; and resist with your righteous strong will.  Good character provides a worthy fertile soil for growing true love.  When the strength of character is weak, love suffers!

You are very attractive!  What is your primary attractiveness?  Sexy appeal, Gorgious look, tempting youthfulness, soul-absorbing eyes, charismatic nose, delicious lips, powerful smiles, sweet talks, prosperous ears, fashion, big fame, high social status, prestigious professions, or wealth?  What are you trying to attract?  Don't you forget your subtle inner treasures, because you will rely on it to attract the real thing?

What are you trying to attract and capture?  Vanities for feeling good in front of others?  Relationships to escape the dreadful loneliness?  Security for daily living?  When vanity making a surprise turn into a disgrace, when relationships having a change in heart, when security becoming insecure, what else do you have left then?  Emptiness.  Did you think that the real thing came by default with vanities relationships or security which you had captured before?  Or did you suppose that you could do without the real thing anyway?

Vanity chasing vanity, relationship looking for relationship, security needing security, the real thing seeks out the real thing!  Would you like to be the real thing to be seeked after?

Could you live gracefully without a mask of vanity?  Do you know how to live loneliness in peace and hope?  Knowing that there is no such thing named security in the world, could you still live in peace grace and courage?  If yes, then you have got it, and the real thing will be attracted to you.

Remember the COMMITMENT, which is not only the icing on the cake of love but the glue and the cement of a lasting loving future.  Love may no longer be sealed with a kiss nowadays.  Commitment would do a better job.  Keeping a strong commitment with the will-power and the strength of great character does make a difference.

Is your love built on the sands or the rock?  Are you two willing and adequately equipped to pay the price for the gold medal of love?