Promote self feedings - it helps with the gag as they know they are in control.
Oral stimulation is great for hyper gag reflex. Nuk brushes, reg tooth brushes, kids electric toothbrush, a frozen piece of liquorish or bumpy textured toys.
Most refluxers tend to like saltier rather than sweet.
Let them get messy, playing with food is great for them.
Keep feedings positive. Cheer, clap dance when they take a bite....most find this fun.
Always end on a positive note, if he ate good rub his face gently, give a little cheer, or tell him good job, if he puked clean it up and offer him more, if not smile or sing a little song and get him out while he is content.
Let them eat with the family or if not possible watch you and your family eat, it makes a pleasant, positive re-enforcement.
If they aren't knowing to chew or swallow you can sometimes give a gentle pat or rub under, between the chin and neck or a gentle circular rub on both checks.
Avoid any unnecessary procedures which can cause more feeding problems.
Try to stay positive your self.
Don't force....it only makes things worse.
And it's critical to find a good feeding therapist (or SLP or OT that deals with feeding issues) in your area to work with.
These toddler formula's are 30 calories per oz:
Pediasure
Nutren Jr
Peptamin Jr
Calorie additives: - these come in powder form and are tastless and easily dissolvable
Polycose (23 cal per Tbs)
Duocal (43 cal per Tbs)
Scandical (35 cal per Tbs)
High calorie foods that can be added:
Butter, cream, half&half, olive oil, MCT Oil
A list of feeding clinics
Additional links:
New-Visions A web site from a speech therapist, Suzanne Morris, with tons of information on feeding issues including: clinical services, a catalog of equipment avaiable to order, and information papers
Beyond Play Early Intervention products for young children with special needs - check out the oral motor section
Talk Tools Includes Oral-motor articles, oral-motor therapists, seminars and a catalog to order from
Feeding Issues This is a web site from Congenital Heart Defects, but it has information that deals with feeding issues which can stem from many different causes
Feeding News This is a web site with a newsletter from an experienced speech therapist. Other links and info as well.