You've all seen them. After a few weeks have passed and you still haven't heard from ABC Company with whom you interviewed. You weren't quite sure how the meeting went, but with each passing day, you became painfully aware of the outcome.

Then, lo and behold, you get that very thin letter from ABC Company. One page. Starts something like "We appreciate your interest in our organization, but..." Somewhere in the note, you will inevitably find something like: "Though your qualifications are impressive, we have decided to pursue our search with other candidates." There will probably be lots of "howevers" and "good lucks". Yet, there you sit, paper in hand, and wonder what went wrong. What do you do? That useless piece of paper offers no clues.

Wouldn't it be nice if, for a change, some helpful organization wrote, "Though your education is impressive, we would rather hire someone who doesn't scratch their nose."? Or, "Your social skills are greatly lacking and for a customer relations position, this is the most important aspect."? That way, those of us who feel we are eternally searching for that perfect vocation would have some idea of what we are doing wrong.

I understand that there may be legal ramifications for being honest. Some idiot might sue a company for saying "Due to the nature of this position, and contact with the public, we need to hire someone who doesn't have a Southern accent." But you'd think there would be some protection from that. After all, who wants their company's reputation questioned because their PR person says "ain't" and "y'all" at a press conference?

So, as I continue to look for The Perfect Job, perhaps you can offer me some ideas as to why a company wouldn't be brutally honest. I value their candor more than I would ever value my own sensitivities.

** For those of you who know me, you realize that I have found a job, despite my discontent from neglective (is that a word?) companies. I am still looking for your anecdotes until the end of the month. For details on the new job, see the Occasional Journal.


The responses that came for December's Question:
  1. Age Group: 26-35
    Sex: Male
    Occupation: Voodoo Child
    Dear Jennifer,
    Let me begin by expressing my deepest admiration for the question you posed. My colleagues and I found it to be both thought provoking and sincere. After much deliberation, and consultation with my inner child, I feel my answers do not mesh well with your particular question. I am fully confident that a robust, well asked question such as yours will be answered in the near future. Even though I was unable to answer your question, I thoroughly enjoyed being asked. I look forward to considering any future questions you may have.

  2. Age:18-25
    Sex: male
    Occupation: Investor
    Comments: The truth hurts. And most people can't deal with the truth. I'm supprised that the lawyers aren't richer than they already have become.

  3. Age:26-35
    Sex: male
    Occupation: Consultant
    Comments: Dear Jennifer,
    Let me begin by expressing my deepest admiration for the question you posed. My colleagues and I found it to be both thought provoking and sincere. After much deliberation, and consultation with my colleagues, I feel my answers do not mesh well with your particular question. I am fully confident that a robust, well asked question such as yours will be answered in the near future. Even though I was unable to personally answer your question, I appreciate your question, and will keep in on file in the event that a future answer comes up that is meets the demands of your question. I look forward to considering any questions you may have in the near future. (And this guy is supposed to be a friend of mine...)

  4. Age:18-25
    Sex: male
    Occupation: i trade stocks
    Comments: I'd guess that most people who have to hire/fire would have that position because they liked the idea of being rude to someone that they'll never have to see again if they don't want, or maybe it's a power trip for them and wouldn't care enough so they smile when you're being kicked out the door to avoid a lawsuit.

  5. Age:26-35
    Sex: female
    Occupation: Insurance Brokers
    Comments: They do not want to offend you for in case they need a replacement for the person that got the job

  6. Age:18-25
    Sex: male
    Occupation: student
    Comments: Wish you every success? Thankyou for your interest in our company? I think we should organize for people to write back and say 'get lost' or words to that effect.

  7. Age:18-25
    Sex: male
    Occupation: STUDENT
    Comments: THEY DON'T HAVE THE BALLS TO TELL THE TRUTH

  8. Age:18-25
    Sex: female
    Occupation: secretary
    Comments: You remember the line from "A Few Good Men": .."You can't handle the truth!" I think that's why most rejections letters are so 'unresponsive.' Companies may figure, "Why tell the truth behind us not hiring this person? We'll never see them again." Of course, this is not helpful to those of us who are looking for another job. Feedback of any kind, especially honest feedback, would be better than a simple, nonthoughtful, "Even though your qualifications are im impressive,..." If I wanted a rejection like that, I would apply to Harvard.

