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Q: I have just met the most wonderful man. We've fooled around, but haven't had sex yet. I noticed that his penis is much smaller than my last boyfriend's. After having a lover with a large penis, will I ever be satisfied with his small one?
A: I'm sure you've heard the cliché, "It is not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean." Many women find it true: that what a man does with his love stick is more important than how big it is. But some women — and you may be one of them — truly feel there is no way a man can make up for a smaller-than-average stature (average, by the way, is five to seven inches erect). But before you're convinced that you're a big-man woman, at least give your new guy a chance. You may be surprised. Emotion, after all, plays a big part in sexual attraction and arousal. Your "wonderful man" might turn you on so much that he will excite you far more than your former, big-gun lover. In fact, sized-challenged men are often more creative in the sack to make up for their lack of length or girth; they're more likely to experiment with positions or go out of their way to make sure you are satisfied.
One position I suggest you try is the CAT (Coital Alignment Technique). It focuses on clitoral stimulation rather than deep penetration. Here's how it works: Once your boyfriend is inside you, he scoots forward a little so the base of his penis or his pubic bone is in direct contact with your clitoris. Rather than thrusting, have him use a shallow rocking motion so he rubs against your clitoris — the friction should bring you to orgasm. You may never get the same full feeling you had with your last boyfriend, but with the CAT you shouldn't have to sacrifice orgasms.
One final cautionary note: Never let on you've noticed his precious part is on the small side. He's probably painfully aware its size is below standard, but it would crush him to hear it from you.
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