New Preface 4 November 2002
This page turned off someone I was emailling, maybe I should change it. I suppose I am looking to get better at the relationship game, I suppose that is the main game of life. Do I try to change or do I develop better masks, or like everything there is a balance to be struck. Is that a Marx/Heglian thesis, antithesis, synthesis rearing up in all I consider. Marriage as a strict goal, memoryless and risk free interaction as the antithesis and the synthesis being to see both possibilities in every relationship. Broker and negociate with the other for maximum (mutual) benefit, whether unconscious or deliberate this is the way of the world, and is actually upbeat in that relationships be of benefit to both parties, everyone should happily gain, unless they are blocking better relationships. A bit cold but really the cynical view of the world keeps me attached to it, instead of daydreaming all the time. I hope you at least enjoy this risk free page, even if I do not get to know you. I am too serious in this part of the page and too off hand in the rest. I need this contrast, if one mask does not fit there is an option for another.
September 2002 information follows
FRESHMEAT FOR GOOGLE are google singles really that far away?
Just a quick set up to see if a profile can get picked up through Google
without using any of the singles pages.
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Currently [sept2002] off the meat market as I have a most excellent partner
who I may lose at any stage, not by my choice, it is the relationship game.
But I'll talk to anyone especially if they realise the above.
Cultural differences between Belarus/Russian (female) and Irish (male) would be a favourite topic.
better add some google searchable keywords wealthy Russia Belarus marriage
what might women be looking for kind gsoh good sence of humour no car
I am cheating now, house, job, computers, hey why not German French.
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July 2002 information follows
I sometimes use redbaron666 as my nickname when my normal name is not used.
Things people might search on to get here
male Heterosexual 29 30 31 32 33 (I am 32 but young at heart)
5ft 11, 6ft
Dublin Ireland Single unmarried
Looking for Dublin based female 27-34 for tentative friendship
Contact
totNOSPAMierne
at
hotmail.com
4 year old picture
I would be amazed to get your email.
Profile 1
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totNOSPAMierne
Caucasian Male, 32, Single
FU004483
Dublin, Dublin, Ireland
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General
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Just a quick intro to me, work in computers, though seek
an escape to
more culturally diverse pursuits, through reading,
writing, acting,
salsa dancing, medium to poor attempts
to social network and any
number of stop gap measures. I seek someone
to share the odd day a
week in conversation, with enough distance to walk away
in 30 seconds
(a quote from the film Heat). I am a
bit awkward and a lot manic
depressive (these things may be related) so there is more
than one me
to get to know. I like the proclaimers, as Austrailians
used to sing
proclaimers songs to me and my brother a lot
due to our red haired
bespeckledness. Have a blast/ nice day. Whatever.
Gender:
Male
Age:
32 (01-Jan-1970)
Race:
Caucasian
Marital Status:
Single
Religion:
Catholic
Drinking:
Light/social drinker
Smoking:
Non Smoker
Occupation:
I.T/Communications
Education:
Graduate/Masters Degree
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Languages:
English (Fluent)
French (Minimal)
Interests
Politics
Cycling
Computers / Internet
Theatre / Ballet
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Appearance
_________________________________________________________________
Conservative, casual shirt and trousers.
Eye Colour:
Green
Hair Colour:
Red
Body Type:
Average
Height:
5'7"-5'11" (170cm-180cm)
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Looking For
_________________________________________________________________
I am a bit of a disaster I hang around looking for someone
presentable
who likes me and then fall on them from a height. Its
a thing, not
good, but maybe not the worst complaint. Lets get caught
in a serious
feedback loop! [not sure whether I should have said that...
start
small and who knows where we will end up]
Gender:
Female
Age from:
27
Age to:
34
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Relationship:
Activity Partner
Friendship
Marriage
Relationship
Romance
Casual
Profile 2
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[:] Male
[:] Heterosexual (straight)
[:] 31 - 35
[:] 78 Kg - 86 Kg (14 stones) ( 181 lbs -
190 lbs)
[:] 179 cm - 183 cm (5'11" - 6')
[:] "Height-weight" proportionate
[:] Capricorn
[:] I look like anyone else walking down the
street
[:] No, I do not have any body art
[:] Red hair
[:] Short straight hair
[:] Wild Green eyes
[:] I wear fashionable glasses
[:] Living with flat/housemate(s)
[:] I'm not in a relationship right now
[:] Single
[:] I don't have any children
[:] I'm Irish/Celtic
[:] Dublin
[:] I reside in a detached house
[:] Bicycle
[:] I have my own computer and can login often
[:] #30,001 - #40,000 GB
[:] Technical/Science/Engineering/Research/Computers
[:] I would like to meet someone close to
my age
[+] Master's degree
[+] Snow skiing/Snow boarding
[+] People watching
[+] Rock & Roll
[+] Sure, I believe, but I rarely go to services
[+] Cat
[+] A romantic dinner in Paris
[+] Summer
[+] I'd meet someone at a party, club, or
public place
[+] My hand is glued to the remote
[+] Drama
[+] Other news magazine
[+] Indian food
[+] Money is the means, not the end
[+] I ride the fence
[+] I'm not homosexual, but it doesn't offend
me
[+] I drink socially
[+] I occasionally smoke good cigars
[+] It doesn't matter
[+] I can't believe I get paid to do this!
