By the Time You Recognize Me I’ll Be Gone

 

Leaving

                There was one day of the week when you could go down to market to get the food you needed for the rest of the week. When ma went down to market, she always got more food than they let her, she’d sneak some food out with her, because they wouldn’t let you buy enough food for everyone. I know that she would get extra eggs usually and also she’d try and get some milk, but that’s harder to sneak out than the eggs. They’d never let you take out any meat at all, but ma could sometimes get some meat when she went down to market. She always said Stefan I know how to talk to people to get what I want when I asked her why we could have lamb and the other people couldn’t have any.

                She said the same thing  when we were leaving on the bus. I was crying a little because I had to leave so much behind and I wanted to go back but she shushed me and said to be quiet. Da was trying not to be involved, I think he just wanted no one to notice him. Da was quiet usually, but sometimes when he got mad he got loud too. Mostly when I asked ma too many questions and ma got mad with me da would come in and stop the whole thing cause me and ma could fight for a long time when we both got mad. I was still little and da didn’t hit me like I know some other das do sometimes. But he shouted loud and then I was quiet straightaway.

                But anyway, we were on the bus. It was brown and there weren’t any words on the side that said where we would be going and also the bus came really late. When we all left with our only one suitcase and sleeping bag ma just ran ahead to the bus and da hurried us along because me and Juti were slow since we put so much into our suitcases, like Juti’s dolls and my toy truck that was made of metal. Juti was really little, a whole lot littler than me so she was crying but quiet, cause she knew that da would maybe get made if she was fussing. We got onto the bus and ma was fighting with the driver. Not really fighting, but they were sure arguing, I think about money cause ma kept shoving some at him and he kept shaking his head and saying Nem, nem but I guess when he saw us he decided that ma had enough. He just grabbed the forints she was pushing at him and pushed her back into the bus.

                There weren’t many people in the bus but the people who were were army guys. I saw them practicing sometimes in this field behind our house. I liked going out there when it was late at night because they had these huge big lights, like as big as a car or something. Once I saw them even practice with guns, but like I say that was just the one time. Every single other time they were just marching back and forth. The other kids said it was boring, but really it wasn’t boring because they sang songs sometimes when they marched and they were really good, it was like watching the toy soldiers they had at the toy store.

                When we got on the bus ma went and talked to the soldier sitting up front who wore a hat that had things on it and looked like he was in charge and da pushed us back the bus to the last seats. There was another family there but they had really little kids, like so little they couldn’t sit on their own and they had to sit in their ma’s lap. Their da looked at our da but then looked away really quick, like he shouldn’t be looking at us. Anyway da put us in the other back seat and told us Hush now and try to sleep. I don’t know that he really thought we would sleep cause there were so many soldiers up in front of us, but I guess Juti fell asleep pretty quick like she does when she gets to crying. I was just looking at the soldiers and thinking how strong they looked in their uniforms when I remembered the toy soldiers and how I could only bring my truck but nothing else, and then’s when I started crying. Just a little, I don’t think you could hardly hear me and I know the soldiers didn’t at all but da did and like I said he tried not to look at me. Ma came back and shushed me and I told her I wanted to go back. Ma said We’re certainly not going back and shushed me again. I knew she meant it so I tried to quiet down and asked her why we were on the bus and she told me that she just knew how to talk to people.

                I think then’s when I fell asleep for a while cause when I woke up next we weren’t anywhere near town, in fact we were in Budapest and that’s a long way from Eger. In fact we were on the river and da woke me up cause we were getting on a boat. The soldiers were all gone off the bus and it was just us and the other family whose da still wasn’t looking at us. The sun was just coming up and the man driving the bus now was pushing us down these stairs on the top of the boat that went down into the bottom of the boat. It was real dark down in the bottom of the boat, but we could see some because there were windows in the sides to let some light in. There were little piles of blankets on the side by the wall that the driver pushed us to and told us to Stay here and don’t make any noise. You better keep those kids quiet. He was a little scary so I was quiet and Juti was still asleep and so were the other kids so everything was okay. Then the ship started moving.

