I want to thank you for writing. I have often encouraged others not to get into a sexual boyfriend / girlfriend relationship, for this same reason you have described.
Love is not the fuzzy feeling you may of thought it was. Try studying 1 Corinthians 13, you may find out more about LOVE. What I can encourage you to do is to read this page.
http://www.oocities.org/dearvince/dating.html
And next time, please don't get yourself involve in any relationship, until God has clearly lead you to the person he want you to get to know and when you are ready for marriage.
These are some of the reasons why you felt the changes:
- This could show the real level of LOVE you really have for her.
- You have sinned, and the curse [penalty] you may have received, was a change of HEART.
One of the things to fix this kind of situation is a recommendation to seek out a minister who ministers deliverance [healing of spiritual conditions].
* Seek out a deliverance minister; this is a minister that is gifted to bring spiritual healing and casts out demonic spirits. This type of ministry can help prepare you through a spiritual healing. This is some thing that I recommend for everyone who is going through this kind of condition.
This ministry can break and remove spiritual conditions that may have affected the person for a long time. This type of ministering goes beyond the surface. Whoever thinks that they may not need this type of ministering, may be kidding themselves and not realizing the will of the LORD and the work of darkness. You should get the godly counseling that you need, so, one handle the spiritual and the other deal with the physical.
*** WARNING… It is extremely advisable to research to see if these individuals are REAL christians. We can not be responsible for any misunderstanding that may lead to any complications.
* You can fast and pray. Praying for God to use things, to position you, so that your heart changes. For the Lord to remove all the strongholds that are holding you back from doing the things God want you to do. You can ask God, to impart all the knowledge that is needed, to stir up the desire for spiritual things, to defeat, to overcome all the negative thinking and actions. So God’s mercy will bring healing in your relationship. You need to be aware of how to fast before doing anything that might harm yourself.
* Talk to the Pastor or other mature christians. These mature individual can administer counseling where it is needed.
* Speak to the condition. Speaking to the condition is a direct thing. Commanding the condition to change into what is better.
* Ask others to pray with for your situation. Where there are two or more are gathered, and are praying together, the bible says that the believer will have what they are asking for.
* Rebuking the devil, you are just rebuking all the demonic activities that are adding to the condition.
* 1 Peter 3:9, talks about your conduct. You need to pay especially attention, on your actions. Two wrongs don't make righteousness. You are responsible for your actions.
If you feel this advice is of great help I would love to ask your prayers, asking God to provide the means to continue to do this, in righteousness and with his wisdom.
Yours
Vince