[+] All drugs should be legal, but I wouldn't
use them
[+] Fashion is a joke
[+] Local clubs
[+] Catholic
[+] Looking for someone local
[+] Anywhere is fine with me
[+] Yes, I love to attend parties
[+] If it's the right person, anything can
happen
[+] I go out on weekends
[+] I cook only when I have to
[+] Scouting for others to do things with
[ [non-matching question] - non-matching question, [matches
you] -
matches you, [doesnt match you] - doesn't match you ]
Essay Answers:
Describe the type of person you might be interested in
meeting (either
romantically or platonically). What traits do you find
attractive?
Can get used to anything(*)
(*) but avoid the top 10% and bottom 10%,
which gives me 80% to play with,
does that make me Liberal or Conservative,
or just tired of chasing and no reasonable offer refused?
What personal habits of others really irritate you?
Repitition and bad speeling.
Describe your personality and physique. (Here is a good
place to make
up for not having a photo on-line or telling things photos
can't
tell).
On a good day anything is possible and I chat away like a
chipmunk. On a bad day, its like I have the worst hangover
imaginable. I realise people prefer the slightly up inbetween
days but 'He who twists my dial' seems to have a very nasty
and repetitive sense of humour.
Which virtues give you most of your self confidence? If
you could
change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
My self confidence comes from it me (and maybe you) against
the world, bizare heroic child like fantasies, but you have
got to dream. Anyone against dreaming shall be first against
the wall come the revolution.
Where have you met most of your current friends? Describe
your social
circle of friends.
Never trust anyone you met after they were 30. (Bad joke).
Trust builds like a coral thing, slow building but gets pretty
big. Must try harder to get to know more local people, hence
half baked endevours like this one.
What is your insight into spirituality, and how do you
practice this
belief?
Spirituality weighs heavy enough on my head I must free myself
from it, there are many things to be known and investigated
rather than falling back on (Christian) dogma.
From Confusious Analects:
Fan Ch'ih asked what constituted wisdom. The Master said, "To
give one's self earnestly to the duties due to men, and, while
respecting spiritual beings, to keep aloof from them, may be
called wisdom." He asked about perfect virtue. The Master
said, "The man of virtue makes the difficulty to be overcome
his first business, and success only a subsequent
consideration; -- this may be called perfect virtue."
But I fail (from Becket - try again, fail again, fail better)
, I shadow box with great questions (to no effect) and leave
chores undone. It is not unusual as Tom Jones would say!
Do you belong to any organizations, clubs, teams, or special
interest
groups?
I play a few sports socially (squash, softball, badmington and
indoor soccer) and meet a few people through them. The way to
meet people is to know people !
Favorite pastime? Sport? Hobby? Diversion? Just what goes
on Sundays
at your place?
Sleep is a big thing, and reading the papers. (Sunday Business
Post)
How would you characterize your political leanings? (i.e.
Democrat,
Republican, Reform, Libertarian, Independent, radically
left/right,
don't care).
I'll see your left wing and double it. I went to the Socialest
Workers Party meetings for a while but was not activist enough
to do anything about it.
What language(s) do you speak, read or write?
Tiny amounts of French, Irish and German
If you could 'Do Lunch' with anyone, who would it be?
Bobby Fischer (had not really thought about it, but basically
some mad genius, maybe I should have said John Nash ...)
If you were to meet someone for the first time, what would
be the
"perfect" setting?
A mutual friends party. (Just reliving last time I met a
special someone).
What is "SEXY"? What do you find "SEXY" in a partner?
Not into this at the moment, but I am a man and will probably
change my mind damn fast!
What type of music do you enjoy? List performances or concerts
you
have attended.
The Proclaimers, I listen to CDs at work and get grow to like
most things (but my CDs are over borrowed, but its better to
be down a CD or two than get paranoid 'All property is
theft'..) Jack L, U2, Billy Bragg.
List some of your favorite lines from movies, poems, songs
or
commercials.
Nothing comes up, stage fright or maybe just mild dyslexia!
What are your all-time favorite movies and/or actors?
Total Recall, Blade Runner, A Beautiful Mind.
Actor John Cusack
Where do/did you attend high school and/or college? What
are/were your
favorite subjects in school?
St. Colmans College Newry
Trinity Hall, Cambridge
UMIST Manchester
I thought it all meant something, I could have been a
contender, but now I have forgotten it all!
Where were you born? What is your ethnic origin or ancestry?
List some
of the places you have lived or traveled.
Travelled all over Europe, lived in Holland and Canada,
travelled briefly to U.S.A., Cuba and India.
What type of work do (did) you do? How long have you been
(were you)
in that line of work? Do (did) you enjoy it?
I used to enjot computing but competence is drifting from my
fingers and my skills pale in comparison to younger employees
and my piers are reaching management positions. (Sigh).
If you could pick one super-human power (such as comic-book
characters
have) what would you choose?
The ability to listen and think at the same time.
Someone may want to say "hello", but not know how to get
the ball
rolling. Ask a question that someone can answer in their
first letter
to you.
What interests you most about your work and why?
What are some of your life-long goals? Where would you
like to be in 2
years? In 5 years?
I would like to be more organised, I have never planned goals,
I live life one day at a time.
Any additional comments? Is there anything that the questionnaire
didn't cover?
I am daft as a brush (bipolar/manic depression), and expect
anyone contacting me to have at least one major personality
defect. We will, like true adults be thus able to have a
ritual slagging match, without waiting nervously for our 'True
Selves' to be uncovered.
