Name:	Rande
Online Name:	Same as above
Country:	USA
State:	Utah
Age:	20
Your Birthday:	12/11/79
Special Talents:	I don't know if its a talent yet, but I am learning how to play the guitar...and I used to dance, but I would say child raising is my talent!
Hobbies:	I am into natural stuff (herbs, etc) I love to scrapbook and do anything outdoors. I also love to do pottery and have my hands in clay!
Where do you work?	At home
Were you working when you became pregnant? If yes, doing what?	Yes, at a fitness resort/spa- I worked in the spa as a spa co-ordinator!
Are you in school?	no, I wish!
If you've graduated, what is your degree?	GED- soon :0)
How old were you when you had your first child?	16
Did you keep? abort? give up for adoption?:	keep
Was it the first time you had sex?	second
Were you and the father a couple?	yes
Are you still together?	no, we were married for 3 months the divorced when I was 6 months pregnant.
If you're not together, is the father involved? How is he involved?	not really he never comes around... just enough to go to court once in awhile
Were you using protection against pregnancy? If yes, what kind?	no
If not, was it because you were trying to get pregnant? Please explain:	This gets confusing... to put it short and sweet- I did not want to at all, no... but he did!
Did you know how you would support the baby? Support yourself?	I thought he (the father) would, but my parents and I did.
Were you using protection against STDs?	no
How many children do you have?	2
What are their names, ages, birthdays?	Brecken 10/14/96. Dyson 5/26/99
Was the pregnancy emotionally difficult?	YES
Was the pregnancy physically difficult? i.e. were there any medical problems?	I had a hard labor that ended into an emergency c-section
What was/is the most difficult experience as a young mother?	ex husband and ex mother-in-laws... COURT! But now it is hard to make true friends because of my past and age.
Was your family helpful/supportive?	yes... very wonderful!
Did you stay at home with your parents?	yes... until I got married
Did your family help support you? The baby? Emotionally, financially, or both?	All of the above
Do they support you now? Emotionally, financially, or both?	they would help me in any way, but we are able to make it without the financial support.
Did/do you need public assistance? How did/does that make you feel?	My parents helped me- I almost did though
Was the father's family involved with the pregnancy? Emotionally, financially, or both?	none of the above... they just added more burden and stress!
Did the father's family help support you? Emotionally, financially, or both?	none of the above!
Does the child have a relationship with the paternal Grandparents?	no
Do you feel accepted by people your age?	not usually
Do you feel like you have it harder than people your own age without children?	not really... its just different! God doesn't give us tests that we can't handle. I am greatful to be a mother!
Are you happy with the decisions you have made? (Be honest. . .it's ok to feel bad, we all do sometimes)	I am not happy that I got preger! But I am happy that I turned that experience into a positive one! I am happy with how I handled it!
What are your personal goals? (goals for yourself as an individual not as a mother)	To go to school and become a better person (and mother).
Have your goals changed since you became a parent?	yes and no... if you count the motherly goals. :0)
Do you feel that reaching your goals will be more difficult now that your a teen parent?	yes
What would you tell a (school age) 12-18 year old girl that wanted to get pregnant?	Not to do it... To wait tell she was married and out of school!
How do you think being a Young Mother has changed you?	Patience! and it helped me realize the true meaning of life and to get on the right track and change my life around!
How do you think society looks upon teen pregnancy?	Some still look down on you, but Its getting more common place- so not as hard as a few years back.
Why do you think there are so many teen parents?	Because it is so common for teens to have sex... the media and music promotes it. Peer pressure and morals are less than they used to be... Also there are Creep guys who manipulate young girls and get what they want!
List 5 Pro's to being a teen Mother?	??? hmmm....Being a young mom, at your prime when they are teens, lots of energy, Being able to serve your children, and to teach them.
List 5 Con's to being a teen Mother?:	loose your teen days, hard to have things in common with others, harder to date and hang out with friends... I don't know. those things aren't important to me now, but it was hard to get used to at first. :0)
What do you expect to get out of being a member of Young Mothers?:	Friends :0)
Today's Date:	1/23/00