Essays from Your Host
The first four seem to have a common theme. Now that they're done (finally), I'll be thinking of four more related in another way. For now, click on the title you'd like to see, sit back and be enlightened by my inflated self-image and all around pomposity. As I make a dangerous assumption that you'd like to know any of this:
The Meaning of Life I:
The Mythology of Mythology (July 15, 1998)
Extending the Olive Branch into the Last Frontier (August 2, 1998)
The PBS Sign-off and the Meaning of Life Part 1 (September 4, 1998) I fixed the hyperlink…
Dark Paneling (November 1, 1998)
Coming soon, a new collection of essays begins: "Twisting Your Brain Inside Out Until Stuff Drips to the Ground"
The Mythology of Mythology
I just finished listening to an abridged audio recording of Joseph Campbell's The Hero With a Thousand Faces. It's a tome written in the 1940's about myths and legends throughout very-early history. (This is an example of when it's OK to listen to an abridgment). Campbell compares the elements of myth with the human psyche and psychotherapy in general.... I think. It wasn't the easiest to follow, but the various myths and legends he recounted were pretty fascinating.
After hearing these tales of yore, I came to a startling revelation. Before I share this with you, let me give you an excerpt from a 2000-year-old myth of creation. It has been told throughout the generations in ancient Tumeria. (That's somewhere west of here).
Conoraboro was light incarnate. He was born as a half-god, half-mule in the age of chaos in the center of a barren field that grew neither wheat, nor rice, nor speckled fruit. In the center of this wasteland (which measured a thousand thousand cubits end to end) sat an egg. This egg measured only five cubits. It had been laid by the bird of eternity (which passes by all things only once every million million turnings of the empty cosmos).
Upon feeling the dry arid wind of nothingness, the egg cracked. A yellow light emanated from within. This is from hence issued Conoraboro. He stood only two cubits. In his infant form he ate of the sand and dried flakes of rock (chipped away with his many rows of sharp teeth). He grew. Soon he stood in the center of the field, a full six hundred cubits high.
Wings of shining gold adorned his back. His face was that of a condor, his body that of an ape. One day, he came to the realization that there must be another. From his beak there issued a flake from an earlier feeding. When it fell to the ground, two things happened: the land became lush with grasses, and trees, and lakes. The second thing that happened was the creation of a being much like himself, only with the head of a raven and the body of a wildebeest. They coupled, and from their coupling they begot six hundred sons, and six hundred daughters. Soon the lush world filled with their songs, and the sweet juices of the pomegranate.
What an incredibly fascinating version of the creation myth. After hearing this lost tale, and so many others from days long lost, I came to a conclusion: the people of that time were all insane. Now, I'm not referring just to the wise ones who told these stories. Everyone was crazy. They had to be.
Think about it. If you sat around fires all night with a wiry old man who wore paint on his face and a decapitated elk head on his scalp, listening to him tell these stories over and over, you'd be a little nuts, too. This is OK, though. Since everyone's concept of reality was so skewed, there was no one individual to sneak into your tent and steal the bowl of ripened fruit while you contemplated the story of the mongoose king and the salmon princess.
And so the world and its inhabitants lived in peaceful bliss. Throughout these cloudy-minded years, however, evolution slowly took hold. Here and there, scattered like diamonds on a rocky shore, clarity descended upon certain individuals. One woman would suddenly stand up during the above-mentioned fireside talks. She'd scream, "No. You are wrong. We do not come from the excrement of the fly on the camel's dung. Rather, we most certainly must be born of the seeds of knowledge which lay hidden in the core of the mango." Well, it was a start at least. Of course, this woman was immediately put to death and eaten before the spider-woman heard her blasphemy and made the leaves of the willow rise with the wind.
Over the years the human mind popped into clarity, as much as possible, until now we can watch current events with an open and analytical mind, look for the lies in someone's words by the subtle inconsistencies in their speech. We can tell normal stories to each other, realistic ones with much better computer effects and commercial tie-ins. And we can do this with complete autonomy, as long as we don't offend any major public group with our modern myths and legends. They still, even if only metaphorically, will put you to death and eat you before anyone else has a chance to understand your truths.
