India a Passion or Obsession

SEXUAL HARASSMENT AND SAFETY ON THE STREETS

Hi all,

Been reading up on this 'eve teasing' business and forgive me if i seem a bit ignorant of so called local customs and the whole "you just have to ignore it and hope it goes away" sort of attitude, Hah!...Fuck that idea...IF ANYONE tries to grab my girlfriend or does manage a quick grope then it'll be the last thing he does for a while coz i'll break both of the bastards wrists (very easy to do-just like shaking someones hand) and my girlfriend will probably break his nose or cheekbone as she's got a wicked fast right hook that catches everyone by surprise.

If anyone tries the same quick grope or tit grab up here in Scotland then they get exactly the same treatment.....It's just a matter of common manners and courtesy-what would they think if we walked up to their sisters or mothers and groped them through their sari's?-would they just walk away?....would they fuck!!!-there'd be a gang of the irate little fuckers chasing you for miles untill you were cornered-then they'd beat ten-tons of shit out of you and call the cops-then in all probability the cops would beat the shit out of you again!, AND throw you in jail!!.

So i say fair game, try it on if you cannot keep your hands to yourself but be prepared to wipe your arse with your foot untill the casts are removed from your wrists.

I apologise for the language in the above post but it really pisses me off that a few sexually retarded XY chromosone apes spoil it for the girls travelling as i've been looking around other india websites and speaking to a few friends that have spent time in india and this theme is constantly being brought up.

Ps. I'm really a very chilled and relaxed individual.

1. yes

For a very chilled and relaxed individual you seem to have worked yourself into a bit of a frenzy over this. I would caution against breaking people's wrists even if you know how to do it. The result, I would think, is that you would find yourself down in the local nick behind bars - not the best place to be in India, on holiday. A smack in the face of a molester by your wife would be the acceptable limit but she should be careful not to smack some innocent bystander.

We had the same problems in India 30 years ago. It's very unpleasant to see your wife or GF being grabbed by these sexually frustrated maniacs and even worse for her, but we found the best way to cope with it was to shame the guy in front of other Indians. Just raise your voices and pretty soon you will have a crowd of Indians around giving him a load of verbal or something more.

Eve teasing (they even have a special name for it) is a common sport of young, and not so young Indian men, and is not only directed at foreign visitors. Indian women also have the same problem in crowded places. I remember we, along with a large group of Indian women, had a police escort after the Ram Lila in Agra one time where the molesters were out in force.

I would also advise that if you think you may react strongly in these kind of situations that you stay off the streets during Holi festival or find a quiet place in the hills as this is another opportunity for anti-social elements to indulge themselves.

You don't have to ignore this behavior but unless you learn how to deal with it I am afraid your trip to India will not be all that it could be. Try and remember that the vast majority of people in India are friendly and welcoming and ashamed of these social misfits.

Good travelling

2. me too

If you're that wound up about it, why not wear your kilt and confuse them completely?

"All of us are lying in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars." Oscar Wilde

3. 3rd option

It's not just about physically punishing the offender as his offence was predominantly on the self esteem level.

So what you have to do is something that will inflict not so much physical pain but humiliation. Moreover it conveys a more appropriate message to the culprit, hurting exactly the same "place" he was trying to hurt.

I heard that slapping someone on the face with your sandal is the summum of humiliation in India. Or maybe lift him by his ear like he was a child and watch him wriggle as he stays suspended in the air

well..

I was on a rickshaw, going slowly through traffic in delhi, alone, in the middle of the day at the height of summer, I was hot, I was tired (just arrived) and I had just been ripped off at the jama masjid... when I saw these two guys walkng towards me. I didnt really think anything of it until, just as they were walking past me, decided to grab my boobs.

I yelled (it was so quick I couldnt do anything else), and the rickshaw driver got so mad he jumped off, and started chasing this guy down the street along with loads of other men and gave the chap a good hiding.

I got the impression before I left to go to India (reading the lonely planet in particular) that all Indian men were out to rape and sexually harass western women. In fact, as my expeience proved, such behaviour isnt condoned or tolerated by the majority of the male popualtion, and throughout my visit I got nothing worse than staring, and the occasional attempt to 'accidentally' brush against my leg when I was on the trains.

I think India has a bad reputation regarding harassment, you hear stories of rapes on trains, getting groped everywhere you go...but from my experience its an undeserved reputation. Maybe I was just lucky, but just like any country in the world, England included (where I actually am more fearful of a sexual attack living in a large city, than I ever was in India), only the bad experiences get heard. The good experiences don't.

Before you go jumping to conclusions, therefore, that every Indian man is gonna harass your girlfriend and rape her in the street, why dont you wait until you get here to pass judgement.

Thanks guys. I like the idea of the earlobe lift and thanks for the advice 4. My girlfriend just read my original post and is visibly cringing! She says she would just yell loud too and i'm to keep out of it! Oh well!

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