Give Me Modesty or Give Me Death!

 

Ok, so you may think that mentality is going a little too far. But I don’t!! WHY? Cause Modesty is freedom!!! And I don’t want to live without freedom. Do you?

 

Think about this:

  • When I am dressed immodestly, guys feel like they can take advantage of me more easily than if I were dressed more conservatively. I become a slave to their lustful thoughts.
  • If I am modest, I know that guys are not getting the wrong idea about the type of person I am from the way I dress.
  • When I am dressed immodestly, guys have a hard time taking me seriously or paying attention to the whole me. I become a slave to their distraction. I am made of a body and a soul. When I dress immodestly, it draws unbalanced attention to one part of me (my body) without addressing the other part (my SOUL)
  • Modesty protects the mystery of my femininity by guarding my purity and giving me the freedom to live in that purity when I will give myself willingly and intentionally to my future spouse.
  • Modesty encourages virtue, (self control, purity, chastity, and temperance) which makes you a better person!
  • Maybe I dress immodestly to get attention. But the type of attention I get is negative and does not satisfy my need to be loved. I become a slave to my own insecurities. You can respect yourself by dressing in a way that demands respect from others!! Double Score!!
  • Modesty "covers" more than just how you dress. (heehee) It enhances the beauty of your entire being: As Saint Peter says,
    •  "Your adornment should not be an external one: braiding the hair, wearing gold jewelry, or dressing in fine clothes, but rather the hidden character of the heart, expressed in the imperishable beauty of a gentle and calm disposition, which is precious in the sight of God." 1 Peter 3:3-4

 

Well. That isn’t something that you hear very often. Your adornment should not be external? You may be thinking, what else can it be? You definitely don’t see too many internal adornments on sale at your local department stores. On the contrary, the message clothing stores give to you as young girls is "Wear these new slinky clothes! They're shorter, skimpier, sexier. And if you don’t feel comfortable in those types of clothes, well, too bad for you."

 

I've got good news. You don’t have to dress like Christina Aguilera. Do you know that a lot of teenagers feel like they have to dress a certain way to "get guys"? WELL YOU DON’T! It's still a free country, right? Keep it free with modesty!!! And if the boys don’t like it, as Noelle said, they can scram! Plus, the guys who "want" you when you DO dress like Ms. Aguilera are not loving the whole you-- they are only objectifying and lusting after your body. Do you think if any guy off the street saw Christina Aguilera in her normal adornment, they would be impressed by her brilliant mind or stunning personality? Um, doubtful. I think that's very sad. And personally, it makes me feel kind of gross.

 

 

 

Immodesty makes you a slave to the wind.

 

Think I'm kidding?

 

There is a book by Wendy Shalit called Return to Modesty. In it she makes it clear that every woman has an inherent sense of personal modesty, and she describes the "windy day proof,” which is reproduced below.

 

Picture this. A career woman is walking from her car to the seventeen-story office building that she works in. At first you think that perhaps she is a hunchback because of the way she is walking. All stooped over, she seems to be struggling along quite uncomfortably, face screwed up in concentration. Just as you are about to step in to see if you can help her, you notice that she is simply trying to keep herself covered. You see, the wind has picked up considerably since she got dressed that morning. Because it is the fashion, she is wearing high heels, and a professional looking skirt that is slit high up one side, (perhaps both sides,) or the back. Her shirt is of the extra low let's show some cleavage variety, and it is quite a problem trying to bend over to cover your legs without exposing her chest. And if she didn’t clutch her skirt and shirt desperately, then they would surely fly everywhere and expose everything because of the wind. Just as you think that all is lost, she makes it inside. You notice that as she goes into the building, followed by many other equally hunched back women, she is miraculously healed, and walking upright once again. Must be something magical about the double glass doors, you think to yourself.

 

So, why does she bother with all the clutching? Why not walk upright with dignity to the office building? What is she thinking?

Well, she probably realizes that it would be hard to look dignified walking upright on a windy day with two high slits in your skirt… 

 

 

Don’t get me wrong. I'm not saying walk around in a t-shirt for the rest of your life. You should take time to make yourself look nice. But be modest about the way you look. Don’t be so occupied with those external adornments, and then you will have time to work on the more important internal ones. It is important to respect yourself and your person by dressing nicely, but what is inside shows a lot about who you are as a person—more clearly and sharply than you might realize.

 

Lastly, remember that you are priceless; a perfect creation of God. Dress like you believe it!!

 

 

We all have a choice as to how we will live. Here's hoping you'll choose freedom.

 

 

 

 

Dawn is a theology major at Franciscan University in Steubenville, Ohio.  She lives with her family in Memphis, Tennessee.