Think of how far the human consciousness has changed (and not changed) over the last two thousand years. Even over the last two hundred. Not to sound like a popular song of the sixties, but consider the world in the year 3998. What kind of beings will look back on us? Oh, to be sure, they'll still spend hours looking for technical flaws in Star Trek films. But what will they think of our news broadcasts, our magazines? Will they wonder with amused minds how our age insisted on showing only real-life or depressing shows at ten o'clock, when the people of our time are trying to go to sleep? That an entire legal system of the most powerful tribe of the era focused around a tryst between their leader and a stenographer? It will be interesting. I hope they find my DNA and bring me back for a look.
"Ninchula, look at this!"
"Hmmm?
"What kind of people could they have been, to believe in such things as DNA? That the world revolves around an imprinted code in every cell of their bodies?"
"What are bodies?"
"Did you retinate through the entire Ancient History module?"
"Doesn't everyone?"
"Not me. This stuff is fascinating. How could people have survived thinking like that?"
"I honestly don't care. Let's get moving. We're going to be late for church."
July 15, 1998
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Extending the Olive Branch into the Last Frontier
Ten thousand years ago there were a lot less people in the world. ("Well, duh." "Shh. I think he's going to make a point."). Although clans clustered together at the best hunting areas, one would walk many days before reaching any substantial population center. Even among your own people you'd be hard pressed to walk in to a men's room and have to share your intimate moment at the urinal with someone who has the urge to spit and breath funny. ("This is starting to sound like his last essay.") Well, it's not anything like that.
("Was he talking to me?" "I don't know. I think so. Be quiet now or you'll get us in trouble.")
In those past days folks lived entire lives never coming into contact with anyone outside the dozen or the hundred people huddled with them at night around the big flickering hot things.
But there were times when a newcomer would arrive. Usually the visitor was a man, a high-ranking hunter from a clan over the mountains or down the river. The strong yet weary traveler would present a token as a sign of his peaceful intentions. This token usually came in the form of a flowering branch, which had been carefully tended to during the trip. Everything was symbolic back then. Or, the item would be more practical, like smoked animal meat (usually hanging among the flies from a flowering branch). The hunter stayed a while and exchanged goods, stories of the hunt; stuff like that. Of these special times, which tended to break the routine and make an excuse for celebrating and slaughtering a bison or two, some were more significant than others because the visitor was kin.
When a tribe grew too big, some of the men and woman ventured off to find more land, to save both groups from the perils of overpopulation (everything's relative... no pun intended). Brothers bid farewell to brothers, mothers sent their daughters away, and neither side was likely to see the other again. One generation, sometimes two, would pass before the stories of the further-down-the-road kinfolk would drive some to search for the lost branches of their tree.
("He's so knowledgeable about history. How does he know so much?" "I don't know. It's history. He probably makes most of it up.") I read Clan of the Cave Bear. Have you? ("...no...") Then listen and maybe you'll learn something. And get ready I'm changing gears.
It's been said by a number of people lately that there are no more frontiers to explore on this world. Every corner of the woods and deserts have been charted, catalogued and posted with National Geographic for all to see and experience. For sure there's still the ocean, but even oceanographers are realizing this is a silly notion because of the intense pressure down there, and there are way too many scary-looking wiggly things to make it much of a destination for anyone.
We look to space, slowly, to see what's there. The hope is there IS something (but I'll save all that discussion for another time). But where else can we explore but out there among the billions and billions (you all know how to pronounce that) of suns?
Recently I've come to a realization there is one last frontier, perhaps, that is opening up to all of us. Not just the scientists and extremely rich dreamers are beginning to explore it, but so am I, and you, by the very fact you're sitting here reading this diatribe.
