Pronounced Lie-kiss, interesting eh? He's a radio talk show host for those who don't know him. He broadcasts from The Pit; Los Angeles, California. And yeah, he does look a bit like SIR Elton John.

I used to really hate this guy, especially when he seemed to be sucking up to Bill Clinton during the Monica mess. I loathe anyone who sucks up to Bill Clinton, Hilary Clinton or any politician for that matter, but especially the Clintons. God will I be happy when they BOTH retire! I'm so sick of them!

But anyway, I kept listening to Tom Leykis because frankly there was no one as entertaining in his time slot. I listen to him while washing dishes and making dinner. So what if he occasionally gets my blood pressure up a bit? Maybe I need it. The more I listened the more I had to admit that I agreed with a lot of things Tom was saying, especially about men and women. Not that I think that this is how humanity NEEDS to remain, but Tom sure does know how to call it the way it is RIGHT NOW.

According to Tom Leykis, women are essentially the inferiors of men, based on the way they act and the way they are. To prove it, he invites women to his studio so that he can write his name on their breasts with indelible ink and they willingly show up so that Tom can disfigure them in this way. According to Tom, the more attractive a woman is, the lazier she can become as she expects to succor some man who will look after her, pay all her bills, spoil her, etc. Oh and women aren't supposed to be smart either as this is unattractive to most men. According to Tom, women are much better being silly willing sexpots. Well OK, probably. So count me as a weird guy who wants it all in a woman, physically attractive AND smart. My late wife spoiled me, what can I say. But anyway, according to Tom, if you're an unattractive woman with brains you might as well get yourself a career, work like hell, save all your money for a LONG retirement and stay away from men because no man is going to have you. Hey, might as well become a lesbian these days. Of course according to Tom there are a few men who are inferior to ALL women, but they are mostly in prisons. The successful man must constantly be on guard against SINGLE MOTHERS and other women who are only interested in living off their resources.

There is nothing really very new in Tom's outlook. It's a lot like an 18th Century English view of society that was based on the "facts of life" as seen through the eyes of philosophers like Thomas Hobbes. Good grief, another Tom! Oh yeah, we'll be dealing with Hobbes by and by in these commentaries or elsewhere on The Polar Bear website. Stay tuned. If you don't get it in school, you'll get it from me sooner or later.

Anyway back to Tom's outlook; according to him, the only basis for friendship between men and women is sex. If a man says he only wants to be a woman's friend, the message is clear; that he doesn't find her sexually attractive and the same goes for women who say they only want men to be their friends. The upshot of this is that according to Tom, men and women should stop wasting each other's time and especially their MONEY. One of Tom's rules is that if a man can't get a woman to have sex with him after the third date he shouldn't bother with her ever again.

And children! Tom Leykis has been married FOUR times. He is proud of not having ANY children. He seems not to believe in perpetuating the human race since he advocates NOT having children, regards them as liabilities, advises all men to stay away from all single mothers. If society followed the Leykis model we'd be living in ancient Sparta. But again this is very close to an English aristocrat's viewpoint from about 1765. Hey there's no such thing as progress anyway, everything just goes around in circles.

The reason Tom Leykis is so popular is that he is giving vent to what a lot of people out there "really care about;" their relationships, most of which aren't too good these days. I have many reasons to offer why this is so, but there isn't enough space here to discuss them all. Suffice it to say that Leykis is a barometer of the kind of people out there right now, especially the California types who call him, who sound like they haven't a brain. It isn't that people these days haven't got opinions, usually they do. The problem is that they very often lack INFORMED opinions. What's more, they think they can get away with not developing themselves BETWEEN THE EARS. No wonder people are usually so unhappy and BORED. After all, endless shopping malls and all the sex they want isn't going to bring them lasting happiness. And no, GOD isn't going to bring people lasting happiness either.

A brief digression: Most of what people think of as Godliness, being closer to God, worshiping God, etc. has little or nothing to do with finding God, doing God's will, being Godly or anything very deep or "spiritual". What if I just tell people the truth; that for the most part, when it comes to problems people get themselves into with their eyes wide open, GOD DOESN'T CARE, and if God did care, he wouldn't be God. Does God answer prayer? Yes, but not always how people imagine. God's not a "sugar daddy" out there who will give us everything we want when we want it. Can God help us if we ask for help? Yes, but our own efforts, including our perception of our reality, are required. God DOES help those who help themselves. I am getting pretty tired of those who spend their lives resting on "the eternal arms" rather than figuring things out for themselves. Tom's an atheist, so that's his problem. I'm not, but don't think I'm sappy enough to want to call on God for every little thing. I have far too much respect for God to be doing that!

The big reasons why life sucks for so many people are that they don't WORK hard enough on themselves, and no I don't mean "working out" in a gym, I mean working that gray matter between their ears. There are plenty of really dumb good looking people out there. The other day I saw a couple who were perfect from the neck down, obviously the result of working out. But they had such dumb expressions in their eyes, such really bored ugly faces. One can meet them everywhere. You think you might want to know them until they open their mouths and have nothing very intelligent or interesting to say.

If you are READING this, the chances are pretty good that you are a reader. I have tremendous respect for people who READ as much as they possibly can. If you really want to improve yourself, I strongly suggest READING. Get one of those blank books, the hard cover kind you can get at most bookstores, and begin to list every book you finish from cover to cover, along with the author and the date you finished the book. Make it legible too as you will want to refer back to what you've read later on to refresh your memory. It's like having a road map that tells you where you've been. Only put down the titles and authors of books you've finished FROM COVER TO COVER. Believe me, you'll only need one of these "reading diaries". It has taken me twenty years to fill up 31 pages and I read a lot.

Reading is fairly cheap: you don't even have to spend much money. Use a public library or go after e-texts on the internet. We're living in the information age. Why more people don't spend much more of their time developing their intelligence is beyond me. Well actually I know some of the reasons. There are way too many distractions and people don't know how to exercise their will and say NO and basically they're LAZY.

"Be seeing you..."

The Polar Bear