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Thoughts on Aging Tori

[Original entry 04.feb.2007 // Edited 09.april.2007]

 

It always made me curious how Tori would age. Of course, in her early forties Tori isn't old-old, but she's obviously turned a page.  And honestly, I'm surprised with how she's handled the issue of aging.

First thing that comes to mind are her looks. Although Tori has always been known for her profound interest in making oneself beautiful on the inside, truth is girl hasn't lost one minute taking care of the outside either. But there's a long way from the fiery redhair that who used to wear thight bodysuits to the sophisticated fairy matron who goes onstage every night wrapped in layers of rich colorful tissue to. My point is exactly, what are the pivotal elements underlying this process and what do I find unsettling about it?

As time's gone by Tori's devoted an ever growing efford to keep herself looking good. This efford has implied building a classier  image through expensive clothing (which has raised among some fans the issue whether she's  become a snob, or not. Matter which I find of no true relevance), and creating a youthful allure through heavy make up, fancy hairdos, and all sort of beauty treatments, specially those concerned with avoiding facial wrinkling.

It is hard bringing my point forward, because I am not attacking Tori directly. I've always admired her, and I think she's gorgeous. So let me elaborate further.  I do not have anything against people doing things to feel good about themselves, what I feel unconfortable with is how in our society "good" will very much be equated with "youthful". This equation cancels out a lot in our lives and benefits but a few.

There are this million-worth industries interested in making us think our natural bodies are unsuitable, so that we go and spend whatever we can afford to in changing who we are. I guess it is OK when you have an enormous income, but I don't like how we are pushed through advertisement to consacrate SO MUCH of our time and money to that cause, being looked down  if we chose not to follow this state.  Besides, there's the eternal gender issue: wherever an old man will be regarded as experinced, wise, interesting, mature, charming, an old woman will be harshly judged as sloppy and be sent home to get herself some beauty rehab in order to continue being valuable. Women get so much more belittlement  than men do! Specially  on the ground of looks. The silent statenebt  is that women ARE their looks, that that's their worth and  their main function in life. According to this, women's sense of life is being beautiful to please. I regret we put so little effort in making e a case for having our say on this one.

And the thing is, I always thought Tori would make more of a case about it. That's all I am saying here. I hoped she would address this issue in the strong femininist vein she loves using for other issues. I expected Tori to age more naturally and appeal to a less frivolous vision of woman. I don't mean she should look shaggy and cancel lipstick...I just wish she's be less involved in the women-object apparel.

On the other hand, I understand what a though call it must be for her living on the entretainment industry, ever demanding, ever  competitive. She needs stay in, she needs meeting some basic business standars in order to keep being part of a huge record company. I don't blame her at all. At 43 Tori is as great a musician as ever, but, unfortunatedly, we live in a cruel world where looks count a great deal, and women are looked down for aging. I think I can sort of get Tori on this one. 

I would just love to her to know how much I've always admired her for being a source of inspiration though her music, of comfort thought her honest sharing; that she's always been great not just for what she looks like, but for what she's been able to give to the world. I admire and respect her enormously, always despite her age and what she looks like. 

True talent will remain forever ageless.

 

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A very nice thought on the topic:

"The beauty myth countered women's new freedoms (social, laboral) by trasposing social limits to women's lives directly onto our faces and bodies. In response, now we must ask the questions about our place in our bodies that women a generation ago asked about their place in society.

What is a woman? Is she what is made of her? Do a woman's life and experience have value? If so, should she be ashamed for them to show? What is so great about looking young?[...] Assuming that someday women can be altered cheaply, painlessly, and with no risk, is that to be what we must want? Must the expressiveness of maturity and old age become extint? Will we lose nothing if it does? look like someone else? Is  there something implicitly gross about the texture of female flesh? The inadequacy of female flesh stands in for the older inadequacy of the female mind. Women asserted  that there was nothing inferior about their minds; are our body really inferior?"

(Naomi Wolf, "The Beauty Myth")

 

 

 

 

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