Toughness

        Toughness is thought of in the sense of being strong and hard. We think of tough and we think that there is a certain amount of coldness there, or we think of someone concentrating on the developing of strength. Be tough and what do you think of, what does it mean? We can't all be strong physical specimens with all the images that go along with that. We all are aware of physical feats of strength, but too often we neglect the other type of toughness, the type that is not seen.

        How can an individual be tough and not be hard? What does it mean to be tough? We know we are in days of trial and days of fearful things. Our daily routines have been turned upside down, for now we must contend with the unknown certainties of fighting. How does one become tough without losing that all important sense of being open and kind to others? We're aware of the analogy of the tree that bends and doesn't break, and even the biggest tree can be brought down, but the larger and stronger ones last the longest. What sometimes brings them down are small insects that eat away at the inside of the tree. If we are too tough, if we keep an image of hardness to the point of anger, then we can be brought down like the large trees. Toughness is determination. Toughness is will power. Toughness is continuing to do what we must do when it seems easier to hide. Toughness is building on the strength we have and willing ourselves to be able to sustain ourselves in times of trouble. Those who are tough and can withstand much are often unable to let down and let the emotional needs come forth. It is important to realize that there is no vulnerability in showing emotion, but simply a need for the body and the spirit to release the feeling behind the tough exterior. There is no shame in tears. It cleanses and heals. Some mistakenly believe an unemotional front is a sign of toughness, yet we must keep our balance, keep our sensitive side open to the pain of others and to our own pain.

        Keep calm, stay strong, be confident in yourself and do not let fears overtake you.