("I'm lost... what's he getting at?" "Hi. I'm back." "Where'd you go?" "I had to masturbate." "...what?" "Umm... I mean I had to get this cup of coffee. See?" "What's that on your -") Excuse me! Can I continue? ("Sure go ahead.") Thank you.
Picture if you will these large (miles high) partitions, jet black, creating within its many walls squares of one hundred miles. This thing is dropped onto the earth, across every country and town and ocean. Within these contained boxes we live our lives, make our friends, meet our wives/husbands/life partners, build our houses, learn about our ancestors from our ancestors as we teach our children what we know. Sometimes one of us finds a door in the black wall and moves on to a new job, new adventure. We say goodbye, don't forget to write. We keep in touch with this branch of our tree, but since the long-distance phone companies kick in if you call past your cube's partitions, the contact becomes more infrequent. We are once again isolated from whatever square this other has joined, and the other is now isolated from ours.
Over the last few years, and more so every day, these massive life-controlling partitions have lifted. In my opinion they're not only lifted but also completely destroyed. Suddenly, billions of people are standing where they've always stood, blinking away the loss of shadow from their lives. Slowly, as they learn how, they can see past the 100 miles of their existence. In stunned silence, a billion people stare into the lives of a billion people. The other who had moved five thousand miles away is now standing before you and telling how he drank too much the other night. You laugh :-) and show him the new wallet sizes of your dog. Every day it's like he never left. You're at your computer trying to work out a problem before lunch when there's a beep. You finish the problem you're working on, then on your own time during lunch (so as not to interfere with productivity) you Alt-Tab to your e-mail system. The other has this incredibly funny joke. You laugh :-) even though sixteen other people have already sent the joke to you.
We recently were paid a visit on this new virtual landscape called the Internet by someone from Ireland who has the same last name as us. She came across my brother's Keohane Family home page while surfing around for related sites. Now, it doesn't look as though she is related (at least not from the last few generations), but the reaction to her arrival was no less excited than when the stranger arrived ten thousand years ago carrying a flowering olive branch. Perhaps ten generations ago an ancestor moved from home to start his/her family, and their children did the same, until now there are so many clans intertwined throughout the world we may never be able to reconstruct our true pasts. But we're trying.
The Web isn't so much the thing to be explored as the tool used to seek out the corners of the world we've been so long sheltered from. When the telephone, then the television, was invented the world suddenly seemed a little smaller. We could see things moving before us we could only imagine from photographs. We could talk to someone thousands of miles away (if we knew his or her number). Now, with every person having the potential to put a piece of their life on display to share with so many others, the world doesn't look smaller. It looks enormous.
When the visitor to his ancestral clan arrived he experienced stories, tribal traditions never before seen in his life. When the colonists came to the Americas they opened up to animals, people, traditions and customs never before imagined. Kind of like eating Meso soup for the first time. The Congo. India. Japan. New worlds so long isolated suddenly feeding so many other cultures, enriching the world for it all.
Now there are a billion minds open for the sharing, a billion corners of the world blossoming for us to look upon and sniff. Thoughts that would have stayed in the young girl's journal are read, understood, and held close by a young girl in a smoky village on the opposite side of the globe. A twisted, horrifying image the shaky executive blinks away every day before coming to work crawls through his fingers into the tormented psyche of an accountant in Burbank. A hazy, never-to-be-known branch of a family tree is illuminated by an email at lunch.
We should still look to the stars for a new planet to discover, maybe a ghost ship from another world with a dark secret to scare us all for a day or two. We should never stop looking. But while we do, it's nice to know there is one final frontier left to explore: ourselves.
August 2, 1998
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The PBS Sign-off and the Meaning of Life Part 1
I couldn't decide what to talk about for this month's fireside chat: the Meaning of Life, or a discussion on why men use twice as much toilet paper after they hit 35. After some debate, I decided on the less interesting topic for this month. Not to worry, we'll do the toilet paper another day.
