Hi! welcome to the place where i get to state my views!*smile* this is where i get to give my opinions! Why?? because this is my page and my right to have an opinion!*smirk* Recently i was asked by a few P/people to give my viewpoint and definitions of the Lifestyle of D/s and of being a sub! *thoughtful look, taking a deep breath and letting it out slowly* Okay so here goes: First of all, i would like to state that there is a great misconception that the D/s lifestyle is about sex. Sex is but a small part of what this lifestyle is about! The lifestyle in and of itself is simply a power exchange where Two P/people form into different degrees of relationships and One takes on the Dominant role and one the submissive role. There are many varied levels and degrees to this lifestyle. In other words, just because O/one is in the lifestyle doesnt mean that T/they love pain or crave being tied to a rack and flogged, etc. There are three key words that this lifestyle strives to maintain and practice and these words are the guidelines and basis of what keeps the lifestyle a healthy way of life! These words are Safe, Sane and Consentual. Keeping within these guidlines keeps harm or injury from coming to the P/participants, be it emotional or physical harm. ~my role as a submissive~ The dictionary defines submission as follows: submission \Sub*mis"sion\, n. [L. submissio a letting down, lowering: cf. F. soumission.] 1. The act of submitting; the act of yielding to power or authority; surrender of the person and power to the control or government of another; obedience; compliance. in my role as a submissive i feel it is my job to make sure that the wishes of my Master (when i have One) are met and fulfilled, it is a natural yearning for me to be pleasing to Him and make Him happy. When i am collared i strive to achieve what it is that will bring Him happiness and in return this brings me happiness. The circle is complete and therefor when He is fulfilled, then i am too! W/we complete each O/others, needs, desires, wishes, etc. This completeness is what makes this lifestyle so rewarding and fulfilling. if i had to pinpoint a few charectaristics of a good sub, or what i feel makes a good sub i think that would have to be: 1)being willing to please, having a strong desire to please and serve 2)being proud of who and what you are! (this one took me a while to admit to and understand*L*)going r/t helped me out with being proud to be a sub 3)taking your time and selecting wisely.... find out tons about the Dom and get to know Them before jumping into Thier collar. (and folks, They will respect you for wanting to take it slow if They are any sort of a REAL Dom) 4)sticking to the safe, sane and consentual*smile* this is for your own safety 5)setting limits but being willing to bend a little on some of them.... knowing what you want and what is expected of you. 6)Honesty... this one should be at the top of the list! This is the number one most important aspect of any relationship and especially a D/s one! with Honesty comes trust and TRUST is so very very important in this lifestyle! if you cant trust your own Master, W/who can you trust?? 7)knowing your place... this is the one i have decided to elaborate on because i think so many overstep thier bounds or understep them, depending on what the case and who the sub may be..... being a sub does not make you a doormat, nor does it make you an expert on the lifestyle or any better or less then another sub who may not in your eyes be as "dedicated" as you are.*taking a deep breath* so very often lately i have seen subs being disrespectful to Dom/mes or even other subs for that matter!...*shaking my head* if you have a problem with S/someone ask to PM and take it there! one thing i was taught when i was trained was that a sub, no matter how hurt, or upset or angry they are should never ever show disrespect in public! NEVER! say whatever you please in PM or outside of the public eyes but to be disrespectful in public is a no no! i believe that as a sub i am to set an example for the others and the new ones, and even new Dom/mes that come into the room to see about making it thier home! come on P/people, how well does it look for a new Dom/mes or sub to walk in on a room full of arguing??? is this what W/we want P/people that visit to think of O/our room?? Remember: the first impression is the most influentual! on that note i will step off my soapbox and thank A/all who have taken the time to read my views and opinions and hope that perhaps it helps S/someone out! *soft smile* i am always willing to answer any questions ans help out in any way that i can to make the room a better place and the lifestyle a safer place to please dont hesitate to ask!*wink* *best Forrest Gump imitation* and that's all i have to say about that!*stepping down off my soapbox* my soapbox part 2 submissive rights and creed back to the dungeon alluringly@hotmail.com This page hosted by Get your own Free Home Page
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