Take The Test Yourself!

Your personality Jennie, is comprised of Empath, Philosopher, and Empath styles.

Characteristics Typical of your Personality:
• By proximity, can they read the emotional state of others, as clearly and accurately as others read billboards.

• They are often unaware of their own intuitive power and consequently, underutilize or ignore their greatest gift.
  
• Where most leaders walk toward their audience, mount platform and 'face to face' persuade, they walk among, along, amidst, and face the same way.
  
• They demand autonomy, personally and professionally. Trust is not the issue; authorship and ownership of responsibility is.
  
• Their emotions can bubble over, easily and unexpectedly.
  
• They need to feel loved and accepted, and may confuse being used with being needed.

"From infancy, purely emotional Empaths intuit the world around them. They feel so intensely about everything, others can be confused by the depth and range of their expression--from uncontrollable laughter, to inconsolable tears; sometimes both at once. For others, it may be disconcerting, but emotionality is this personality.

All their lives, Empaths will be subject to impassioned, unpredictable, and often inexplicable feelings in response to life. Moody, others may call them, as Empaths respond quickly and personally to all and environment. They cry easily when moved by acts of kindness or when faced with anger, whether as bearer or recipient in the exchange. They laugh readily and easily at drop of amusement's hat. Too often, they are told to 'buck up...stop blubbering' which, for these sentient beings, is like denying the cat its whiskers."

Heh.

"With bright, smiling faces and eyes set on gold stars, early school experiences showed Empaths to be brilliant students. Striving to please, they reveled in the praise of earned reward. Delight changed to distress, when math became more complicated and science more convoluted.

With diminishing self-confidence, Empaths realized their core functioning differed from others. Intuition in higher learning can have betraying consequences. With heartfelt eagerness, Empaths proudly offered answers as before, but suddenly, answers were not enough; they were expected to prove them as well."

"Essentially, they understand the problem and know its solution, but get lost on the 'proof-path' between. Others may perceive them as slow decision-makers, however, explaining it to others is what causes the delay. Empaths may take seven minutes to intuit the solution, but need another seven days to develop proof-backed explanations that logical thinkers can understand and accept."

Linear-thinking, a process lightyears behind intuitive intellect, has to be taught to Empaths. Gold stars of former glory grades, often turn into 'good grief' by junior high.(!!!!) This is usually when their academic fame wilts, and self-esteem withers, noticeably. (One of the first signs that Empaths are unconfident is weight gain)(another !!! - I thought a lot about this last night and you know what? I was always chubby, but I didn't really start putting on a lot of weight until I was around 11-12, same age school began to feel.. weird). They first question intuition... then intellect... and eventually they question themselves. When self-doubt comes into play, Empaths are easier to bruise than bananas."

Heh. It feels so weird to see things I've said and thought for ages written down as a sort of confirmation that I wasn't just being way-off. I've felt non-linear since I was a child, I only had the word for it a few years ago and it's just who I am. What upsets me is that it seemed like this was "the wrong thing to be," as if I was wrong. I've spent countless hours wishing I knew how to think like the people at school because I felt so worthless having them try and explain things that were "so easy!!" because I just couldn't seem to *think* like that.

*sigh*

"Empaths tend to be happy souls. They may not be the comedic performers at centre stage, but they certainly are the most appreciative audience members. One of the most endearing qualities about them is their ability to laugh at themselves. Being mocked or good-naturedly teased is joy filled amusement, for them."

*smile* - Totally. I think most who know me would agree.

"Gaining weight easily is also characteristic of this personality. Many can become so self-conscious about their weight, they nibble in public and gorge in private. Some of the very best cooks are Empaths, who seem to have a highly developed sense of taste. This personality is least likely to smoke cigars/cigarettes, and least likely to drink milk regularly."