The reason for the 'Part 1' in the title is because Life, in general, is just too big and sticky for one discussion. Besides, your phone line will be busy for months if I try to cover everything in here. Patience. Patience.
I'm a big believer in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. In short, the historic psychiatrist (or whatever he was) said that there is a 'pyramid' of needs that one climbs throughout life, attaining a higher level only when the lower, more basic levels have been satisfied. The lowest, most critical plateau contains the basic requirements of life: food, shelter, water and sex. Interesting that sex is in there. I think these days it might have to be moved to the second level. There are some that say it's not a requirement at all. Look at Mother Teresa's life. True. But I think sex could be as important as clothing (or lack thereof) for some, based on their expectations of life. But let's not jump ahead.
The second level, gotten to after your basics are out of the way, contains more social things: acceptance by family, acceptance by peers (social acceptance), basically a good self image (I'm going from memory here). Then there are two others, more specific to higher, less tangible needs. The specifics evade me, but are generally what I'm going to talk about. They involve attaining higher goals, "chasing the dream", needing to paint that picture, or write that story. The highest of all levels, the narrow peak of the pyramid, is called "Self Actualization." Maslow didn't think anyone could ever reach this plateau, but he figured we all strive for it. Perfection. Blah blah blah.
There's something to be said for all this. Folks in "third world" nations, who never know if they'll drop off forever or actually eat something one day to the next, are constantly in that lower level of basic needs. Who gives a crap what the woman next to you thinks about your tattered rags when you feel your body shriveling into nothingness? Then there's Bif, a young boy born into the family fortune, a thirty-thousand square foot mansion on a 500 acre estate, servants with food, a pool to dip his toes, and a snobbish, I'm-better-than-all-of-you attitude. One would think Biffy boy is way up there. He has everything. Then why is he a sociopath who sits around screaming at the servants, drinking sherry when his parents aren't watching, and torturing the pets? Unfortunately, Bif's parents couldn't care less about the little runt. He's such an inconvenience. They're planning on sending him off to a boarding school. Far away. Bif has no friends. Because he's so used to getting what he wants, no one wants to hang out with him. This is either because he's too spoiled rotten; or else they're intimidated by his wealth. "Poor" Bif is stuck in the second level of MHON, not getting what he needs in the family & social support area.
("Is there anything else on?")
**click**
"Sneezo!" "Ask your doctor." "At last, freedom from the bondage of allergies!" "Sneezo." "Ask your doctor." "Parasail across wheat and pollen! Watch your son's ball game!" "Ask your doctor." "Ask your doctor about Sneezo." "Sneezo." Zoom! "I'll ask my doctor today!" (Most common side effects of snezolofigantrialisten are very similar to a sugar pill, and may include painful bowel movements, sneezing, dementia, blindness, menstrual cramps, and death)
("What else?")
**click**
"That about wraps up Fox News at 10:00. Thanks for joining us. Recapping the last hour of news: Monica Lewinsky changes her brand of tampons. Is this a message to Bill Clinton? Jonbenet Ramsey's gerbils: what role did they play in her death, and why have the police brought in the cute little rodents for questioning? On Fox News at six a.m. we'll follow up on these and other stories. Oh, and the President is in Ireland and has brought peace to both it and the Middle East, Iraq has dropped a nuclear bomb on Turkey, the Russian government has collapsed and a band of traveling harlequins have taken over the Kremlin. But our top story we'll follow up on: Has a blind farmer in New Mexico discovered proof of the Roswell UFO?"
