Name: |
Liza |
Online Name: |
Lexuss |
Country: |
Canada |
State: |
BC |
Age: |
20 |
Birthday: |
November 18th, 1978 |
Special Talents: |
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Hobbies: |
Cooking, reading, watching movies, working
out |
Where do you work? |
I'm a student, I don't have time to work
:) |
Were you working when you became pregnant?
If yes, doing what? |
Yes, at a restaurant |
Are you in school? |
Yes, university |
If you've graduated, what is your degree? |
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How old were you when you had your first
child? |
17 |
Did you keep? abort? give up for adoption?: |
Kept him |
Was it the first time you had sex? |
No |
Were you and the father a couple? |
Yes |
Are you still together? |
Yes |
If you're not together, is the father involved?
How is he involved? |
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Were you using protection against pregnancy?
If yes, what kind? |
Sometimes, if we did, we used condoms |
If not, was it because you were trying
to get pregnant? Please explain: |
I wasn't concerned about getting pregnant,
if it happend I would have been happy, and I was, but if it didn't
happen that was ok too |
Did you know how you would support the
baby? Support yourself? |
yes |
Were you using protection against STDs? |
Yes, and no, he was my first, and he knew
he didn't have anything, so it wasn't a concern |
How many children do you have? |
1 |
What are their names, ages, birthdays? |
Brandon, 3 years old, September 6th, 1996 |
Was the pregnancy emotionally difficult? |
No, I had a lot of support from my boyfriend
and my family, as well as from his family |
Was the pregnancy physically difficult?
i.e. were there any medical problems? |
I problems, easy delivery too |
What was/is the most difficult experience
as a young mother? |
Making enough time to spend with my son,
as well as having enough money to buy him things I wish I could
get for him |
Was your family helpful/supportive? |
Very supportive |
Did you stay at home with your parents? |
yes, we lived there until my son was over
a year old |
Did your family help support you? The baby?
Emotionally, financially, or both? |
yes, both, they help emotionally and they
also helped us out if we needed something that we didn't have
money for |
Do they support you now? Emotionally, financially,
or both? |
they still support us emotionally, but
we don't need them to support us financially anymore |
Did/do you need public assistance? How
did/does that make you feel? |
I did need it before, but now I don't.
I hated having to be on assistance, it made me feel ashamed and
embarrased |
Was the father's family involved with the
pregnancy? Emotionally, financially, or both? |
yes, both |
Did the father's family help support you?
Emotionally, financially, or both? |
they helped emotionally, but not really
financially |
Does the child have a relationship with
the paternal Grandparents? |
yes, he has an awesome relationship with
both my parents, as well as my boyfriends parents |
Do you feel accepted by people your age? |
yes |
Do you feel like you have it harder than
people your own age without children? |
yes, they don't have as much responsiblity
emotionally or financially as young parents do. They only have
to worry about themselves, not another life. |
Are you happy with the decisions you have
made? (Be honest. . .it's ok to feel bad, we all do sometimes) |
yes, I wouldn't change anything |
What are your personal goals? (goals for
yourself as an individual not as a mother) |
finish school and get a job |
Have your goals changed since you became
a parent? |
not really, it will just take a little
bit longer to reach them |
Do you feel that reaching your goals will
be more difficult now that your a teen parent? |
yeah, it is harder, but it will be worth
it. Difficult situations also make you a stronger person if you
have to overcome situations that are more difficult, so I think
that I'll be a better person for having to overcome a difficult
situation, as opposed to having a easier time accomplishing my
goals. |
What would you tell a (school age) 12-18
year old girl that wanted to get pregnant? |
Everything will be easier once you have
set up everything in your life, like an education and a good
job. Then if you still want kids have them, your life will be
easier, and you'll have the satisfaction of knowing that you've
done everything right for your kids |
How do you think being a Young Mother has
changed you? |
it's made me more responsible and sensitive
to other people's problems |
How do you think society looks upon teen
pregnancy? |
they frown upon it, they think all young
mothers are irresponsible and bad mothers and role models. Some
of us may be like that, but some of us are better mothers than
women older than us. |
Why do you think there are so many teen
parents? |
maybe they want to be a mom, but they don't
realize what it really takes to be a good mother, also they may
be too embarrased to talk to their parents about sex, and they
may get information from friends or their boyfriends who don't
know about birth control either |
List 5 Pro's to being a teen Mother? |
I'll be close to my son, because it'll
be easier to relate to him, because I'll remember what it was
like to be his age. Since I'm young I may live longer than older
mothers and get to see him do a lot of things. I'll be able to
enjoy spending time alone with my boyfriend when we're in our
fourties, instead of starting a family then. I'll also be able
to enjoy spending time with my grandchildren, because I'll be
young enough to play with them, like they were my own kids. I
may even get to spend a lot of time with my great grandchildren |
List 5 Con's to being a teen Mother?: |
Not having enough time to spend with my
son (too much homework). Not having enough money (some older
parents have this problem also). Not being able to do things
at the drop of a hat like my friends without children. More stress
than other people my age without children. Missing out on going
out with friends because I can't get a babysitter (not that big
of a deal anyways, I'd rather spend time with my son and my boyfriend
anyways). |
What do you expect to get out of being
a member of Young Mothers?: |
Nothing really, I just think that me and
my son will be good friends because we're close in age, it'll
be easier to understand were he's coming from, because it'll
be easier to remember what things were like when I was his age. |
Today's Date: |
Oct 19th, 1999 |