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Q: My new boyfriend is a lot wilder sexually than other guys I've dated. So far I've been enthusiastic about everything he's wanted to try, but now he's trying to live out his fantasies of having sex in public! Once he suggested we sneak into a stall of the ladies room at a movie theater, and the other day when we were in the park he wanted to go for it in an area where someone could have come along at any time. I said no to both of these requests, but I do want to fulfill his fantasies. Is there some way I can give him the thrill he craves without having an unwanted audience (or getting arrested)?
Advice from the Baroness: Your boyfriend's probably yearning for the adrenalin rush that accompanies the risk of being caught with his pants down. Or maybe he has exhibitionist fantasies and, even if he doesn't actually want anyone to watch you two couple up, he likes the idea that someone might be watching. Your mission is to find places to fool around that feel risky enough to give him a thrill but that don't put you at risk of arrest.
Maybe stage semi-public sexual encounters where, if you're caught, it's by friends, not by the police. For example, one evening when you've invited people over, try to seduce him just at the time when you expect the guests to arrive. This will create the dramatic sense that people could walk in on you, when in fact the doorbell will signal their appearance. Only your cat-swallowed-the-canary grins might betray your canoodling. Or, the next time you're out to dinner, subtly grope him or engage in a game of footsie (running your foot up his leg as high as you can) under the table. If you're daring, secretly slip into the bathroom for a quickie during a party. If friends waiting outside bang on the door, suspecting something is going on, that will add to your boyfriend's excitement.
If it's a forbidden location he craves, you might suggest doing it at his office late at night. Be sure the cleaning staff has left and that security guards won't be making rounds throughout the building. Of course the consequences could be dire if you're discovered, but it's his office, not yours, so it's up to him to weigh that risk. For sex in the great outdoors, seek out an al fresco locale that's very isolated. Head to a state park in the sticks that gets few visitors and find a spot where you'll be able to see or hear if someone's approaching. If you leave some clothing on while you go at it, your activity will be less obvious if anybody stumbles upon you. Wearing a long skirt and straddling him so that the skirt hides what's going on is a great way to get away with outdoor amour. Just don't forget to skip your panties!
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