If you cannot find something you can both (fake if necessary) interest in you may as well go home - or go to a club with really loud music and eye the other up and down. Hmmm not that bad a strategy. Learn to eye the other up and down - its what everyone wants. Etiquette is death, or there to be cheated, like Americans try to cheat death. Is picking on Americans part of or a break from etquette? They love it really, if there is one thing worse than being talked about it is not being talked about - wilde,[or livid - [Monty Python Salmon]] Womanising - wait around for one to pick you up and spit you out. Or at least not mind you hanging around like a bad smell. Finding woman you like is far too easy, finding easy women er I mean woman that like you is hard, especially if doing a quick cost benifit analysis are prepared to take no significant risk, if they are looking and you are looking you can find each other, if either of you is playing hard to get: well its lonely out there!
There are other strategies: the 1% rule, go for the ugliest of a bunch of women [as seen no a beautiful mind], do stuff[recomended], the best way to know people is to know people [and you can practice your banter on mutually acknowledged dead targets] there is also the lion and the zebra example, pick your [not too attractive] zebra early do not get distracted by the others and wear them down [your hungrier/better long distance than they are].. If and only if another zebra bears herself infront of your jaws - maybe bite, having a far off target makes you seem less desperate. [Or zebras just stay out of radar range, and if distracted your radar range goes right down.] Stop making sense.
Just a mixture of experience, bitterness, no I try to get sympathy, stop reading go out there, write out and laugh off your bad experiences. They are so funny. i.e. material your friends can really hurt you with. Being hurt proves you are alive. I meant to paraphrase the wilde quote but I avoid quotes like the plague.
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