  9. Age:18-25
    Sex: female
    Occupation: Administrator
    Comments: It has been my experience that it is common courtesty not to be rude in a rejection letter. Who REALLY wants to hear negative things about themselves? Imagine getting a letter back from a company that tells you because your thighs were too large and rubbed together when you walked we will not hire you? Or, your teeth had several large gaps in between them. It really disgusts us and we think it will gross out our customers too. The rejection letters might be generic, but at least they only hurt in the fact that we didn't get hired.

  10. Age:18-25
    Sex: male
    Occupation: system programmer/analyst
    Comments: Hi! That's a good question. I think these companies are following a sort of "ethics" that tells them not to be so honest with their rejection reponses. I think it would really help if we can now the weakpoints that they've found in us that gave them the idea to reject. At least the next time we apply , we can watch out for that points. However, the companies don't usually do that--the most honest answer you can get is that your credentials does not meet their needs or requirements. Thanks.

  11. Age:36-50
    Sex: female
    Occupation: nurse
    Comments: When reviewing hundreds of applicants resumes it is unreasonable to personaly respond to every applicant. The hiring process is time consuming enough without writing personal responses to every applicant. (To this, I let her know that I was referring to those letters that come after the initial interview...)

  12. Age:18-25
    Sex: male
    Occupation: Engineer
    Comments: Because they have to conform to political correctness, Most Big Time Companies will not tell you directly that you suck and they dont want you, but rather use an indirect method that does not discriminate in any way possible (not mentioning your flaws and by being politicaly correct).

  13. Age:18-25
    Sex: female
    Occupation: Receptionist/Admin Asst
    Comments: I think sometimes the bosses find out that you are actually smarter than they (bosses)are. I think that frightens them and of course, they can't admit that they won't hire you because you're smarter them.

  14. Age:18-25
    Sex: male
    Occupation: Tech Support/Student
    Comments: Some idiot will at some point sue a potential employer because of a rejection letter that they recieved caused a severe mental destablization. Or it could just be that you are a complete moron . . .(I let this guy know exactly what I thought about his last statement)

  15. Age:26-35
    Sex: female
    Occupation: Personal Assistant
    Comments: The person that interviewed you has no communication skills and is unable to tell you what really buggs them about you and your way of doing things.

  16. Age:26-35
    Sex: female
    Occupation: Telephone Tech Support
    Comments: They don't care and don't want to take the time to tell why they didn't hire you. They use a form letter. They create a mail merge file for you and the other unlucky unhired bastards, merge them into the letter and then mail all the letters out.

  17. Age:26-35
    Sex: female
    Occupation: Sec.
    Comments: How about writing your own letter stating that you are appalled at their letter of rejection and that you will not tolerate any inconsiderate rejection letters from ANYONE. AND that you are sorry but you have to turn down any position offered anyway because they obviously don't deserve you - how's that?

  18. Age:18-25
    Sex: female
    Occupation: Secretary and Former H.R. Assistant
    Comments: Why aren't they honest? It's simple: They claim it's being "tactful". They can't say what they'd really want to.

  19. Age:18-25
    Sex: female
    Occupation: Administrator/Marketing
    Comments: Because they could care less about the people who didn't get the job, they already found who they're looking for and they don't want to take the time to explain why the other people didn't.