                Ma and da were on the other side of the boat having a big talk. Da was angry I think, but ma looked angry too. We didn’t get far from Budapest when I thought I heard a bomb or something. I was almost asleep but I woke up fast and saw ma and da still arguing. I said in a really quiet, just a little loud voice Da I heard something loud. He quick looked at me and told me to Shush and turned back to ma again, arguing a lot quieter now. I didn’t hear anything else so I just went to sleep.

                When I woke up again we were getting pushed off the boat by the man and pushed onto another bus. Juti got really fussy then and started crying loud. The other da looked at da really hard and da hit Juti. He really didn’t hit her hard but she sure got quiet then. Da looked kind of sad and he almost shrugged his shoulders when ma looked at him really hard. Then he just grabbed me and Juti’s arms and pushed us onto the boat. I looked back at ma and she looked like da hit her, and I tried to say something but then she saw me and looked at me really hard so I just kept walking.

                There was this boat and then I think a train and another boat and a train, but I don’t remember. After a really long time, like maybe days we got to where ma said was France. The whole time we slept in the sleeping bags and ate what the man gave us. When we were in France, we got out of the train and we near on a dock that looked just like the one back in Budapest, but of course it wasn’t. Da grabbed our arms, this time Juti sure didn’t cry and pulled us over to the boat before the man could push us over to the boat. I looked back and the man wasn’t even really paying attention to us. Him and ma were talking really fast and quiet to each other so I couldn’t hear them, and then the man gave ma a hug and she ran over to us, I think kind of crying. The man turned around and walked away and ma looked at me hard so I turned away too and we all got on the boat.

 

Staying

                That was all a long time ago. I was a really little kid, now I’m a whole lot older. I go to middle school at this place called Central Catholic. It’s a big school in the downtown of our city called Allentown. It’s a lot less nice than Eger some ways, like the way I don’t know a lot of the people that there are here and the way da says the damn negroes keep moving in. I have this one friend that da calls a damn negro but I like him a lot. Da only says that when he drinks a lot, and that’s only sometimes and not usually.

                Me and Juti both go to the middle school here, and Juti is some years below me of course. We take a bus to school every day, a yellow bus that says ALLENTOWN DIOCESE SCHOOL DISTRICT on the side in big letters, ma says diocese is what the church around here is. I don’t like the church a whole lot, but ma really does so I go and I’m an altar boy like she wanted me to be. I play basketball too, and that makes da happy except when he goes to games and sees my friend Mike playing too. He says the damn negroes are no good at real sports, but Mike’s real good at basketball, and I think that’s a real sport. I don’t argue with him about that though because he doesn’t really think that, he lets Mike eat dinner with us all the time, he just drinks some when Mike comes over and goes to the garage.

                I’m pretty okay at school, I guess. Da says I have to learn my math really good cause otherwise there’s no way I’ll get a job later. Da is an engineer and he’s really good at it. He works at this place that makes engines for cars and stuff like that, I think it’s boring but he sure likes it. He told me this one time that if I wasn’t smart then I’d have no way to compete. I asked him who I was competing with and he got really short with me and told me to go do homework or something.

                America is pretty great. Since we came here, the other people are really nice to us. Ma does all this stuff down at the church most the time, she does work at this telephone company but not all the time. She has lots of friends there, like the priest who comes over all the time and her social group. Da’s got all his friends at the plant, they don’t come over that much but he goes over to the bar with them once in a while.

                This week is graduation week from the middle school and next year I’m going to Central Catholic High School, and that’ll be really great. I heard all these neighborhood kids talking about high school, they say it’s better than middle school. I’m pretty good at math and stuff, and I play basketball which I’m also pretty good at (not great, just okay) so I win this award at graduation. Ma’s really excited about the whole thing and bought me something she got from the priest the last time he came over. It’s one of those little necklaces with the Virgin Mary on them. I thought it was kind of stupid, I mean who heard of a guy wearing necklaces right? but I wore it anyway, it’s not that bad.

                I think sometimes ma gets really into all this church stuff. The priest really comes over all the time, and I don’t think da likes him. Ma really shouldn’t do stuff like that, stuff that da doesn’t like because he works really hard down at the plant and comes home expecting his family to be behind him, well that’s what he says at least. It’s not like they argue, they almost always are really happy. It’s just sometimes when they fight in Hungarian and even less than that when da hits her. But he doesn’t mean it and sometimes she deserves it.