**click**
...when I was in my early teens and suddenly discovering that there were years of Life and Living looming ahead of me like a dark forest path, I ("It's that guy again. Oh well, nothing else is on right now, let's see what he has to say.")ay up late at night and watch television on my little B&W set. One night, I stumbled across the PBS sign-off. Channel 2 (Boston's PBS) would end its programming day panning across the Boston skyline as the sky darkens from day to night. Before this, scenes of various programs flashed by. Crocket's Victory garden, Julia Child, the Boston Pops, scenes from street performers at Fanual Hall and Harvard Square, blinked out in squares of color and faded into the next, while a harpsichord chimed out a nice tune. Along the screen scrolled names of all the colleges and institutions that contribute to public television. Mind you, they changed this little video ditty in the late eighties. I'm talking late seventies/early eighties here. The first time I saw this, something clicked. I mean, I wasn't knocked from my horse and blinded by the light of God. The effect was subtler. I watched the names of these big Universities scrolling across my screen, scenes of people putting on the shows, real people who are acting, or cooking or pinching aphids, and I said to myself: that's where I want to be someday. I couldn't say then, or now really, what that place was. It was just a feeling. An intangible goal. At that age (and even today, I guess) I could have gone two ways: looked at it like a goal and moved towards it, or say "Man, why can't I do that? Why aren't I sitting around libraries at Harvard University talking about really deeeeeep stuff?" I went with the latter until almost out of college, thinking that maybe someday, sigh, maybe someday.
Of course, if all you say is "Maybe someday sigh maybe someday" and not stop to think about what exactly you're sighing about, then you'll just hang out at the top of the second level of MHON. You'll peer in through the frosty window to the third level, seeing the tall grownups laughing and sipping beers by a fire in their mysterious lovely world. You stand there with snow up to your knees.
What, honestly, should a person do if they're in this metaphor? Well, one of two things. First, and this can be the most risky, walk into the place where the people are and see what happens. This could work perfectly. If that place is writing (God I wish I could be a writer sigh I wish I could write) then this means sitting down with a pad of paper and a pen and starting to write. I tried this in college. I didn't work. Why? Because I had no idea where to start. I never took a creative writing course in school (I can never understand why, since I've wanted to write since reading my first Ray Bradbury story as a teenager). I only took those short story courses where you read a famous story and analyze it to death. I loved doing that. But it made me think that these writer's spit these works of prose out first draft. Non-existent imagery and all.
You see, I hadn't realized at that time that the kid looking in the window had another option. He could go home, get changed, and talk to people about what he should do to get himself into that warm place. After college, I signed up for an after-work, adult-education course on short story writing. These things are offered in every city every year. Suddenly, light dawned etc. My friend Fran (whom I met at the class) and I started a writer's group when the class ended. Whoola. I started writing.
Wow, see how that guy can paint those pictures on TV? I wish I could do that. Look up the class and take it. See what happens. See if it clicks. I thought I could be a great guitar player. Janet bought me a guitar (we were dating at the time... It wouldn't be in the budget today) and I took a class or read a book. It just didn't click. Saxophone. Well, I liked it, but it was going to take so much practice. I realized that since we had two kids and one on the way, I'd better narrow my possibilities.
Try things. Don't sit on the edge of your bed and think that trying this or that takes too long. I haven't got time for that, what if it isn't what I want? I'll waste my time! No. You won't. Sitting there for years thinking of how you want to be something you can't even put into words is wasting your time. If you think you want to be a teacher, or a college professor, or do something related to a college, call the HR department and ask to speak to someone about employment. Not an interview, just an informational session. "I'm considering a career change, but need some information." "Why certainly, sir. Pee into this cup." "No, no. You don't understand. I just want to - " "Maybe you don't understand, sir. Pee in this cup. Here. Now." "Is that a gun, ma'am?" "Do it!"
