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Q: I'm 27 years old and have never had an orgasm with my boyfriend. However, I can climax in less than a minute by crossing my legs and squeezing a few times. But that's the only way. What can I do?
A: You're definitely not alone — nearly one-third of women can't achieve the Big O during intercourse, according to Eileen M. Palace, Ph.D., director of the Center for Sexual Health in New Orleans. Nonetheless, there are many ways to up the odds. One surefire tactic is the CAT (Coital Alignment Technique): Lie with her legs flat against the mattress slightly spread apart. Then have your guy enter you and inch up farther than normal so that his pelvis is higher than yours. Instead of thrusting, he rocks back and forth, keeping both your pubic bones in close contact. The CAT works because it offers constant stimulation of your clitoris — and based on your leg-crossing masturbatory maneuver, it appears that you'll appreciate the attention here.
If this technique doesn't work right away, you can also expand your orgasmic horizons by masturbating in a variety of ways. Use your hand or a vibrator, and put your body in different positions. It may not feel as comfortable as your usual peaking position, but eventually your body will start responding. Once you've kicked your need for ideal circumstances, share your new ideas with your guy. The more you play around with various techniques alone and with your amour, the higher your chances of finding something that rubs you the right way
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