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First of all you need to ask yourself (before you even start thinking of how to get a second date): do I really want this second date? If you had a good impression of the other person and the two of you clicked really well, you would probably answer "yes." If you feel that way, most likely the other party would also answer "yes" if you asked for a second date. If you originally met at a dating site, your first face-to-face meeting is actually the "second date." Dating websites allow you to talk and get some information about each other before actually meeting in person, and getting to know each other a little is what a first date usually is for. The process of getting a second date is the same as securing that first meeting. How do you display your normal and likeable attributes? And how do you create that emotional connection? The first tip is to be yourself. Avoid stammering and being nervous, but simply be your best self. Act like the way when you are relaxed with friends. It is understandable that most are nervous on first dates, but displaying confidence leaves the best impression. Experience and success brings about true confidence. It's kind of paradoxical how you have to succeed first before you can really be successful, but you can fake it until you make it. Practice projecting an aura of confidence and control yourself from speaking aloud self-destructive or bitter thoughts. However, don't cross the line into being a prat or schmuck. We have discussed so far what being normal is; now let's talk about being likeable. Accept your imperfections rather then be defensive about them. Don't display them, but if they become apparent, smile and use humor to acknowledge it. If the other individual can't accept that, you most likely don't want to go on another date with him or her. Making an emotional connection requires work, but it is easily identifiable. If you discover that you make eye contact quickly, you laugh at the same things (not the polite kind of laughter from the other person while you laugh so hard at your own jokes) and speak out the same ideas or words at the same time, you have that emotional connection. Here is the most important thing to remember: end the date on a high note, when all is going very well. This way, you make the other person want more, which is really how you secure another date - by getting the other individual to want to see you again. Never make up an excuse to leave because you'll give the impression that you're uninterested. A better idea will be to set a time limit at the beginning of the date (maybe an hour or so) and stick to it. If the date is going extremely well, then you can have a next date in the morning. To get more info on Yahoo Personals and other great online dating services, be sure to check out this great site about online dating (TopTenDatingServices.com). You will be glad you did. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Pam_Baldwin |
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