A Good Parenting Tip your child's anger   Understanding Your Child's Anger   Why do children become angry? According to   Ross Campbell, M.D., children become angry due   to two primary causes:   1) They become angry when they perceive a  situation or person as frustrating, threatening or hurtful.   The problem for children, is that unlike adults, they   do not have the power or independence to make   the needed changes to deal with a given situation.   Since they are dependent on others and cannot   change the situation, they often retaliate with anger -- something they do have control over. A child's   emotions are one of the few powerful things she/he owns.   Remember, the next time your child throws a   tantrum she may be doing so because she feels she has no other options. In our next tip, we'll look at the second reason for Understanding Your Child's Anger.   Ross Campbell, M.D. states that children become   angry due to two primary reasons:   1) They become angry when they perceive a   situation or person as frustrating, threatening or   hurtful (discussed in the previous tip).   2) They become angry when they do not receive   unconditional love from their parents.   Dr. Ross states that children instinctively know they   need love and acceptance to thrive, and they look   to their parents to provide both. When parents   don't provide this, children can internalize this   disapproval, and over time it turns to anger.   Good Parenting Action Points:   1) Never let a day go by without demonstrating   unconditional love to your children.   2) Love them for who they are, not what they do or   do not do. You love them simply and truly because   they are your children. While you may not approve   of their behavior, nothing they do could possibly   diminish your love for them.     click