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From: TonitrusDate: Sunday March 28, 1999
Subject: rant
Hello, Moon's Daughter,
I am replying to your entire rant section... I would have to strongly disagree with the entire rant section ..Not the content, but it's presence there at all...
That is like picking an open wound, or dipping a paper cut in lemon juice... If something... (usually someone) bothers you, by all means, tell them that, do not write your feelings in a hidden area so that they may ... Grow, and be even more irratating... then the cycle goes on... Anger is a bad emotion... but it is controllable, and once fixed, the problem goes away... If you let milk sit, it curdles... If you let anger sit, it turns to bitterness... Although you may be loving, and love all things, if you let your anger sit unchecked, it will turn to bitterness... and just as mold, when left unchecked will consume an entire piece of bread, so will anger unchecked lead to your destruction... where you lose yourself in your anger...
I know we disagree on major religious matters, but I think we can both agree on this one... The bible teaches, that if I have some un...unresolved anger, wait... a good song by dc Talk sums it up well...
Title : Between You and Me [lyrics cut due to copyright]
This song is helpful to remember... I have had to use it in the past... You see, I betrayed a friend... Due to a misunderstanding... Although we may disagree on the theology... I think we can agree on the humility there... I would ask you that you post this near the rant list, as it might also be helpful to others who like to harbor grudges... And I also know that with different gods, different rules, but the humility involved in this commandment...
(Not the song.. the song was reference to this teaching) Is one that, although my God commands it because it is the right thing to do... He also commands it because it gets the wieght off of the person's chest... It helps to restore friendships, to right wrongs, and to demonstrate that you are always repentant of the wrongs you do... whether you are at fault in any issue is between you and your conscience, but You should still approach them with a willingness to right the wrong... This is what my Lord has taught me to do... whether or not your Goddess does, you should try it... It helps to purge the ill feelings...
God bless you.
Semper Fidelis,
Tonitrus
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My Reply
Date: April 17, 1999Hello There;
I'm sorry it's taken me so long to reply to your letter. I've been really busy, and this is really the first chance I've had to get any work done on my pages in several weeks, and due to the fact that we spoke about this on IRC, I didn't think you'd mind too much, I hope I was right.
As I said before, the purpose behind the rant section of my page is to let me blow off steam, so that I can then speak/write rationally to the person/people who have gotten "under my skin", not to "write" my "feelings in a hidden area".
I EXPECT my rant section to be read. I even tell the people who have inspired my harsh feelings that they've inspired a rant, when I am done, so I don't see that section as keeping my anger in, rather the contrary. I see it as letting the anger out in a constructive manner. Not only do I let the people who have caused the anger to know my feelings, but I put them right out where anyone can read them. That doesn't seem like hiding to me.
And it does help me to deal with my anger. I was indeed, once, the type that would allow anger to fester in my soul... refusing to acknowledge the "darker" side of myself. I suffered several physical ailments due to that, and the stress generated by my denial (chronic gastritis, migraine headaches, severe muscle pain in my back, etc) all of which are diminishing greatly as I learn to deal with my anger, depression and stress in such ways. It is my connection with the gods that has allowed me to do these things... that has taught me to accept all the parts of "me", dark and light.
I believe I am a much more "balanced" person since I have started letting my more negative emotions out in such a public forum... allowing the "world" to know the inner workings of my mind, rather than keeping the negavity bottled up inside myself. Because, in writing them out, and acknowledging them, I learn more about them and myself.
I hope that made some kind of sense, and again, please forgive the lateness of my "official" reply.
Sincerely
Moon's Daughter
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