Heh.. apart from the milk-thing: Geez. See? I was a born foodie ;)

"First of all, they are curious about everything, insatiably so. And people...what a marvelous creation for the sociable, Empath child. These characteristically bright, shiny-eyed tykes, can't seem to get up early enough in the morning, or stay up late enough at night, to get their fill of enjoyment each day. And those feelings...one delightful rollercoaster ride after another. Their soul sings, soars, and squeals with emotional pleasure. Empaths feel so deeply in comparison to others, that when not bubbling over with laughter, they are brimming with tears. Others who do not understand, take their emotionality much too seriously. They are not necessarily sad when they cry-- they are just deeply experiencing."

The last sentence grabbed me a lot because that's so wonderfully put and totally describes it - I really feel things like that, as if I'm experiencing something deeply and it can move me to tears or whatnot.

"Empaths have a lifelong love/hate relationship with words, especially when pressured to reply quickly. Being entirely emotional beings, translating intense feelings into appropriate words can be challenging. Transcribing the thoughts and emotions of another requires great skill and finesse, as such anticipatory processing and alignment takes time. Empaths may not make the college debate team, but they tend to be great writers."

Hehe, my only response is "Totally!"

"For Empaths, nothing is worse, nothing shakes their confidence more than anger. To them, anger has but one interpretation, one objective, "I don't love you, I don't want you, go away!" For Empaths, the message underlying anger is abandonment."

"Anger is an impenetrable wall of rejection, as emotionally visible to Empaths, as crossed arms and scowling face to others. Their emotional antennae cannot penetrate anger, leaving them out in the cold in terms of understanding or guidance."

"Without emotional guidance, Empaths are fish out of water, struggling for assurance but strangling on abandonment-air. They are so overcome with fear of rejection, they are usually inconsolably teary or unable to speak due to the emotional flood that drowns rational thinking. When mates get angry, Empaths can feel as helpless, as if attacked by their own hand."

"Whatever others say in anger, Empaths remember vividly. Without the moderating influence of their emotional feelers to fathom and temper, words impact as painfully as whip lashes--and can scar just as deeply.

That is why Empaths, characteristically, will hang onto the negative and dismiss all the positive that preceded it. Others can find themselves, long after the angered exchange, reminding and reassuring their Empath mate of all the good that 'is' and 'was' before the conflict.

To Empaths, it is not just an isolated issue that anger addresses, it is their future in the relationship that is on trial."

"Being extremely intelligent, Empaths tend not to provoke anger in the same manner twice, unless that is their intention. For like elephants, they have 'exceptional' memories. When angered, it becomes clear how many pieces of baggage and piles of unresolved laundry Empaths have been privately stockpiling."

!!! That is so.. so.. correct. Heh. I know I'm not very wordy in my responses to things but basically, what I've pasted in says it all and my response is "wow."

I really, really appreciated this test. I don't use these tests to go "Yeah okay this is me listen up everybody!" I use them to learn more about me because I want to know me. I am very in tune with myself, but reading things like this help me pinpoint things and go "Duh! I was right!" or "OH! I never thought of it that way!"

I'm not out to be all "I'm out to FIND MYSELF!" - I'm just.. curious. I liked this test. What I've shared here's just snippets - my printout shows 21 pages. :)

Shortly:

Monday went fine - me and my friend played Nintendo for hours, and her 8-month's old monster schablador puppie Ajax spent as much time trying to nibble my extremeties and tricking me into throwing toys around for him.

Yesterday my 12 year old cousin Sanna and her brother and dad came to visit and I've spent time with her. We played croquet (not like Alice, though :) [which I won!], watched my youngest cat Albin (formerly known as Kafka: my mother couldn't remember that name so she changed it :/) fropple around in the grass and chew on plastic balls.

And today... hmm, today Sanna woke me up at 9 am (I usually get up around noon) and we've kept busy ever since. I'm starting to get impatient, though. I'm just not a person who gets sudden urges to go outside because the weather is so great if I'm fine reading a book on the couch. Hah.