As a kid, I'd stare at the ever-changing images on the PBS sign-off and think, "Boy, I wish I could have sex" and "Boy, I need to get into that world." Maybe I've found it. I didn't go to Harvard, and I never had discussions in libraries, but I did have many deep discussions with Gerry Cotnoir at the Plantation after work, drank beer from fluted glasses, married the woman of my dreams, have gone to plays and concerts and painted and learned the saxophone and I can't play one decent note to save me, and I write bizarre and scary stories. And boy, does Microsoft Word hate that last sentence; it's all green. I'm not trying to yadda yadda about me all day. I guess Life is such a personal endeavor that one has to go about it from his/her own twisted perspective. I haven't reached Maslow's peak of Self Actualization (Those who know me will gasp at this, saying, "No! Really?"), but I think I know what I want to do in this life of mine. For now. I might just get published someday. I might just drive to Maine soon and paint with Bill Howard on the sea shore. If I find myself sitting on the edge of the bed saying "Oh why can't I be at the ocean and paint sigh why why" then I'll know it's time to give Bill a call. I like the core Life I'm living right now. I love my wife and my kids. It's just now and then, when I feel like yelling at the servants (who are, well, me and Janet; the kids being the king and queens) and torturing the dog, I have to take time to feed the right side of my brain, the paint-smattered notebook and pen-carrying side of my life. When I'm done, I can come home and sit on the edge of my bed, sigh in contentment, and go to sleep.
September 4, 1998
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About a month ago I got my first story accepted for publication. Well, it wasn't my first story, but it IS the first story published. Dig? In 1987, after moving to the Big City to work for the Big Insurance Company, I decided (see prior essay TPBSSOATMOL Part I, for details) to attend a writer's class at night. After which, Fran and I formed a writer's group, with the folks who attended the rather mundane class with us. And so we went, full steam for about a year, then two, then three. We met every week, every other week, stepping tentatively at times, jumping into the muck at others, to try and figure out this fiction-writing thing. We picked words from the dictionary, I wrote bizarre little ditties like "Saturnine," "Doctor Vittorio Changing," and "The Receipt." I sat mostly in Fran's apartment listening to her horror stories, Joe's intense suppressed-homosexual vignettes, Susannah's poetry, Frank's surreal explorations of his post-retirement mind (using one of the most original surnames in history: Nitorig K), Julie's deeply personal testaments, and everyone else's written molestations of English prose. And we were good, at least for beginners. In front of each other our stories grew, and they improved. Though my stories got better, more unique, they weren't polished. They weren't ready to go out (though I DID send them out, again and again). Had I known what was good and what was bad, I'd have known that one or two drafts is just not enough for a story. I was only beginning to read stories and books on a regular basis, learning what good meant. Marriage and a new child later, the writer's group was gasping for breath. No one was writing. In the spring of 1992, I started writing a new story, which trudged up into my mind one day with lots of promise. But it wasn't ripe. I wasn't ripe. I stopped writing it. The story, 'Incineration,' was left to mildew in a bent notebook.
Over the next five years I wrote nothing, fiction-wise, except for an occasional story for fun, starring a member of my family, for birthdays or Christmas. I learned to paint. We had a second child. We put our house up for sale. I hated my job. We found some land we bought some land we sold our house we moved into an apartment while our new house was built we had a third baby I changed jobs and became a consultant.
My sister Ellen, brothers Mike & Paul and Ellen's friend Joyce and I wrote a story together (see the Writing World for a link to it). Once bitten, as they say. I was ready to go back. But I had to choose between painting and writing to concentrate on. Deep in me, I knew I had to write. Since reading Ray Bradbury as a kid, since reading the Lawrence's "Young Goodman Brown," I've wanted to write. There past five years stories had been rolling around in my head, banging on my skull. 1997. I began again.
I wrote "Doomsday." If you check out the Writing World pages you'll see it's been subsequently retired (too many asteroids crushing down on Earth stories). Oh, by the way, I resurrected the story, cut it in half, made the asteroid an annoying background noise, and now I have to admit, though it's dark as hell, it kicks ass. But I stray. I finished "Doomsday" in March 1998 and began its short submittal life. That was eight months ago. Since then I've written "Living by the Highway," "Gum," "Lavish" (which I estimate to be the next one to be published), and "Ptolemy." Then the story which had been left stranded at the cliff of my mind in 1992, and since then never really stopped pounding on my eyeballs, was brought front and center. I wrote and finished "Incineration". It sold to Cemetery Sonata, a horror anthology due out early next year by Chameleon Publishing. I had my first sale, the moment I always hoped for (but only truly strove for this past year). After one day of feeling really good about myself, things got fuzzy. I was stuck in neutral. Why wasn't I jumping for joy?