  20. Age:26-35
    Sex: male
    Occupation: Investor Service Rep.
    Comments: The answer to your question is that only a committe could come up with such mindless dribble. Committees as we all know, are the root of all evil. They are entities that suck people in against their will and make them stupid for a while. Time is usually distortied inside a committee and when the people emerge from it, they are often nautious and sometimes experience a loss of memory. Documents that a committee is asked to produce normally can't survive inside the hostile environment of the committee. They usually come out as just a dry, contorted and confusing semblance of the original. For example, the IRS Tax Code was originally intended to be a sequel to Hamlet. Well, there's your answer. The only other bit of wisdom I can impart on this topic is a possible solution. I suggest we return to the days of the 3-martini lunch. This should prove a good antidote to the dreaded committee by making its victims less susceptible to the otherwise irresistable "groupthink" (which is invisible and resides inside the committee). So long, and good luck!

  21. Age:26-35
    Sex: male
    Occupation: recluse
    Comments: My bitter experience has been than many places already know who they want before they advertise the job, and write you a pretty form letter so you don't have any cause to take them to court. That and it saves the effort of having to write out an actual critique of your performance during the interview.

  22. Age:18-25
    Sex: male
    Occupation: Student (currently)
    Comments: I don't know, but I do remember a radio commercial a few years back for Bud Dry:
    VO: Why aren't you ever honest with your boss?
    guy: That's a real stupid idea, sir!
    VO: Why isn't your boss ever honest with you?
    boss: It takes a lot more than hard work to get ahead in this business! You have to brown-nose some people.
    VO: Why aren't job applications honest?
    Ben Stein anonymously: We offer low pay, long hours, and no chance for advancment.

  23. Age:18-25
    Sex: No response
    Occupation: Marketing
    Comments: I made the mistake (?) of majoring in Sports Journalism at a great Midwestern college and then moving down South. One tip is that Southerners do not appreciate Northern schools.

    So why can't companies be honest? Laws against discrimination. You could sue for discrimination if you were refused employment because you have nose hair or so on and so forth. It took me three and a half years out of college and slaving in the Real World to find my present and great job. Keep going for what you want, and it will eventually happen.

  24. Age:under 18
    Sex: male
    Occupation: No Response
    Comments: After receiving many rejection letters telling me how impressed they are with my education and skill but decided to seek someone else I finally realized that they are only looking for the someone less skillfull.

  25. Age:26-35
    Sex: female
    Occupation: Office Manager
    Comments: I do understand your frustration and I too received several of these annoying letters in the past, but picture that you receive a letter like this :

    Dear ,

    We regret the fact that we granted you an interview. We are of the opinion that it was a lost of time because of the following reasons :

    • We cannot make use of your skills they are unfit for the company.
    • You have a snout like a porpoise and we have the policy only to employ good looking man and women.
    • and last but not least, we strongly recommend you to use a deodorant. You smell horrible.
    That is of course an extreme letter, but if that's the thruth, I think there a lot of people who appreciate a bit of diplomacy.

    What I would recommend is if you really want to know why they did not hire you, you should call them and ask them to be straight. And maybe, the company that you contact, will apreciate that. The issue is that you have to stand out, don't be a number ! That can make a difference between receiving an unpersonal standard rejection letter and something more personal. Most of the people who receive these kinds of letters are strangers to that company.

    I have been straight in my opinion, I hope I have not offended you. If so... well...the truth has been said.

  26. Age:26-35
    Sex: male
    Occupation: Sales manager
    Comments: Rejection letters are never honest because in the corporate world it is assumed that by being polite, one is acting in a professional manner. Thus rejection letters can never highlight the true reason why the candidate was rejected due to the above reason.

  27. Age:36-50
    Sex: male
    Occupation: sales
    Comments: It's a plot. A 'Queen Bee' of Corporate form letters lay on her side spitting these politically correct forms out into the rejection rooms of America. This allows these under-talented and non decision makers, posing as Human Resource people, to weasle out of telling more qualified people than they are, to take a 'polite' hike. These form letter Resource people,who feed off the corporate hierarchy for self propagation, have no reason to tell anyone why they weren't accepted; only that they weren't. They relish in the corporate 'Dear John' letter. They don't love you. They just want to be your friend!!!