                I can’t understand them when they talk in Hungarian, I guess I forgot how to talk it sometime. My teacher says I don’t hardly have an accent anymore either. Ma doesn’t like that so much and tries to get me to learn it again sometimes. Da doesn’t like that though, and then they fight sometimes. But she knows da doesn’t like it and does it anyway, then they argue in Hungarian, which I don’t understand of course. When I said that sometimes she deserved it, I don’t mean that she’s bad, because she’s great. I love ma. But like this – she knows da thinks I should be happy with English and she tries teaching me Hungarian again anyway. What does she think will happen? And he doesn’t even hit her hard usually.

                Graduation is on Thursday, today. I woke up really happy because of that and Juti even said congratulations (she is usually really grumpy in the morning). Da was really happy and he said ma had cooked me a big breakfast for congratulations. It sure was a great day, ma even had her makeup on her eyes already even though when she cried a little it ran and her eyes looked a little bruised, she must not have slept so much last night. Her and da were hugging and it made me so happy I thought I was maybe going to cry, which of course I didn’t.

                We took the bus to school because there was still a half day of school before the graduation. We got to school and had one class before something that you wouldn’t believe happened. I was in history class and we were talking about the World War Two because Mr. Stevenson said it was a happy story to tell on our last day and all. He was telling us about how the Allies (which were us, England, Russia and France I think, that’s funny because da doesn’t like the Russians cause they’re commies and the French cause he says he doesn’t trust them, and that’s half of our allies) liberated all of Europe from the Nazis. I sure wish I could do something like that, we saw this filmstrip showing soldiers marching through the streets of some German city. Man, they looked really great in their uniforms, so much better than the soldiers back in Hungary.

                I was daydreaming a little when Mr. Stevenson got interrupted by the loudspeaker. It said Good day students, this is Principal Alexanders. A very serious event has occurred in the Communist nation of Cuba, to the south of us. President Kennedy has the situation under control, but government officials have informed me that it would be best for you all to return to your homes immediately. The graduation will be postponed to a later date. God bless America.

                It was the Cuban missle thing of course, but it was sure scary then. They wouldn’t tell us what happened, so I found Juti outside the school and we both walked home as quick as we could. Ma was crying and praying a lot so her makeup was all gone, making her eyes look all bruised again. Da was sitting in front of the tv and drinking even though he never drinks during the day. He looked at us and told us Come in quick kids, I think everything will be okay. I sat down next to him and he said to me Son, you’ve got to promise me that you’ll never let these Communist bastards take this beautiful nation down. Ma looked over at us really hard but he ignored her. I didn’t know what to say really and then da said Promise me son. These goddamn bastards are going to take this nation down if we’re not careful and you’ve got to be ready to do what your nation needs you to do. Promise me, goddammit. Ma got up with her makeup running and said Shandor you are going to kill our son with your death talk. Da kept ignoring her but he grabbed my arm. He whispered Promise me and I whispered back I’d kill those bastards myself if I had to because it seemed like the right thing to say. Ma screamed and got up and da got up too and grabbed her arm and pushed her out of the room. He turned and said I’m proud of you son. Juti sat down next to me and started crying.

                It was a couple years after that when we went home after school again because President Kennedy got shot by some commie in Texas. The principal came on in the middle of history class again, only this time is was Principal Weatherly of Central Catholic High School in the middle of Sister Maria Denise’s history class and I was only too glad to go because that bitch was yelling at me for not doing my homework again. I know I shouldn’t think that about a nun but she hits me with her ruler all the time, and this one time she even hit me with a bell when I was coming in from recess, and that sure hurt a lot. So I’ll say some Hail Marys tonight with ma to make up for it, but she’s a bitch.

                It was the same thing when Juti and I got home, ma was crying and praying and da was drinking and watching tv. Ma liked President Kennedy almost as much as she liked Jesus or that priest, I think. Da said that if he wasn’t a goddamn democrat he would have voted for him himself, but I think da only didn’t like him because President Kennedy didn’t hate negroes. Anyway, da still didn’t want him to get shot, especially not by some skinny pinko. When we were all sitting there da waited til he knew ma couldn’t hear him and leaned over to me and whispered You remember our promise? and I said I sure as hell do, sir and he smiled.