I needed a new essay for this page. It was early October and I needed to get something in front of my recent "PBS Signoff" over-pontificating essay. I kept thinking of the paneling in my parent's den. But what to write? What's the deep dark theme I can delve into about a childhood memory on paneling, of all things? That wasn't what I wanted to talk about, so it never happened. What did I want to talk about? Well, for one thing I was kind of curious as to my blasé reaction to getting the story sold. All I could think about was, I need to sell another very, very soon. Then my Aunt Linda asked how I felt, and when I finished answering her, the answers to my question started to gel.
Since finishing "Incineration," I've written another story that's been hanging around my muse since I was 19 years old, driving to New Hampshire with the McDonald's gang, and pictured a giant Monkey swinging from the three radio towers in Manchester. "The Monkey on the Towers" was recently finished and sent out. I feel good about this one. It's bizarre, but pretty darn good. (I'm my own best fan). I rewrote an oldies from the eighties, and at last did "Tanner's Bomb" justice. Still, I needed for some deep reason to get another story published. At this point I have six stories out to various markets. But it's all a waiting game. It's all about writing and waiting.
I figured it out, I think. When you're dating a woman for the first time, you're walking on air because at last you're on a date with this wonderful person (you hope they're wonderful). But just because you're with her and she with you, it doesn't mean a damn thing. Both of you have to decide whether it could work, what if anything is between you. No matter where the date goes, nothing's for certain until the most important event: the second date. No second date; no relationship. Even then, a second date just means you don't hate each other. The third.... Yep, the third date is the key. Go on three dates with the same person and you're either going to break up with each other over soup or spend a long time together.
I need that second date. I'm walking down the sidewalk, my beautiful wife and three incredible kids on my left side, and this dark, passionate mistress on my right. We're just finishing our first real date, in as much as we're just not flirting across the restaurant, eyes meeting between flashes of the waiter's hurried wanderings. "Incineration," though a key step, was simply dinner and a movie with her. I've got a lot more to show her, to offer, and I'm asking for a second date. I'll get my answer in the mail. Someday.
This is the meaning of my life. One of them, at least. Picking up the kids after work and checking the mail. Trying no to be too grumpy if a big enveloped addressed to me in my own handwriting arrives in the big black mailbox. Going down to Fidelity's cafeteria every possible day and making love to my 12-year-old laptop in front of everyone and not caring what anyone thinks. It's become what I do. But it's just what I do. I only have had one date with the creature I've courted all this time, if not physically then at least mentally.
I've begun a novel, and a whole new world is opening up. It's going to be very good, this novel, but a lot of work. Whereas in a week I can write the first and second drafts of a 4,000 word story, maybe draft 3 and 4 the next week, draft 5 and finish with 6 the next, one week of letting Janet, Fran and anyone else who asks read and critique, the book is going to be about 75,000 words. I've been at it for about three weeks and am a third of the way through (I think). But it's still just what I do. What I am is a computer consultant with a dashing wit and an overly-right-sided brain. If I can get myself out on the town one more time, then one more time again, as a writer, then maybe that's what I'll be. A writer. If something is what you do long enough, there comes a time when it has to be what you are, or you stop doing it. See? I can't see myself not doing it. It feels like I've rolled over the edge of a large, wonderful hill and there aren't any breaks. Or that I've walked into an auditorium in my underwear and everyone has turned to see me. No sense in turning around at that point. Unless you're not wearing clean underwear. I could jump out of the car, run from the hall, but then there have been too many metaphors in this essay as it is. Time to stop typing.
...what? What does this have to do with dark paneling? Nothing. I just liked the title. Remind me someday, and I'll tell you about what inspired the name. It just has nothing to do with this essay. When I do write it, maybe I'll call it "Waiting On a Phone Call For a Night on the Town," or something like that.
November 1, 1998