A LARIUS: There are things called sur­vival bubbles. Have you heard of them?
They are the illusions you create while you are living in a survival system and those illusions are designed specifically to give you a sense that if you behave in a certain way, you can survive. If you don’t behave in that way, you won’t survive. Now, survival in a social and cultural context means that you do whatever you can to get acceptance and love, to avoid cetting hurt or cast out, or to manipulate your­self intoaposition of having value to whatever you identify as your primary group.
These survival bubbles are the major il­lusions that you have probably based a major portion of your existence on. They are funda­mental illusions that were functional to a degree in a survival system. But if we are wine to be leaving the concept of operating from a basis of fear, with survival being the prime directive, then we might want a differ­ent fundamental illusion at the base of our existence.
Are you all ready? The major theme— demon, you might say, that most of you have been wrestling with is the idea that in order to survive, you need to be submissive to the needs, hopes, and desires of other people. Youknow, that “peace atany price” stuff. The fascination there is that your relationships are the most important thing. If you can get your relationships to work, then your life will work. There is a total emphasis on relationships. Have you noticed that?

1ST PARTICIPANT: Very clearly. This morning I woke up seeing all my mother’s pic­tures of reality in me and I wasn’t seeing how I could step back.

ALARIUS: But the fact that you saw them as your mother’s pictures of reality was useful. I mean, Just the context of the words you are saying, “my mother’s pictures of reality in me” is different than identifying with them as yours and identifying with them as reality itself. That is a much more powerful way of positioning yourself in realtionship to that information that is flowing through you. You might go one step further and say, “These are
the pictures of reality that are very similar to millions of people’s on this planet that I am processing right now.

1ST PARTICIPANT: It feels better.

ALARIUS: Yes, put it into a larger context. Submissiveness patterns, desperately wanting your relationships to work patterns. peace at any price patterns, will be ones that will be easily processed through you because you have the pathways cut. The nick fcr you is to not identify them as reality and to not identify them as yours and to not identify wtih them. That’s the tricky part. You are designed to do that work because you have lived that as your reality/illusion.

1ST PARTICIPANT: I’ve been working on it and trying to surrender to my spirit because I know I have that submission...

ALARIUS: But you’ve been trying to be sub­missive to the needs and wants of your spirit in order to have peace at any price with your spirit, so you’re relating to it in the same way. That’s different than being overwhelmed by the magnificence of your spirit and, as a result of that, delighted in serving it in any possible way that you could. You’re still a frightened, submissive being trying to do the right things to have o’.’ervthin~ come out O.K. for everyone
if you are trying to follow your spirit by sub­mitting to it. You see, it propagates that whole illusion. It says, “Yes, this is reality. This is ui.ie. This is how one does it.” So now’ you are trying to survive in relationship to your spirit. Your survival mechanism is to submit to the needs of others while they go about the busi­ness of makine sure all their hope.s and dreams come true. ‘When everybody else is happy, I’ll be safe’.

1ST PARTICIPANT: How do we use that for the planet?

ALARIUS: Oh, we have to shatter the illu­sion first. But one of the ways you are using that for the planet is you are now processing the energies in consciousness for thousands maybe even millions of people on this plane who are not conscious enough to process it foi themselves. So they wake up tomorrow a littk less submissive, a little less frightened that L they don’t submit to other people in relation ships, maybe it wont be the end of the world
[pointing at a particular participant]
Do you seek out relationships?

2ND PARTICIPANT: I would say that unti verv recently, quite the opposite.

ALARIIiS: Yes, and why would you no want to be in relationships?

2ND PARTICIPANT: I thought there was no value to it. That’s recently been disproved.

ALARIUS: Because in a relationship you thought you would have to be submissive to the other person’s needs, but you decided it was better to ride the danger of not surviving than to submit. You would rather be an out­cast. You would rather be someone who did nothave arelationship atall, because you have that same message which is if you are to be in a relationship, you are to submit to the other person’s needs. This means you must make sure they are happy and you said, “Screw them—screw relationships, screw everything. Because the only way I can be truly happy and fulfilled is to pursue my own hopes, dreams, and aspirations”.
So, where one person with that same illu­mon might desperately seek relationships and continuously manipulate themselves and oth­ers to make their relations work out perfectly, you would shun them. You would see how manipulative you would have to be; how wimpy you would have to be; how sumissive \ you would have to be. You would say, “I cannot do it. I would rather not have love. I would rather not have relationships that way”. That is another relationship and positioning to the same illusion. Sitting here are polar oppo­sites.