                When President Kennedy’s brother Bobby got shot we were all pretty sad again, and when Reverend King got shot we were pretty sad except for da who just went into the garage while we were watching the tv. I think he had some work to do, since he’s an engineer.

 

Leaving

                It wasn’t much longer until I got to be in the army myself. There was something going on in this place called Viet Nam, and all I knew was that there were some of those goddamn communists over there messing with some probably good people. I graduated Central Catholic High School on a Thursday, and ma and da were both there wearing some really nice clothes. Ma cried a lot and da even looked like he could cry when I got my diploma. I smiled a lot and cheered for my friends Mike and Eddie and my girlfriend Katie. Eddie and Katie were going to Penn State in the fall and me and Mike would be until we decided to go to Viet Nam. We decided last night when we were outside Mike’s house having some beers. Mike’s parents didn’t really mind, his dad was real cool, he even drank with us once and he listened to some wild music.

                Mike and I were talking about college and life and all that when he asked me if I had ever thought of going to the war. Of course I had since I made that promise to my da, and I meant it, so I told Mike that yeah, I had thought about it a lot. Mike said that he had too, and that he was thinking about signing up to join the army and go to Viet Nam. I told him that if I he signed up I’d sign up in a second. He asked me about Katie and college and I told him that Katie could wait and that we could always go to college, we should just get some other experience first. So I made another promise, to Mike this time that we’d go join the army the day after graduation.

                It was the night of the graduation when I told Katie, who got real mad. We were walking down 24th Street near our houses when we started talking about college next year and I told her that Mike and I had decided to join the army last night. She laughed and said You’re kidding right? and I told her that I was certainly not kidding. She pushed my arm off her shoulder and stopped walking and said You are not going to go fight in that war Steve. It was my turn to laugh and I did and said Why not Katie? She started crying then and we got in a big fight. I got tired of it after a while and thought that she should shut up, but I didn’t say that of course, or hit her. After a little while she said You’re ignoring me and if you go enlist tomorrow you’re never going to see me again and she ran off.

                I really didn’t know what to do then so I went home. Da was sitting in front of the tv having a beer and I sat down next to him. We just talked about nothing for a while until I said Da I’m going to enlist tomorrow. He looked at me and actually started to cry a little and said I’ve never been prouder of you than I am right now. We realized ma was standing in the doorway to the kitchen when we heard the plate she was holding drop to the floor where it shattered, making a loud noise that sounded almost like an explosion making da jump. Ma started to cry but bad tears, not happy tears like da. I said Katie cried too when I told her, what’s the problem with you girls? and da said She’s happy for you Steve, aren’t you Kate? and ma said My son is going to get himself killed millions of miles away and you want I should be happy? Da said Don’t ruin the boy’s life, Kate and ma said My name is Katalina and turned back into the kitchen crying. Da said to me Go to bed, son and I said Why? He said Just go. I’m proud of you and smiled like I’ll never forget. I went to sleep and heard ma and da talking in Hungarian and then what sounded like some quiet explosions and then ma crying and then nothing.

                I saw Katie the next morning at the enlistment post when Mike and I showed up. She looked much better and gave me a hug and said I hope you’re doing the right thing and gave me a kiss. I guess she was okay with it, so I shrugged to Mike and went into the post and six months later I was on a plane with thirty other soldiers flying to Viet Nam.

                Mike and I were sitting up front of the plane and when we landed we were almost the last two guys off the plane. There was a old-looking green bus ahead of us that had U.S. ARMY stenciled on the side in white paint that looked fresh. We got on the bus and took the seats in the back since all the other seats were empty. I watched out the window and I saw soldiers marching and I saw some big searchlights like I remembered from Eger when we left and I saw what I guess were the natives watching the bus as we drove by. I stopped watching and talked to Mike about basic training then.

 

Staying

                When you’re in the army, you say that you’re “short” when you’re almost done with your term of service. Mike and I were really short, so short we couldn’t even hold a long conversation was one thing that the guys said.

