“Courtship was 15 or 16 years ago for my wife and me,” one husband eloquently testified. “Now that we are married, courtship seems a distant memory.”
Consider also the following excerpt from a recent letter to an advice columnist
Dear Ann
Landers:
I have been married for three years, and my husband and I recently had a baby
boy. I adore being a mother, but lately, I've begun to have serious questions
about my marriage.
“All the
romance and passion have dwindled to almost nothing. My husband and I can go
for days without so much as a touch, and yet it doesn't seem to bother him. He
used to be very affectionate, but it seems he's forgotten how. Whenever I try
to make time for just the two of us, he is ‘too tired.’ I know he works hard,
but I'm becoming frustrated and angry.
I
tried to talk to my husband about this recently and asked him, ‘Where did my
romantic husband go? Have you seen him?’
He
laughed and replied, ‘There is no need for romance after marriage. Guys just do
that stuff to get a girl.”
Anything sound familiar?
So what exactly do we mean by courtship and how does it fit in?
Courtship is the act of wooing in love, it is a man seeking the affection of a woman with intent to romance.
By reviving courtship in your marriage you can discover new possibilities of love and passion that you had thought long lost. You can recreate the kind of passionate love in your marriage that you experienced when you were first dating your husband. Working together you can rekindle courtship.