    12/13/97 mm

  28. Age Group:36-50
    Sex: female
    Occupation: math & business
    Comments: You are lucky to get any response at all. If you want to know more, call the person who interviewed you and ask for tips on presenting yourself better. (Unfortunately, this person did not send an e-mail address. Had she done so, I would have given her a very large piece of my mind. Something like: "I present myself quite well, thank you. In fact, I managed to get a very cool job. I am not asking for tips on presenting myself. I am asking companies to tell me that they are hiring someone with more experience or a degree in underwater basket weaving, not to tell me that my breath smells.")

  29. Age Group:26-35
    Sex: female
    Occupation: Recruiter/Human Resources
    Comments: Yes, I am a recruiter for a large company. Why don't we send out letters specifically saying why we didn't select you for the position? Because you'll sue, that's why! Maybe you need to take a look at the responses you are giving to the questions. I asked an applicant once why he left a previous employer. He told me, "I hit my supervisor in the head with a 2 x 4. It got really messy after that." HELLO! If this candidate doesn't know why I didn't consider him/her for the job, then I REALLY don't want to hire him/her.

  30. Age Group:26-35
    Sex: male
    Occupation: IT Consultant
    Comments: ....it's a tiny thrill to a tiny mind as they sit across the desk then dump your CV in the bin as you head for the door ... but hey, it's their loss not yours ...

  31. Age Group:36-50
    Sex: male
    Occupation: Computer Analyst
    Comments: Honesty is not the way of business these days. You say what you think others want to hear in front of them and roast them behind their backs. Why treat the outsiders any better?

  32. Age Group:26-35
    Sex: male
    Occupation: Unemployed
    Comments: I wish to see those employers get back with you sooner than 6 months to a Year. I remember once a company which sent me a "No Job for you Sir" letter 9 months later. Well I thought, better late than never, I thought they should have written the greeting as follow:

    Dear Mummy, We know you have been waiting impatiently for a reply to your Job Application. You also should know that we had formed several committees to scrutinize your application. The meetings were postponed several times due to illness and vacation of some of the decision makers. Added to that our budget for your type of position has not been signed by the big cheese.

    Well you should be homeless or dead by now, but we apologyze for any inconvenience this delay has caused in your career. We know you have given up hope by now, but to just humor you, we thought it would be important to let you know that the committee has finally decided, after careful review of your qualifications, that indeed you should look elswhere for a job.

    We think you may be mummified by now. we wish you the best preservation in your eternal journey as a jobless mummy.

    Sincerely, Do Little Department.

  33. Age Group:26-35
    Sex: male
    Occupation: investment banker
    Comments: form letters written ages ago simply can't go into details like "southern accent" or "big breasts". key word: automation

  34. Age Group:18-25
    Sex: female
    Occupation: C Programmer
    Comments: It's not rejection letter, rather it is not so - suitable for the vacancy letter. It's better to receive one than not receiving at all. At least, some news is better than no news.

    Things goes with like that :

    1. Thank you for your interest
    2. It's pleasure to meet you
    3. We are impressed with your determination to work in...
    4. However, we can't continue with the interview.
    5. Wish you every success.

    Actually, they should put in something more specific, maybe the salary scale is too high, not enough expertise in that field or so on.

  35. Age Group:26-35
    Sex: male
    Occupation: Controller
    Comments: Rejection Letters are scripted. A company's rekjection letter is the same they send to all "rejects". I know this because I worked close enough to the Human Resource Dept. of my old company to overhear them talking about sending rejection letters. I think the legal stuff you referred to has a lot to do with it but also they don't "waste" time writing rejection letters to everyone. Think about it... If you are hiring and you interview 10 people but only hire 1 - would you take the time to write original letters to the other 9?? You wouldn't have time if you wanted to. So, a combination of all those things is why the are not honest.

  36. Age Group:18-25
    Sex: female
    Occupation: College Professor
    Comments: Well for starters they say all good things on the beginning of the page and then they give you the news of your rejection. By the way I am looking for a full-time job right now, and I am collecting these form letters!

    maybe all we can do is fantasize about that



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