Summary
Now that you have read through this material, take some time to think it over and discuss it with your husband. If he is the one who has pointed you to this article, you have a leg up on implementing the program since he will most likely be very agreeable. If you have discovered this material on your own or through the intercession of a friend it is probably a good idea to ask your husband to read it through also.
If
you are like most women, you will certainly have read or seen other material
which discusses romance and marriage. While there may have been some variety in
what you might have found, undoubtedly one of the main pieces of advice to
rekindle romance will recommend that you try and get away for a romantic dinner
or weekend alone with your husband. This “fantasy island” scenario presumes that
a brief dose of romance will suffice to counterbalance the tedium that will
resume on your return to “normal” life. Those who have tried these types of
outings will no doubt affirm that they enjoyed the outings but that upon their
return to “normal” life, the benefit dissipated fairly quickly. Now having read
the wisdom in these pages, the answer should be apparent. These outings while
enjoyable, do not in themselves address the fundamental issue. They still
proceed under the assumption that the romance has been won. So in effect,
trying to emulate activities from your courting days while enjoyable in
themselves, does not address the fundamental problem of romance. This is a
little like a football player being asked to don his old uniform and replay the
moments from the “big game” or asking the hunter to take out his rifle and
re-stalk the moose head hanging on his basement wall. There will certainly be
some joy for the person in retelling the story or reliving the moments, but
these will pale compared to the original activity and quickly fade with
repeated telling.
The beauty of this program is that it does not involve a brief departure into a fantasy world and return to one’s everyday life. This will become your everyday life and of course that is the key. As such it does not require any special preparations, does not require any travel, does not require any reservations and coincidentally is a lot less expensive. You should still have your special outings together but in the context of your new relationship program. So while I join with my colleagues in recommending such activities for their own sake, I also caution you not to expect any permanent improvements in your relationship based solely on such outings.
My final advice, is to remember that this path
is for you to travel jointly. As I have emphasized throughout, discuss this
article, your thoughts, your plans with your partner. Communication is one of
the most basic foundations of a good relationship. Take a gradual approach to
the changes suggested here. When you are comfortable with one stage, move to
another. Remember you have the rest of your lives together. As you move through
this program you will find that your husband’s desire to please you will
naturally spread to other areas of your relationship. You will find that he
consults you more on financial decisions, on balancing work and family, even on
his choice of friends. Everything will change for the better if you lay the
foundation correctly.
When you practice the philosophies laid out in this article, you are happier and your husband is happier. Your husband is happier because he is a hero. He comes to your rescue by his continual romantic pursuit, by doing the things you need and by satisfying you sexually. You are happier because you are now an object of worship, you have someone to talk to and to do the things you desire and because you are finally enjoying sex with your husband.
Indulge
your wildest fantasies. As the Lady of the house set yourself upon a pedestal
and let your knight pursue you romantically throughout the days and weeks. It's
amazing how many aspects of your life your new relationship will touch.