Notice the nice guy... and other matters

Originally appeared on AOL, Wednesday, March 4, 1998

Edited, Thursday, February 3, 2000

<<The bottom line is, women like bad boys. They enjoy the abuse...>>

The bottom line is: sick women like sick men. Sick men set their sights on sick women.

I remember several years ago almost getting slugged by a woman when I suggested, merely suggested, that the reason so many women were physically abused and stayed with the men who physically abused them, was that in some strange way, they liked it.

As we (spinning on this nice little planet at 1000+ plus miles an hour just standing still) speed along our orbit at better than 67,000 miles an hour (faster than a speeding bullet), we are getting some scientific verification that everything is vibrating, that there are "resonances" set up in each one of us and eventually we will accept as did the ancients that thoughts have substance and create our own futures for us. The notion of "soulmates" may have more to do with conjoined resonance than we as yet understand.

Carrying this further, we notice the "nice guy" and "nice girl" resonances and the "bad boy" and "bad girl" resonances. And sometimes we see one from one group involved with another from the other group, as if magnetically attracted, opposites attract and likes repel. This is all very speculative, but eventually we will, some of us, know more about this and our consciousness will recognize what we need and attract it from others.

Of course some of us will never know more than we know because we are "stuck" in a set of paradigms we accept as if they were truths. Some of us on the other hand are pushing through layer upon layer of apparent reality to discover what really is the truth. The result for those of us on this kind of path may be that nobody can come with us, we will be alone at least on this nice little planet, because there is nobody left to resonate with.

LOL, how's that for some weird thoughts?

The Polar Bear

Originally appeared on AOL, Tuesday, June 16, 1998

Edited, Thursday, February 3, 2000

Someone who does not view other people as valuable is probably incapable of viewing themselves as valuable. How therefore is such a person capable of giving or receiving love? More crucially, since a lot of people have become "losers", how did they get that way? I have some ideas and I'd like hearing yours. Mine are as follows; they were either treated by others, usually their parents, as not valuable, not worthy of at least minimal human respect, therefore they became what they were led to believe themselves to be and nothing more. Or, they bought into a view of reality that was essentially negative or materialistic, which I maintain are both lies.

By "materialistic" I am not referring to the consumption of consumables, I am referring to the so called "scientific" view of the universe; that we are essentially nothing more than chemical reactions, the products of Darwinian evolution, etc. As I have said elsewhere, Charles Darwin and his followers were and are deluded and have followed a lie which has contributed more to the breakdown of human society than just about any single idea. There was more than "scientific" motivation for them too, but I wont get into that here.

Suffice it to say that losers like winners are usually made not born and maybe, just maybe, they can be unmade as well.

A winner might be someone like my cousin Jack. Jack was a clean, honest, Christian fundamentalist kind of guy; tall, clean cut, a teacher, later a coach and a school administrator in a town in Oregon. He married late, never had any kids of his own. Shortly after Christmas he discovered that he had an inoperable brain tumor and was going to die. He just did. He was only 50. The whole town turned out for his funeral. They all said his shoes were going to be very hard to fill. He made things happen, was a man of his word, conscientious, cared about people, etc. Was he a winner? He wasn't rich, he wasn't famous, he knew nobody of world renown, but in my book he was and will always remain what I think of as a winner. There are few of them because our society and culture is not interested in making many like Jack. The usual response is to ridicule people with strong moral values.

In the past we were able to produce more people like Jack. Until we regain what we have lost, and uphold the good, the better and the best and throw out the terrible misuse of egalitarianism which has leveled down, dumbed down, everything and everyone, we will tend to produce more losers than winners. It is entirely up to us. As we think, so are we.

Peace,

The Polar Bear