2ND PARTICIPANT: I’ve taken her posi­tion recently.

1ST PARTICIPANT: And I’ve taken that one.

ALARIUS: You’re now traveling back and forth on the spectrum.

2ND PARTICIPANT: Trying to figure it out and none of it has worked.

ALARIUS: That’s because you’re trying to figure it out within something that is funda­mentally a lie. Neither one will work. See, the Universe rearranges itself to accommodate yourpicture of reality. But there are also these things called universal principles. The univer­sal principles are the fundamental energies upon which this Universe continues to exist. That means things that are aligned and accu­rate in relationship to universal principles will naturally, organically build, grow, have a foundation underneath them and be things that you can live with functionally and effec­tively. The idea that you must be submissive to other people’s needs in order to have love in your life or in order to have a relationship in your life, is not fundamentally true or a part of the foundation of this Universe. it is accurate to some degree in a manipulative, fear-based,
survival society, but it is not accurate in rela­tionship to the way the entire Universe works as a whole. Therefore, anything that is not fun­damentally aligned to the Universe will con­tinually fall apart.
Every time you try to build a relationship on the lie that you must submit to the other per­son’s needs, the relationship falls apart. Every time you try to create a love on that lie, the love falls apart. Everything you try to build on that lie falls apart. You cannot have anything stable, solid, building, and growing organi­cally. The reason that Extraterrestrial Earth Mission flourishes, builds, and just grows naturally and organically is because it’s com­pletely based on universal principles. To a large extent, it’s operating in a way that’s 180 degrees opposite from the way that most things are done in the world. What is Earth Mission’s primary motivation?

PARTICIPANT: Co-creation.

ALARIUS: Yes, and that anyone who comes in contact with Earth Mission to any degree, for any length of time, will go away a little bit more effective at following their spirit.
Now, what is the most powerful relation­ship? If we were going to create a new illusion that was aligned with universal principles for all of you, what would that new illusion be? The new illusion would be that no one has any control over relationships. No one can, should, or will have any control over relation­ships. Relationships are a part of the Divine Mystery. Who you are with, why you are with them, what will happen when you are together, and how long you are to be together is up to your spirits and you have no control over your spirits.
Now, imagine if that was the fundamental base for you in this area. Imagine if you oper­
ated from that illusion. No longer w~uld there be a need to submit to other people’s iieeds. No longer would there be a need to shop relation­ships. There would just be, “Well, here’s a re­lationship. Won’t it be interesting to discover as the mystery unfolds what it is to be? And won’t it be wonderful that it is what it is? And won’t itbe wonderful when it’s overand we go on with what’s next?” Because there will also be no attachment. There will just be continu­ous, mysterious relationship.
So, here we are shattering the illusion for millions of people on the planet that says that in order to be in a relationship you must ma­nipulate or be manipulated. In enlightened re­lationships that looks like win-win. Have you ever heard of win-win relationships? All we perceive win-win relationships to be is, “Let me know what you need; I’ll let you know what I need and let’s manipulate ourselves to a place where we both get what we need, so we can feel good about manipulating each other. So we can feel good about denying our spirits in favor of this relationship. So we can make the relationship the most important thing. More important than following our spirits. More important than knowing our own truth. More important than anything.”
Relationship is a continuous and constant thing. In the world of form, it’s always there. It’s always changing. It’s never the same. It is a mystery as to why it is. it is a mystery as to what it is. The worst thing that is supported by the manipulative illusion is the idea that one can or should have control over people one is in relationship with. And that they should have control over you. That’s a lie. That’s not love. That’s not relationship. That’s fear and desperation. And it doesn’t work. Anything that you try to build on that lie will fall apart.

Transcribed rrom a tour-day event In Sedona