                To be honest, I didn’t even want to go. I loved the army. We fought like we were men against these bastards who crawled in the ground and I loved it anyway. Even when we had to take out a whole village to make a point to those animals and I had to shoot down some kid trying to escape us, I loved the goddamn army. I trusted every one of the men in my unit with my life and they trusted me with theirs because that’s what this crazy fucking place was like. It was crazy, really. You wouldn’t believe the stuff out here. The twelve-year-old kids with machine guns that hid behind rocks and their das who crawled around in these twisted mazes of tunnels connecting every goddamn one of their tiny little villages and the ancient shrunken grandmothers who snuck into your camp with a grenade with the pin already taken out because their hands were so arthritic that they couldn’t even loosen their grip on the pineapple itself let alone pull the goddamn pin. I loved the army. The sick guys who would wear body parts like they were jewelry and the slimy little preps from Ivy League schools who led our units because they had rich das and that bastard who shot Mike the day before with an gun he got of some dead Viet Cong because he didn’t think negroes belonged in his army and got a dishonorable discharge and was probably right now fucking his girlfriend back at home while the high school marching band was playing some patriotic Sousa march for his homecoming parade. I loved the army and the army hated me.

                Mike was dead, and he never even got shot by a VC. We joked that he was living a charmed life and he joked that Charlie just didn’t know what to do with a black man if he was friend or foe. We got letters from Eddie and Katie, but they stopped when Katie wrote me a letter that said she didn’t think she could wait any more and that she would be seeing Eddie from now on. Eddie never even really wrote us anyway, just one letter but I couldn’t believe what Katie wrote. I think I cried after I read the letter and then I burned it and forgot it ever happened.

                We were outside the officer’s club one night smoking with some of our friends from the unit when the man with the gun walked out of the club. He was drunk, he was really drunk and he came over to us and started babbling about something. He was standing just next to Mike and Mike pushed the man off of his shoulder saying Brother, you smell like you ain’t showered in months. We all laughed except the man who glared at Mike and said You smell like a dirty nigger and I don’t hear nobody complaining. We all got real quiet and Mike sort of hunched down like someone was going to hit him so I said What’s your problem man? Take that back, don’t talk to my friend like that. He looked at me and smirked, this real nasty grin like he knew who I was and where I came from and disapproved and looked at Mike the same way. Mike was just hunched over like that still, not saying anything and the man pulled a gun out of his pant belt. He said I took this gun off a gook after I shot him in the head like I’m gonna shoot you now. What am I gonna find on you boy? I punched the man in the stomach and he doubled over, groaning, and shot back up and hit me hard on the chin. I went down and couldn’t see for a second, then stood back up and looked around to see that our friends were all gone and Mike was still hunched over and I think crying. The man was just pointing the gun at Mike. I said Look buddy, just let us get out of here, we’re so sorry and I started babbling a little. He looked at me real hard and said Shut up then he looked at Mike and said Say you’re sorry, boy. Mike shook his head and I said Mike, do it, this guy’s serious. Mike turned a little and opened his mouth to say something and the man shook his head and said Don’t speak to me less you’re spoken to, nigger and shot Mike right in the head and I screamed and must have blacked out.

                It was two weeks later than that and I was so short that by the time you’d recognize me I’d be gone. I loved the army, Mike was dead and I got a letter from da. Ma had a brain tumor and she died and he was so sorry he was such a bad father and that he hit her and that he drank too much and that he wished he could take it all back. I burned the letter and sat on my cot and dreamed about the time when ma and da and me and Juti all ran away from the Soviets in Hungary and made it to the US. I remembered making a promise to da and decided that there was one way I was going to keep it and I was sure going to keep that promise to my da who did so much for our family, getting us out of Hungary and taking care of ma and us kids even after he got fired from his job and teaching me what it was to be an American. I cried a little, and made sure I was done. I took a grenade and squeezed it between my hands and crawled down into a hole in the ground until I was so deep that the air smelled like poison and the roots on the side of the path were as big as my head. I pulled out the pin and said God Bless America and I closed my eyes and said Viszlát anya and I tried like hell not to cry.