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Well guys, the answer to this question is damn simple...bet you'll all be whacking your foreheads and saying "Wah lau, I need YOU to tell ME this meh??"...but still, I am going to say it.

A good lover understands that there is no such thing as a "one size fits all" approach to getting a girl. What got you somewhere with the last girl, isn't necessarily going to work this time. The pick up line that made the last girl laugh and think you funny, may make some girl throw her drink at you. In this case, try elsewhere! Some girls like guys who call them a lot and send mushy (excuse me while I puke) SMSes or love letters...and other girls prefer if you cut the unnecessary crap and prove you like them by doing what you promise to do, or helping them when they need/want help. This sounds like an amazing waste of time, but if you really like the girl, it's pretty worth it to do your background research. Find out what they like.

The same thing can be applied to sex (although, condoms are mostly one size fits all...strange if you think about it). Just cos the last girl liked something you did, doesn't mean the next one will even wanna think about doing it. (On a side note, if a girl says "no" more than 3 times, do stop asking!) I am sure you guys have your own preferences too. So, take time to understand her...I'm sure the girl will appreciate the attempt, even if you aren't 100% successful. It ain't just "insert fold 'A' into slot 'B'" all the time.

That said, however, there are some general (obvious, yet often underrated) points to note. Firstly, flattery will get you anywhere. Let me quote our dear Mr Anonymous: "If a man tells a woman she's beautiful, she's usually willing to overlook most of his other lies". All women wanna be told that they are beautiful. Why do you think they do stupid things and ask if you think they are fat? (You all know you have to pause for one sec and then answer "no" and remain calm even if they insist you're lying, right? If you answer too fast, you're definitely lying and if you take too long, you're also lying. And NEVER EVER say "Yes, darling" even if you do think honesty is the best policy. Even if they accuse you of lying, NEVER EVER say: "Ok, you're right, you are fat." Don't ask me why...I never ask questions I don't wanna hear the answer to.)

Secondly, as you can see from my long-winded entry, girls tend to talk/write a lot. On average, women use way more words than men do in a day. So, while I can't force you to listen to every word, do brush up your acting skills, even if you can't really listen to everything she says.

Thirdly (and this will be my last point), do keep to your word. If you say you'll call, please do. If you say you'll appear at 6pm, appear at 6pm. Don't promise something and then constantly fail to do it. It's better not to say anything at all, than to make a promise you're not likely to fulfil. If you don't have time or don't feel like calling, don't say you will. It feels good to promise people things, because they look happy and you feel good...but disappointment arising from broken promises cancels out whatever good feelings you may have caused initially...maybe even every single thing you did do right.

There have been entire books written on this topic...and I could go on forever (and maybe earn money), but I think these are the main things...after all, if you've understood the point I was trying to make at the beginning, you'll realise that there is no ONE winning formula. So good luck! :D

Samantha is our Girl Next Door until someone else comes along and decides to fill in the slot. Writing from about 10000 kilometres away in a semi-flooding city called Dresden, this is, in a sense, her dream job - although she'd rather write for CLEO than be some Girl Next Door. Has a thing for chocolates, hugs, long-distance flights without turbulence, her soft toys, and she once coined a saying about eye candy, but conveniently forgot it.