Gifts

        It is once again that time of year when gifts are exchanged for many people. We have spoken of gifts before and each year we try to think of something special. The time and care taken for just that perfect gift usually is repaid by appreciation and thankfulness. It is hard for those who cannot afford to spend money to give gifts. When the stores show the bright colored packages and the colorful bows amidst the elaborate displays it is difficult to think of something that could begin to match those whose colors shine so brightly.

        Too often we take for granted the advice that is given each year from many sources. Do something for someone else they say, give to a child or a family or a charity. We try and yet sometimes the giving feels impersonal. If it is to a particular group for solace and is carefully personalized in its giving, the gift can be lasting in its effect. When the gift is for someone who is loved or for someone who we feel is deserving, we feel as if we have somehow not done enough if it doesn't match the expense range we'd like to express.

        Somehow we know in our hearts that the gift does not have to be expensive. We sense that it does not have to be wrapped even though we want to give in a material way. Truly, the most lasting gifts are those given from the heart. When someone is helped at the right moment of need, when comforting words are given, or nice surprises brighten someone's day, we feel good and we know that the gift is as good as if it was expensively wrapped and bought. We just have to take a few minutes to think of possibilities. It is part of the creative process, knowing how to give and also how to receive. It can be planned or spontaneous but creatively, we can use our thoughts to think of those things that will bring a smile or bring comfort or express love. As you shop this year, think not of how much you have to spend, but how much you have to give.