During the years before I met my wife, I wouldn't get the chance to dress as often I would have liked. Living at home with my parents made it pretty much impossible.  I had always thought back to the time in college and figured that those memories would be all I had.  I met my wife, we fell in love, and got married.  I never told her about my girlfriend, and my crossdressing experiences with her.  Once in a while, I would put on my wife's things when she was out.  Then the kids came along, and I was back to putting my dressing on the shelf.

     This went on for years.  But then, I finally joined the on-line community.  After browsing all the chat rooms and websites, I realized that I was not alone.  I was amazed at just how many sisters there are out there!  After talking with them, and visiting the websites, I became overwhelmed.  I felt I could no longer suppress my desires anymore.  I decided that I was going to have to come out to my wife.  It was a very nerve-wracking time, but with the support and encouragement of some of my on-line sisters, I finally did it.

     One night, I just told my wife about how I felt.  I explained to her that I had been feeling this way for years.  I told her all about my girlfriend in college, and that I had been sneaking into her things when she was not around.  My wife was very supportive and understanding.  Since that night, she has been helping me with make-up, otufits and general appearance.  But the most important thing about it is we have been having alot of fun!

     I love to dress, that is for certain.  I feel like it is my way of paying tribute to women - after all - imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.  But, I have no desire to take hormones or have surgery, or anything along those lines.  This was a point I was sure to make clear to my wife, just to allay some of her fears.  I realize that the term "transgendered" covers alot of ground.  But as it applies to me, I just love to dress and feel as feminine as I can.  Right now, the fun has been the transformation.  My wife and I have been experimenting to develop Vanessa's look. Once that transformation is complete, I will definitely be posting some photos on this page.

     My wife and I have also discussed the possibility of venturing out - possibly to some of the support or social groups in Manhattan.  But for now, I feel that this website will be a good place for me to come out.  Here I can share some of my experiences and feelings with other like-minded people.  My story will continue to unfold, and hopefully I can add new pages in the future.  Please e-mail me with your comments, suggestions, or questions.  I would really love to hear from you.